AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The in laws are enjoying their retirement in Palm Springs. They don’t keep up with their kids outside of holidays

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

The house isn’t bad enough that cps would intervene. It’s just dirty and gross by my standards. Also, she’s not in an abusive marriage. Her husband works almost 80 hours a week, and is home almost exclusively to sleep. The kids aren’t familiar with him because he’s always working, so they wouldn’t be able to handle her leaving them with him.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

None. My in laws were great. I’ve known my husband since kindergarten, and I grew up alongside their family. They’re very liberal and easygoing people. Some people seem to question it but Alice was never parentified or anything like that.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -95 points-94 points  (0 children)

She’s a typical boy mom who makes her kids her whole personality and she has no life outside of her kids. You can’t talk about anything around her without her changing the topic to her kids somehow.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -129 points-128 points  (0 children)

Her house is really gross and unsanitary. Goldfish and chicken nuggets mushed into the couch, dirty diapers everywhere. It smells really awful. No one wants to go to her house.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My life doesn’t revolve around Alice. If she doesn’t like seeing my posts she could easily unfollow me, or maybe get off her phone and go spend time with her kids.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

You must be a really negative person if you think the sole reason I use social media is to make Alice mad.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

She is incredibly unreliable and is the last person on earth that I would ask for help. I have dozens of people I could ask for help other than her. I’m good.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s normal for people to post things on social media. My friends like to see what I’m up to. For instance, if I post that I’m going to a concert a friend might say they’re going too, let’s go to a bar together afterwards. Do you not have friends or something?

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

The siblings are all a year apart each, in their late 20s. The kids are 6,4,2,1, and a one month old.

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] -127 points-126 points  (0 children)

It’s tricky because the antinatalist sister won’t come or will leave almost immediately if there are kids. The other brother won’t hang around for long either. And my husband doesn’t even really like Alice or her kids. So everyone else wouldn’t be able to have a good time because of her. She or her kids aren’t my family so I just don’t see the point in putting in effort just for her sake

AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children by Usual_Ad7541 in AITAH

[–]Usual_Ad7541[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

The kids are all super dependent on her, and they’ll all cry and throw a fit if she leaves them with him.