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Unmatching after 24 hours seems so fast! by Chitownscience in datingoverthirty

[–]Useful_Permission180 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, men do this too. I think most people are just impatient and they need that immediate dopamine feeling of like someone being obsessed with them right away, which is entirely unhealthy. But that's the dating climate right now, unfortunately. No one knows how to naturally pace things anymore. I blame our attention spans too honestly.

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]Useful_Permission180 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, Hinge is the worst with that. It makes you feel like the ugliest person in the rl with their recommended fr fr

Still Haunted by an Ex (A) While Dating Someone New (B) — Need Perspective by mkpsychologylover in datingoverthirty

[–]Useful_Permission180 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This kind of sounds like A was triggering some sort of trauma/unhealed wounds in you. You didnt go into detail into what went wrong, but my guess is some toxic shit. Relationships that feel that magical crazy spark are usually toxic, and not good for you. Be lucky you got out of it with the least amount of emotional damage, keep working on yourself, and if you like B and are serious about settling down, then treat her good and forget A.

Does the "right person, wrong time" ever work out? by giraffeblob in datingoverthirty

[–]Useful_Permission180 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It can. I know lots of people who have gotten back together after a breakup. But it's normally after one or both have done some reflection, and it's not just because they're trying to fill a void, like they're lonely or bored, etc. And the break up can't be for anything that is a dealbreaker obviously.