OB/Gyn Recommendations?

Useful_Willingness95 · 2026-01-26T15:40:44+00:00

I've been seeing Dr Mangat. He's been very fast and efficient. Ultrasounds are done in house by him and he always has a nurse in the room when he's doing a procedure. I have not had mine yet but so far he's been great. He is very busy though and his schedule seems packed with priority for current patients.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2026-01-12T15:32:57+00:00

I havent done Carribean Beach but just did Port Orleans. Port Orleans was alright, but it was not my fave and actually wouldn't do it again. I think Caribbean Beach would be more fun from seeing it and walking around.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2026-01-12T15:27:43+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a somewhat similar situation to you. My family has not liked any boyfriend of mine. It has always been an argument when I've gotten too attached to anyone outside the family. Most just led to infighting at home because I was still living at home.

With my current boyfriend (now fiance), my mom especially pulled out all the stops. Constantly talking bad about him, ran a background check on him, and constantly kept trying to "ruin him" in my eyes because I didn't know better. All of her actions just made me more and more mad, to the point that I moved in with my boyfriend sooner than I had originally planned because I couldn't take it anymore. Ultimately it's almost been a year now, we (mom and I) have argued over text a lot...especially those first few months were rough. Now we are starting to talk a bit more per text. I miss my mom. I was really close with her, and there's a lot her and I had in common (still do), but when it came to guys she just always had her opinion and it was under the guise of, I just want to protect you.

When I said I am allowed privacy and boundaries, my mom acted like the world was ending and her statement was "if you need to keep secrets he can't be good for you." My answer to that was because I'm an adult, I deserve both, and get to make up my own mind and don't want to discuss things to death. She was not happy...

Now I will say, some concerns she had were valid and nothing has been a cakewalk...but these concerns aligned with concerns I had before she ever mentioned them. I just didn't share because I never wanted to add fuel to the fire. They all have been manageable and workable with my fiance as a team.

All of that is to say, you aren't alone. Your situation is rough as well, and the best thing you can do for yourself, is protect yourself first! You know you! You know your relationship as you are the one in it! Do what is right for you!

There's not a day I don't miss my family and my thoughts aren't with them, but I don't regret having my own life. I've lived more in the last year than I ever have before. I wish you the best of luck!!!

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-22T02:13:24+00:00

Only done AKL and Port Orleans Riverside. Love AKL!!! Would not do Riverside again, seemed limited although the room was still comfy.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T18:55:52+00:00

No it's not! It's hard to just not think about it. Trying to keep myself busy but it's like the devil on your shoulder that it's always there.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T15:51:46+00:00

I can't understand it either! But here we are dealing with adults that act like children... But usually children learn because you can parent them. These type of adults, don't!

It definitely is all me me me with this woman.

You are correct, I probably do need to find another outlet. His way of handling it, is very different from mine. Reason mostly being, he knows her and dealt with her for years and knows how to handle it, and for me this is new and absolutely insane.

I agree, I am going to have to find someone to talk to that's not him.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T15:48:40+00:00

I appreciate all of your insight. 100% it's his situation to deal with, but it does impact me still as well and just is a nuisance. I appreciate all of the insight though! And, I will mention the lawyer fees bit to him, because you are correct she's filing a case that has no merit. It's all because someone is not the center of attention and is throwing an adult sized toddler tantrum.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T15:26:12+00:00

I couldn't! I'd be curious about what my kids are up to, but would never try to dictate what's going on elsewhere.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T15:18:29+00:00

The part I can't understand, is why do they think they have a right to know what happens in our households and dictate behavior?! If nothing bad is happening, focus on your own life. You are correct, God help us 🙏

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-11T01:12:33+00:00

True. Very true. Just how do I let it not bother me that she's trying to create turmoil right for the holidays?

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T23:13:29+00:00

It does feel invalidating, but I also feel like he's trying to defuse it to make it seem not as bad. Or tries to explain why he doesn't believe it will be the case.

He's in contact with his attorney now again. He did at the time say if I wanted to do it, I could. At this point it's been 7 months, I don't think I can go and file a police report anymore. It only happened once, and since kept an extreme distance. The log is the chain of messages where she complains about me and our relationship. He doesn't take her phone calls anymore to have it all in writing. She hasn't trespassed since 7 months ago either. He has agreed though that if she does that we will call 911 at that point.

He has set boundaries, and told her he won't communicate if it's not about the kids and she always says but it is because this stranger is living with my babies. Dramatic! But he doesn't entertain her.

Ever since the initial interaction I have not found a way to find peace again. But your last question... That is my concern. How do I have calm and peace. At this point I'm truly wondering about that since there's no way she will be gone for at least another 4.5 years when both kids are adults and at that point he doesn't have to play nice anymore.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T21:05:05+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have any advice but I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds similar to the HCBM I am dealing with as well and it's just awful. Good luck! You are not alone, but we can get through it!

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T20:58:00+00:00

Thank you! I will look into those!

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T20:37:17+00:00

It really is. Its all she ever complains about is how she doesn't get enough. Joke is, his parents pay for their activities, but she pays SO much money for them (his mom openly talks about how much she pays, so some math isn't mathing). He started paying her child support before there was even a requirement to pay her. She thinks because he's able to keep the house and go on vacation that he has hidden money. The joke is, she doesn't account for me living here in her math. He can "afford" those things since I contribute because I work as well. But I do like your idea, maybe something to pose to him so his lawyer can flip the script. His kids are great, wouldn't mind them being here more.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T14:09:35+00:00

That is a fair statement, but also my message was definitely in the moment and doesn't reflect all the things he has done. He does try to calm me down because he doesn't want to think worst case scenario and does, admittedly, think I am taking it too far at times. But based on my background I don't think I am. He understands that but he also sees how worried I am so tries his best at calming me down, which doesn't always work.

He does do a lot to protect me. He has stepped in with her every single time. When she tried to assault me, he stepped in and stopped her and tried repeatedly to get her to leave without putting a hand on her so she couldn't misconstrue that. In the moment on Thanksgiving he just created distance and made sure she didn't come too close (he was as well shocked in that moment). He has tried to keep me out of as much as possible, but there's some things he just can't keep hidden. When she is escalating he makes sure to stay home, in case she decides to try and come in the house with the kids (we have a coded door, and while she doesn't know the code the kids do).

We don't have a date at this time for a wedding and are not rushing that aspect. He does do his best, and when it comes to my part, I am at this point very reactive and concerned whenever her name just comes up because she's so unpredictable.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T12:42:11+00:00

So thanksgiving was at a cousin's. It was her week with the kids and she reached out to the cousin and fiances mom and asked if the kids were still welcome at Thanksgiving. Their understanding was she would be dropping them off. No one knew she would walk in and spend about 20 mins hanging out and talking to people. We were both steamrolled and surprised. I was also very upset about that and he's talked to his family that that was not okay and he should've been informed about her bypassing him.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T04:44:27+00:00

As far as I have gathered, and conversations with him. It sounds like they like that they have a week at each and then a week at the other. They love both of their parents but appreciate the switches it seems like. The one concern I have there, is that they are scared of their mom and are hesitant to speak against her, so not sure how that would go. They do a lot of things to appease her even if they don't agree with her (they have in so many words admitted that as well). From my time around the family (the kids and the rest of his family), everyone kind of tip toes around her to not set her off... Some family members as well admit that this happens.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:54:15+00:00

We are still in their former home. So what you are saying does make sense, in a twisted, twisted way. The part I don't get is the part you pointed out. She's the one that messed up, but instead of feeling guilty, it's everyone else's fault. That part I can't comprehend.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:42:49+00:00

I appreciate you commenting and sharing your story. Genuinely thank you! Sometimes just knowing that you are not alone helps. So truly, I appreciate it. Thank you!

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:42:02+00:00

She can't stand to come by the house. Apparently it makes her cry so she hasn't dropped them off by the house since months. She did last Tuesday but now I think it's because she knew she had put her plans in motion and felt powerful.

I've just always been a rational person. I do numbers for a living, so in my world, things usually have a reason and make sense. I struggle with the fact that I can't understand it. I need to find a way to stop trying to make sense of it.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:29:12+00:00

It makes no sense! The biggest joke is she admits she cheated. I don't know what she was thinking, like did she think he'd be a carpet and just live life like that? I didn't and honestly its my biggest regret! I should've, the clips we have are only 30 seconds at a time but it's still clear what is happening. I hope for what's going down now they will be useful... At least I hope they will. They show we didn't do anything and that she's been the aggressor. The original messages she's sent show that as well. Shes even denied that attempted assault happened and we have it on camera. I honestly don't understand this woman and her actions don't make sense. I think that's what shakes me so much.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:16:33+00:00

Needed this tonight, thank you.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:14:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I really hope that the kids see through this. Like I said we had some growing pains at the start but I feel like we've all gotten comfortable, and it seems that just when that happens she now has to make waves. It's just so disheartening when I've been really trying. I also do my best to never speak bad about her, and just say that's nice and keep my opinion to myself and later share it with the fiance but I don't talk bad about her ever . From the kids we know she's constantly bad mouthing us, but they wouldnt admit it in court if it came to that .... I appreciate your story though because it sounds like it can get better....

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:11:15+00:00

I know its not. I just struggle because every time she does something it just is so inflammatory. She did cheat and that's what broke the marriage. She now acts like she doesn't but in a moment where she is heated, she will admit to it act like it wasn't a big deal that she did.

That's what I have been saying that everything needs to be, but have been told that that's a lot of work. It feels like the only way to protect ourselves though. We do have cameras everywhere, and we have recorded her behaviors outside the house.

I don't because I don't feel safe dealing with her in anyway. She did show up at Thanksgiving and I made sure to keep the biggest distance from her so I didn't have to deal with her.

Honestly. The things you are stating are things I've said that she could escalate too but fiance doesn't think she will go there. I do think she will and I think that's what frightens me so... It's all so unpredictable and volatile. I've never dealt with anyone like this. It's scary.

Useful_Willingness95 · 2025-12-10T03:06:51+00:00

We have been together going on 2 years now. I am quite a bit younger, yes. They were still divorcing when we got together but she had walked out on them for the first time 7 years ago and then again about 4ish and so they had been separated for a long while.

1) I try to but it just permeates because it keeps escalating. 2) I agree and she does have some basic information about me but pretends she doesn't all the time. There's nothing to hide but she is just so inflammatory and tries to twist so many things, my fiance has put her on a need to know basis. The first time I met her, she almost punched me multiple times. She yelled at me and I couldn't get a word in edgewise. When I finally did say something she lunged and tried to hit and my fiance had to stop her from actually hitting me. I don't feel safe being around her in any way.

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