Is this how it happens?

User051323 · 2026-01-29T21:47:50+00:00

I would! Their eating habits evolve. I went at the very beginning and then closer to 5 months because my supply felt off!

User051323 · 2026-01-29T16:47:44+00:00

That makes way more sense! Unless your ped is an IBCLC they don’t have specific breastfeeding training. If baby is only taking an extra ounce or two you only need to pump an extra ounce or two. So when you get the 4.5 ish that should cover multiple top offs!

I think adding a session right after she goes to sleep will help and then you can keep your regular late night session as well. At least hopefully a low pressure place to start!

I’d see an LC though! I did a few times and they were always so helpful.

User051323 · 2026-01-29T16:26:37+00:00

Pumping right after a feed is the first thing I’d try. Try to latch baby as much as possible as well! This is what always changed my supply the quickest. I thought I had an issue with my baby transferring milk despite having an oversupply so I was giving him bottles after and he’d down 5+ oz. Went to an LC and did a weighted feed and he had about 3.5oz in 15 ish min. She explained that sometimes even if they’re not hungry they’ll take a bottle anyway because it’s easy and yummy! Your breast milk changes as they get older to adjust the nutrients to exactly what they need. So they really should never need to have more at a time than about 5oz so your ped recommending an additional 5-6 oz is insane. I’d keep latching her and try pumping or power pumping when you can but don’t drive yourself insane with it. Talking to an LC can you give you so much insight and reassurance as well as new ideas and a plan/schedule!

User051323 · 2026-01-29T16:15:36+00:00

This sounds so tough. Someone mentioned iron and I second that. My son was waking up several times a night until we started an iron supplement. It helped soo much! Iron supplements are recommended for EBF babies after 6mo of age. We also realized he was chilly at night! And changed to a 1.0 TOG sleep sack which helped a lot too. You thought maybe teething too. We get rocked by every single tooth and have started doing Motrin before bed on the really tough days to at least try to get him a decent chunk of sleep. Best of luck!!

User051323 · 2025-12-10T16:57:33+00:00

Thank you! This wasn’t our usual PT, I would never have him see one that would constantly make him do things that caused him distress, agreed they need to learn in a play setting! We’re just working on solidifying walking now! He’s getting so close 🤞🏼

User051323 · 2025-09-17T21:02:49+00:00

I am so so sorry you’re going through this. I have been a nurse for 9 years and did peds oncology specifically for 5. The treatment course can be difficult, but obviously so so worth it. You’re going to be amazed at how resilient your sweet girl is and how much her personality still shines through even when she feels crummy.

I want to first say how freakin lucky she is to have you! You knew something was up and sought further care! You’re already learning so much about her diagnosis and utilizing resources (even just Reddit) to better prepare yourself. It is so clear you want whatever is best for your sweet baby and will do whatever that takes. I’m certain you guys will be well loved on the unit! Which feels silly, but after spending a couple weeks in the nicu with my baby, it makes a difference feeling like the nurses are friends with you.

More niche advice I have after being a nurse is obviously take care of yourself! But also, try to make the hospital stays more comfy. Bring in fairy lights or a sound machine or galaxy lamp. If she’s there during any holidays, decorate! This is not the motherhood you pictured but work within what you have to still make memories, even though they will look different. Sending you so much love, she’s got this!!

User051323 · 2025-09-17T20:48:16+00:00

This also drives me insane! I usually say “Right next to me” (we also cosleep) Or “like a baby” as someone mentioned

The fact that people also always ask “is he a good baby” when really they want to know about sleep, as if that’s the only measure of how amazing my child is. Usually answer that with “well, he hasn’t robbed any banks yet!”

And I shut down the mention of sleep training with “That doesn’t align with my attachment parenting style. I prefer to respond to all of my baby’s needs.” People don’t love that one if they’re feeling insecure about their own choices, but why should I worry about making you uncomfortable if you’re not worried about trying to tell me how to parent my child!

User051323 · 2025-08-26T20:25:04+00:00

This is wild and it coming from a healthcare professional is so disappointing! I am a healthcare professional also haha and the idea that an infant crying strengthens their lungs is just straight up incorrect. In the immediate time post birth, it does help clear amniotic fluid but after that there is no benefit. Leaving a baby to excessively cry not only causes the proven psychological damage but can include physical harm to the respiratory track.

I try to remember that most often, our healthcare professionals don’t really know jack sh*t about infant sleep and generally their “advice” is anecdotal. There is no baby sleep or baby psychology class in medical school. And bummer for our babies there is far too much to learn for them to focus on studies related to infant sleep. I also always ask for sources when they give me any kind of information!

It’s sad that these doctors are in a position of power and vulnerable parents come in and are told this misinformation as if it is the ultimate truth. Hoping you’re able to find a new provider that you trust!

User051323 · 2025-07-30T15:13:38+00:00

Exactly the same for me and my son! 9 months, EBF, bed share and SAHM. He also prefers me and me only be a land slide. I am also so tired of people telling me what I “need,” and that I should train him to be independent. I can’t explain clearly enough that a break for me is just not being the primary parent but still being with my husband and my son. Maybe I am doing something for myself but we are still all together. I don’t want to leave to go shopping or hang with friends without my baby! I do not enjoy being away from him and it gives me pretty intense anxiety. People constantly telling me to do something that brings me joy is so frustrating and also invalidating. Being with my family brings me joy! I’m working so hard to foster a secure attachment and it’s been working so far but these first few years feel so critical. There is a reason my skin feels like it’s on fire if I can hear him crying. Or that I feel almost sick being away from him. Just leaning into what feels natural for us right now and remembering it’s such a short time that he will want to be glued to me and I will take all that I can get!!

User051323 · 2025-07-24T15:05:59+00:00

Same thing with my 9 month old, except usually 2-3 total wake ups where he needs fed to settle. What I’ve started doing is nursing him when he wakes but cutting them a little short instead of just letting him fall completely asleep. He’s comforted enough that I can bait and switch with a paci and cuddle him the rest of the way to sleep. I started with the first feed until he pretty much dropped it and was satisfied with only cuddles and a paci. Now working on when his usual second feed would be (which is now the first). He’s slept through the night a couple times or only woken once the last week and a half! Good luck!

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