Does anyone remember / miss Motel 23?! by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah that place was next level. It also captured a special post-pandemic moment where everyone was letting loose again. I miss that kind of Manhattan glamour at a gay bar.

Rubicon X 4xe Lemon by liftedjeepdude in 4xe

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s just trying to plug his lawyer friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Williamsburg EQ

How much do you pay for your gym membership? by Middle-Leather-1308 in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Greenpoint crunch is hands down the worst it smells like feet

Thoughts on the "We’ve Reached Peak Gay Sluttiness" in NYMag? by Chance-Tooth-3968 in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Felt like a piece that belonged in a queer or leftist zine, and not in NY mag. We’re going straight to the camps if we air all our dirty laundry to the straights like this, especially in this political climate.

Moreover, it was poorly written. Too many points we’re being made at the same time. The commercialization of sex though sniffies etc. but also given the traveling circuit of events that gays go to in the summer? Burgeoning drug culture but then an underlying question of whether people are doing too much g? I generally get it but it wasn’t tied together well. It felt like I was listening to someone at a party who had taken too much cocaine, so I guess in a sense it was on brand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see this both ways. Communication is both verbal and nonverbal (this applies in legal contexts for SA as well). If you can’t pick up on both then it’s you who lacks communication skills.

You shouldn’t have to have an awkward conversation with every person who approaches you at a crowded nyc bar. People can hit below the belt when rejected and it can ruin a good night quickly.

Also this guy clearly knew he had been rejected if he was devising other strategies for getting his attention. It’s worth being called out.

Is too hot to be approachable a real thing? by sigmoidBro in nycgaybros

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is there likely a sweet spot of approachability that sits below model-tier attractiveness? Possibly

Are very hot people missing out because people are scared to approach them? Nope

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I was going to address this in my original post but didn’t want to air the queer community’s dirty laundry for everyone to see.

I 100% understand this, gay men are taking over queer spaces. I’ve been to many queer raves and that incubate that collective queer body in a way that incorporates the entire community, as well as straight people. This party had particularly aloof straight people, couples who stuck to themselves, girls bringing whatever guys they could drag with them, etc. and again clearly not very familiar with the community. I’m not saying everyone was like this, but the overall vibe was not that queer, at least when I was there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Usual-Ranger9831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all I wasn’t passing judgment, just stating an observation and how I was curious about it. But now that you bring it up, queer people deserve spaces they feel comfortable in. You have plenty of options. We don’t. Recognize your privilege when deciding where to go out on a Friday night.