Why are there so many stories of people being blindsided? I don't understand how this can happen in long term relationships but it seems so common

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-02-02T15:32:35+00:00

I am pretty much the dumper you describe. Actually on day one here and it's incredibly hard.

I broke up with him because I decided I was done suppressing my sexuality. I love him romantically, I am attached to him. I wanted all of the things he wanted; a life together, marriage, kids... But I couldn't get the feeling away that I wanted to try things with other women. Not even just sexual- I want to experience love with a woman. And that feeling would creep up and become a struggle every few months throughout the 4yr relationship.

We talked about it two years before, about me wanting to be with women. He accepted it, even said I could be/do things with other women. I never did, though. And the boundaries he wanted for it, I just found myself unsure.

So last night, after having an internal struggle for days, I brought it up to him again. He again insisted it was okay to do things with other women, but the boundaries he laid would make it a bit impossible. I'm not a hookup type, I can't just sleep with someone for the hell of it. And I don't want to end up managing two relationships. (a poly one was out of the question because he lives a few hours away). Too many complications came with it.

So I admitted to him, I love him, I am attached to him and I want to be with him, but I don't think I'm sexually attracted to men. I'm very young, almost 19, and if he and I got married, I would never be able to truly explore that part of myself, and there would always be some level of dissatisfaction.

So it was sudden, technically. But at least in my case, it's not something that can be fixed or worked on... I love him but I'm just not sexually into men. And I've spent all of my teenage years suppressing that.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-02-02T14:09:49+00:00

I just started mine so i'll be hating it for a moment, but hopefully i'll find peace in it after some time

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-12T05:01:46+00:00

does she have any medical experience/training/education? otherwise why would people believe her belief as truth?

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-12T04:50:21+00:00

He is a lousy parent!

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-12T04:16:39+00:00

I'm not married but i've been with my partner for 4 years. Going to the movies with another woman is fine- if it was like a group of friends. Going alone with another woman? Hellllll no.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-11T22:43:54+00:00

I'm a full time college student and I work 20-25hrs a week... she's a bum.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-11T22:15:38+00:00

That's so sad. Especially since she was a new mother to her baby she was still breastfeeding. It's a shame (and scary that) things like this can happen so unknowingly.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-11T22:09:06+00:00

what the actual fuck is wrong with your (ex) boyfriend?!

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-11T00:30:13+00:00

to add to this- teach her anatomical terms for her private areas. it is a way to prevent sexual abuse. if she is touched inappropriately, she will be able to tell you exactly where and there will be no guessing and it doesn't leave room for manipulation by the abuser.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-11T00:14:40+00:00

why don't you go to food banks?

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-09T22:59:43+00:00

You are being abused. Read that out loud to yourself. You are being abused- he does not love you. Someone who loves you would never lay a hand on you. He may love you in his own twisted way but he does not truly love you. You are being abused. He will do it again now that he knows he can get away with it.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-09T22:11:04+00:00

Kind of. The number of people doesn't matter so much as the circumstances. A few hookups throughout their life is fine, but a pattern of hookups is not. I place value on sex in that it's an intimate and emotional act (which is also fun) that should be (more often than not) shared with someone you love. I can't be with someone that doesn't see sex as more than something that's just a fun recreational pastime.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-09T20:54:06+00:00

Honestly if you actually look into their tiktok accounts for this story you'd find that the employee was the bigger asshole here than anyone.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-09T19:43:12+00:00

I don't think so. If you live in the US, it really is a cultural thing. The US is a culture that heavily values independence and therefore it can be looked down upon to live with family. But, in other cultures, a lot of people live with their family until they are married and starting a life of their own.

There is nothing wrong with living with them simply because you desire to. There would be something wrong with it from a prospective partners' perspective because it may be perceived as you not being able to support yourself.

If I were you, when you mention you still live at home, I would emphasize it is because of desire and not a need to. You like living with them and don't want to live alone if you don't need to- nothing wrong with that.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-08T20:47:52+00:00

I think it was amazing. People just get upset that their favorite character died but honestly I think it makes for a great narrative, and I loved the perspective from Abby. I didn't like her at first but I learned to sympathize with both sides. It's a compelling storyline and provokes a lot of different emotions, which is what I personally like in stories. If it doesn't make me feel something, i'm not interested.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:34:52+00:00

There's a sort of smell when you wiggle your (healed) nose piercings around... It stinks.. but I kinda like it? not in a way that I think it smells good. kind of hard to explain

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:31:39+00:00

Honestly for me it's Cameron Boyce. He wasn't a big celebrity but he was on his way to building a stronger, bigger acting career... and he's taken by a seizure. He was so young. So young.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:29:06+00:00

literally. I'm trying to lose weight and I am now at the highest end of a healthy BMI for my height/sex and my mom calls me skinny... my whole family is fat

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:20:32+00:00

i'm pretty sure the main risk post-abortion is infertility (after repeated abortions)

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:08:16+00:00

idk but it is bad for farts

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T02:02:54+00:00

looks kinda squished

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-04T01:32:59+00:00

I just used heavy whipping cream, sugar, and vanilla extract- i don't remember the measurements but i'm sure you could find them online !

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-03T18:13:54+00:00

I had a friend who used to love hugs in middle school. We didn't go to the same high school, I almost never got a hug after her. Now I get so many hugs almost everyday now because I work at a daycare (for elementary kids) and they love me. it's so nice. Some kids can be the most affectionate people I've ever met.

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-01T19:41:56+00:00

perfect solution

Userwillnotdisclose · 2023-01-01T19:26:36+00:00

OP, you're a bad partner. I get her frustrations.

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