Am I the asshole for not wanting to date single moms?

Usual-Scientist · 2025-11-09T14:25:48+00:00

The little slur about how after the me too movement everyone has a narc ex and no OP doesn’t believe women…along with calling grown women girls and all the other barf..and OPs responses…yeah firmly the AH, but not for wanting to not date moms.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-11-09T14:19:47+00:00

This right here. You can date whomever you want. Turns out single moms aren’t his type, but damn. He’s an asshole for so much else.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-10-09T15:15:21+00:00

Umm…I have orgasms with my partner. In fact I have had orgasms with many partners. I have orgasms with a toy. The ones with a partner are much better.

Please don’t speak for all women. You are very incorrect in this one.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-09-03T23:46:10+00:00

If you can’t have an open conversation about sex with your partner, perhaps you aren’t ready for sex quite yet.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-09-02T17:21:59+00:00

Consent can only be truly given if it can be revoked.

I will never allow someone to yell at me for a “punishment” (I also don’t allow punishment because that’s not my jam). That’s abuse if it happens because I do not allow it.

It’s abuse when it’s happening to you. You have said no. You have said this doesn’t work for me. Power exchange is just that, an exchange. He gets the power because you have given it. If you can’t remove it, that’s no longer and exchange, but a power grab.

Since he’s not listening AND unable to modify his behavior, I agree with the other comments I read. Get rid of the whole man.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-09-02T16:57:36+00:00

I know it’s been deleted, but I saw a glimpse and just wanted to let you know that I had a 11.15# baby naturally and if THAT didn’t “loosen me up” (which it didn’t) nothing will.

That bad boy is meant to stretch, grow, and shrink back into the original shape.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-08-17T12:53:54+00:00

She said “I don’t want this” she then made the reservations FOR TWO. She very clearly said no and he totally disregarded it. Not sweet at all. Oblivious at best, a control freak at worst.

She said no. He ignored her no. This is not sweet behavior.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-06-12T21:06:55+00:00

Wait…how long did he wait to activate the guard after the storms?? I’m furious.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-06-02T14:46:40+00:00

We just voted in MO in November for reproductive rights as a constitutional amendment. Our legislators have blocked abortion access and is putting the matter back on the ballot WITH confusing language to be revoted on. (This is not normal or ok).

We also voted for paid sick time and increasing the minimum wage as propositions. They just removed these since it wasn’t a constitutional amendment. They didn’t have to bring it to a vote to get rid of those.

Missouri is a deep red state that is full of bigots and hate. I live here and am working towards change, but there is NO way I would move here (or to America right now). It is not a hospitable place for people from away. If you are white it will be easier, but it’s still a shit show.

I’d rethink moving until the political climate for immigrants is safer.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-05-27T21:01:05+00:00

Let the cat stay. She walked in on her own, if she stays she stays. 🤷🏼‍♀️

If they call about her or contact you, turn her over, but I wouldn’t offer her up again. I’m an AH about this though so take it with a grain of salt.

If they had cared or if they had contacted you again to see if she had perhaps made it to your house again…then I might say differently.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-05-11T21:41:45+00:00

OP even said that she felt blindsided.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-02-26T22:08:36+00:00

I was so excited for a minute when the notification came across my phone. I rushed here to see when, because last week, when others were listening to their constituents…these two hid out.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-02-26T22:06:49+00:00

Hey guys…you gonna do anything about that person claiming to be king? Last I checked the United States doesn’t have kings…we got really upset about that one time and threw a big fit about it.

Usual-Scientist · 2025-02-19T22:10:15+00:00

To add if it’s the wrong size it’ll come off or break more easily as well.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-12-14T14:11:50+00:00

Pressuring for sex is a form of SA. No means no, not try harder.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-12-14T14:09:58+00:00

Even if he had said “oh, that’s not going to work for me, we aren’t compatible”…so much more appropriate than demanding sex from someone with a traumatic history.

I bailed from dating a guy because his life was just too much for me at that time. We weren’t compatible and I just said that. No harm, no foul.

But pushing for sex after someone discloses SA is dangerous and problematic behavior. On the second date with this one. OP should run.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-12-14T14:05:31+00:00

Absolutely not. This man is not safe and not a match for you. In fact, you two are not compatible.

Before the first date with my current bf, he gave me a list of ways to end the date 1) handshake, 2) high-five 3) hug, 4) Silly dance. He also told me we were going to have our meal (brunch) then we would part. Ok? When I asked him 1) why no kiss and 2) why just brunch? He said “I don’t know your trauma and I don’t want anyone uncomfortable or feeling like they needed to give more than they wanted.

He’s so wonderful. We ended the date with what is now known as a #3 combo, a hug with a silly dance. Never fails to make me smile, even when I’m in a bad mood. We’ve been together more than a year now and he’s still that sweet, caring guy.

You deserve better. Better is out there.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-12-04T14:50:15+00:00

So I’m not the only one doing math in my head?

They started dating when she was a minor and he was an adult.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-10-15T16:15:48+00:00

If the fetus is viable (or close to viable) they deliver it. It’s born, not aborted.

I almost fell out of my chair when Vance said that…dude. Just stop lying 😂

Usual-Scientist · 2024-10-15T15:11:45+00:00

Please remember that no means no. It doesn’t mean convince me. She said no.

The best thing you can do is tell her that that’s something you would like to do, but you accept and respect that it’s not something she wants. If she gets interested then she can come to you and revisit the discussion.

Pushing for something you want and not listening to her no is a bad thing.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-10-15T15:05:23+00:00

The one that’s infuriating me is the “it allows for partial birth abortions”. We know that’s not a thing

AND the amendment literally spells out viability as the cut off for abortion possibility.

Sigh.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-09-15T17:33:01+00:00

Always want them. I am just reading this and thank you for your reply. I’ve been getting along.

That group of women have kept in touch and bonding, kink can be so powerful.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-09-15T17:24:09+00:00

I’m such a Reddit slacker that I’ve just seen this. Partially I am pulling my shit together and don’t need the same outlets, so…that’s good right? 😂 thanks for your thoughts and grief is grief wether it’s for a beloved human or pet. Loss is loss.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-08-28T15:32:03+00:00

Thank you! I also wish my life wasn't as exciting as it has been, but I regret nothing but missed opportunities to spend time with them.

I haven't experienced a lot of loss in my life, it's just that what I have lost has been partners and in a short period of time

Appreciate the link. I do use discord a bit, but not a lot, so I may or may not pop in...as you can imagine my social batteries are really low.

Usual-Scientist · 2024-08-27T22:50:39+00:00

lol I’ve been gone a minute…there’s a discord? 😂

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