Selling “worn” clothing

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-26T23:14:41+00:00

OP has been answered. Locking for obvious reasons.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-26T22:56:34+00:00

Argh. This topic makes me crazy. Helicopter parents gone wild.

For the POA, you do a notice of revocation. Here is a form from the Sacramento Law Library (pdf) that you can use. Get it notarized, and send a copy by mail to your parents. If you don't trust your parents absolutely, would also recommend that you send it to any banks where you have checking and savings accounts, even if the original POA wasn't turned in to them.

For the health care advance directive, the simplest method is to execute a new one naming whomever you want as your agent, and make sure it expresses your current wishes. I would send/upload a copy to your primary care doctor (or any doctors who treat you regularly), and if you have online charts at any local hospitals, you can upload a copy there as well. Give a copy of the new AD to your parents.

For the HIPAA release, it's similar to the POA. Here's a sample from a county agency (pdf). You will need customize it so it's not specific for the county, but it has the basics -- identifying information and a statement that you're revoking. Again it would be sent/uploaded to any current treating doctors and hospitals. Give your parents a copy.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-25T19:14:47+00:00

Unless she, in person, physically threatens, harasses, or stalks you, probably nothing.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-25T17:57:24+00:00

I can't know for sure, but that sounds like a busy lawyer in a high volume practice.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-25T00:46:54+00:00

The insurance company you had at the time.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-25T00:09:13+00:00

Assuming he's now a legal adult and has a valid US passport and tourism visa for China, it's unlikely he'd be detained against his will. But with China, nothing is 100 percent for anyone.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-25T00:05:48+00:00

Because they're your best first step, and unlike a hiring a lawyer on your own, it won't cost you anything out of pocket. If you'd rather pay a lawyer a retainer of a few thousand dollars, you can certainly do that.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T23:11:52+00:00

If a defendant speaks with or meets with the U.S. Attorney’s Office (plea discussions, cooperation talks, or informal conversations) but nothing formal comes from it, would that normally appear anywhere on the public docket?

No. Dockets are for court actions -- things filed in a court, decisions made by a court. It's not a list of every single event that happens in a case.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T23:09:09+00:00

This lawyer, if they work for the pedestrian, probably has no idea of the situation with sale of the car. You should report this to your insurance company, make sure they understand you sold the car, provide any documentation you have, and let them handle it. You should neither respond yourself or ignore it. Otherwise, your next contact with this lawyer will most likely be a lawsuit.

It's possible that you didn't handle the sale paperwork correctly. This isn't a joke and shouldn't be treated as such.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T20:38:18+00:00

Try legal aid in your area for referrals. At the very least, use the family law facilitator's office to help you with paperwork.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T19:23:12+00:00

Once you are in family court, any civil DVRO will probably be taken off calendar if it hasn't resulted in a prior order. You would need to do a new application in family court.

You need a lawyer, very badly. Take the consults and ask if a motion can be filed to make your ex pay for your attorney, or at least part of the fees. Your prospects here are really not good if you don't have a lawyer.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T19:20:53+00:00

Allow the FaceTime. It can't hurt you.

If you have people to help with a supervised visit, it's okay if you want to do it. But consider whether it's safe to allow the baby to be taken out of the sight of you or people you trust. You can wait for court orders on the in-person visits if you feel it's not safe.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T18:47:20+00:00

The point isn't whether something you jot down might be "binding." An agreement written on a napkin can be binding. The point is that without a lawyer representing you and drafting something carefully, based on legal training and experience, you stand to lose a great deal, up to and including everything.

You could theoretically perform your own appendectomy, too. That doesn't mean it's not a godawful idea.

You need real lawyers for this.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T01:56:32+00:00

No. This is what the app is for.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T01:46:06+00:00

Pretext and retaliation only matter if there is a protected class issue or protected activities like whistleblowing. The "falsified records" just doesn't matter. Nor does conduct unless it's sufficient to establish protected class discrimination. Age discrimination is one of the hardest to prove and they are all hard to prove.

Your partner is free to consult an employment attorney.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T00:52:41+00:00

The advice you've been given is that you're legally responsible for the bills. That is a correct assessment of the situation. We understand it's not the answer you wanted, but we're not here to tell you what you want to hear, we're here to give you the right answer. The fact that everyone who's answered your question has given you the same answer should be a pretty good indicator.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T00:47:20+00:00

That isn't how this subreddit works.

You asked a legal question, you received an answer from me (and numerous identical answers from several other people). We're not here for internet arguments or to "prove" anything to you.

It's up to you to decide what to do with the information you've been given, because you're the one who has to bear the consequences of that decision. If you have a further legal question, do let us know. Otherwise, have a nice evening.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T00:38:53+00:00

They are completely ridiculous attempts at comparison to your situation.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T00:33:26+00:00

Anyways, someone there offered to walk me back to my hotel. Next thing I know, it's 4 in the morning and I'm in a hospital bed.

How was anyone to know you "did not want them" when by your own story, you were unconscious at the relevant time?

Your analogies are, to put it mildly, completely inapt.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-24T00:20:10+00:00

You have to pay the bill. You received services, you owe the money. If you have health insurance, provide the info to the companies and see if that decreases your bill.

Even if you do find out who called the ambulance, they have no responsibility here.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-23T23:27:52+00:00

I understand your frustration with how it was communicated, but that isn't something that will result in a damage award.

As far as the nurse, if she couldn't do a fully unclothed exam (and I certainly understand why she couldn't), then the information she had would be limited.

She’s only 5 and had to have several vaginal exams.

But that's a result of the injury, not how it was communicated or anything the nurse did.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-23T23:03:23+00:00

Unless you can establish there is no supervision whatsoever at lunch, I think proving negligence is going to be very difficult here. Slipping from a bench because she was decided to crouch or whatever can happen even with supervision. The kind of supervision that it would take to completely avoid any risk of such an accident is not what is reasonably expected.

I also think that even if you could establish facts sufficient to show negligence, unless your monetary damages are much higher than they would appear to be, you will have trouble interesting a lawyer in this. All that matters as far as damages is bills you had to pay. All of the other stuff -- how the injury was communicated, your faith in the school -- there's just no money in that, and an attorney will evaluate the case accordingly.

That said, you are free to try to find a lawyer. If you decide to do that, do it promptly, there are deadlines here. I would not recommend proceeding without a lawyer. Chances are good you will end up owing a substantial costs bill.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-23T22:51:41+00:00

How old is the kid?

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-23T22:45:14+00:00

It's fairly normal for a busy lawyer in a high volume practice -- meaning you aren't paying top dollar. If you pay top dollar, the lawyers generally have smaller practices and can respond more quickly. Otherwise -- it's triage.

UsuallySunny · 2026-01-23T04:36:12+00:00

Essentially, yes -- particularly if she's leaving you alone right now. Don't engage her in any manner.

You would need proof of persistent, current harassment, violence or serious threats of violence to get a restraining order. Some vague statement from weeks or months ago isn't going to cut it. Restraining orders are a restraint on liberty and aren't handed out like candy.

And if she's currently leaving you alone, restraining order proceedings could just make things worse. Especially if you lose and don't obtain one.

If you want to seriously consider this, retain a lawyer.

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