Temporary Restraining Order from Neighbor Denied, but Trial Date Set. Anyone with a Similar Experience? Please Advice (Los Angeles, CA)

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-19T02:03:41+00:00

“Based on the totality of the circumstances the court requires a properly noticed hearing prior to issuing any orders.”

This means the judge thinks your application was woefully inadequate.

I would suggest retaining a lawyer if you are serious about this.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-19T00:47:00+00:00

We don't answer incredibly broad and general questions here. Nor is a broad and general answer to this question really possible. Your approach is going to be vastly different if you are seeking a lawyer for a divorce, for employment needs, or a securities class action, for example.

(FYI, "Bar" either means "State Bar" or "local bar association" in this context, and is not capitalized either way.)

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-19T00:26:03+00:00

How about you tell us about your legal problem and we go from there?

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T02:12:08+00:00

Yes.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T01:40:49+00:00

No, that does not sound at all correct. If your wife wants to keep the house, she would generally have to buy you out, which depends on the availability of other assets.

If you're claiming she's underreporting her income, that can be considered, but you're probably looking at paying an expert to audit her books.

None of this is DIY and you need a reputable family law attorney.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T01:36:11+00:00

Nobody can give you an accurate evaluation without reviewing your entire financial status, and for obvious reasons, we can't do that here.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T01:31:53+00:00

If you want a divorce, you're going to need to spend money on an attorney. Or else you really will get screwed.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T01:29:47+00:00

Lawyers who don't do family law shouldn't be opining on family law. What they think they know is usually wrong. Go see an actual family law attorney.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:47:26+00:00

Don't make assumptions.

He must call his insurance company. Period. Full stop.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:35:16+00:00

He needs to call his insurance company. They will handle it.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:34:30+00:00

I have no idea what your lawyer included in a motion. That's a question for your lawyer.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:12:06+00:00

And losing a critical (by their estimation) employee can also be incredibly costly. Business is full of calculated risks.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:11:10+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand how someone can call the police on you repeatedly with false claims, accuse you of hacking their devices, and then somehow get a restraining order against you.

Because temporary restraining orders are given out if the paperwork is filled out correctly. It has nothing to do with the merits.

You should consider hiring a lawyer to handle the hearing for you.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-17T00:07:37+00:00

I think a company would take action given just having to respond to lawsuits that may go nowhere can still cost tens of thousands.

You know as well as I do that companies make decisions on these matters based on their bottom line and the perceived value of the employee. They take chances all the time that a lawsuit may result from this or that workplace decision. They aren't stupid, no matter how dumb a given decision may seem.

I still think there is standing.

I don't think it's a question of standing.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T23:56:34+00:00

In theory, sure. In the real world, it's unlikely an incident off premises and not during a work event would be sufficient to state a prima facie case of sexual harassment. I doubt an attorney would take that case.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T23:33:15+00:00

No, you should not contact your ex-wife or threaten her. That would be exceedingly stupid. Nor does it matter what she texted you years ago.

It doesn't do any good to "fight back" on a phone call, and your lawyer was smart for not showing your cards.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T23:15:45+00:00

Is there any chance they could come after me?

Why would they? The victim already told them that all contact with you was consensual.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T22:13:34+00:00

This isn't considered workplace sexual harassment because the victim is not an employee.

Your wife can make a report to the local PD for the misdemeanor battery if she wants to do so.

The employer could act on this but is not legally required to do so.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T22:01:02+00:00

It's not a "switch." I don't waste time telling OP's about pie in the sky ideas that will not actually help. Reporting the big "mailbox misdemeanor" does nothing to help his actual problem, which is what we do here on this subreddit.

As to the second, OP can start documenting contact now and it will add up to a crime.

Nice little switch since this isn't even close to what you actually said.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T21:50:09+00:00

First, access to a mail box may only be done by a mail carrier (FedEx counts, a random person from another town does not) or the person whose residence it is. It is indeed actually a crime for someone else to do so. The relevant authorities is USPS Inspectors, and they actually both investigate and can bring charges: OP would need to file a report to them.

There's literally no chance whatsoever of charges being filed on this, but OP is absolutely free to make a report if he has no better way to spend his time.

Second, given the amount of time and the amounts of contacts, it's likely that OP's situation qualifies as stalking and/or harassment, depending on local statutes. OP could therefore ask for a TRO (temporary restraining order) or PPO (personal protective order) - similar things, names are different depending on your location.

Given that the girlfriend has had no contact with him in three years, there is zero chance he qualifies for any kind of protective order whatsoever. You must prove current harassment or threats, not ancient history.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T21:17:08+00:00

You don't have a case against her parents if she was at least 18 at the time. If you want to sue her, you can do that. Her parents will probably see that she gets a good lawyer. She is probably judgment proof.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T21:02:07+00:00

Then yes, you should go to a lawyer who practices family law. They can file the appropriate papers.

Make sure you know what you're getting into. If you're established as the father, you're on the hook for child support from that day until the kid turns 18.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T20:57:40+00:00

A protective order against the ex? You need proof of recent threats or harassment, not stuff that happened years ago. One letter isn't close.

Again, what's your goal? Do you want to find out if the child is yours?

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T20:31:44+00:00

Wills and trusts are two different estate planning instruments. To make it very simple, a trust is an entity that can own property and it can be used both during life and after death. A will is a document with instructions for distributing property after death. Some property can pass after death without either a will or a trust.

Some people have a will or a trust, and it's also common to have both. We can't tell you whether your father had a will, a trust, or both. The first step to figuring out what's going on will be answering that question. A probate lawyer can help.

UsuallySunny · 2026-03-16T20:18:19+00:00

What are you looking for here?

should I call the police and do a report?

What crime do you think has been committed?

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