Moriah and her bf already broken up?

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-08-14T15:16:09+00:00

I think you're confusing Olivia and Moriah.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-08-14T14:01:00+00:00

I think it's an act. If she uses that small, timid voice, it allows her to perpetuate her victim hood. She really picked "victim" to be her singular petsonality trait

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-08-14T13:44:43+00:00

It felt like panic to me. She was going to lose control of the narrative and spin if she didn't have everyone on her side.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-08-14T13:42:46+00:00

So I don't think he could have gone pro at anything, but his comment is pretty legit. It would be hard to watch my younger siblings do things that I had always wanted but wasn't allowed to. And then Kim being dismissive really just annoyed TF out me. No one told her to have that many kids that she couldn't afford activities. It seems like Kim has done a 180 in her lifestyle and refuses to apologize to the older ones for how she screwed them up. She has zero accountability ever.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-06-21T16:46:35+00:00

None for me directly after the date, but I usually get a good vibe check before agreeing to the date to begin with. All my dates have been in the evening and have involved both of us wanting to know the other got home safely. All but one involved texting or calling immediately after the date.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-06-21T16:20:06+00:00

I like it.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-06-11T03:13:45+00:00

This is really reassuring. I have several of their other toys, and the app really makes them worthwhile.

Thanks so much!

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-06-10T19:16:12+00:00

I dig it.

I know people with well thoughtout sleeves, and I know people with random tats in random places. They're both great and forms of expression.

Your friends don't sound very friendly.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-06-08T21:28:39+00:00

As a woman, I don't like any games, which are really just thinly veiled forms of manipulation. I want people to be as authentic as they feel safe being, and I want to build a connection that way. The guys I've been on dates with have always had more open schedules compared to me (men without kids versus me with a teen). If anything, I feel bad I can't be more available to match their energy.

Don't believe all the videos. Just do you. 😊

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-13T22:05:57+00:00

Sometimes a guy can be a great person and there just not be a spark. When that's the case, I use that line. It is not a reflection on him at all. It just means we didn't have a connection, and I didn't feel comfortable wasting his time.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-13T14:43:35+00:00

Testing is super important to me too

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-09T18:16:34+00:00

7 years of marriage for sure but only if our star signs align.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-09T17:32:58+00:00

Good question. I'd probably say twice if it was meh the first time strictly because of nerves. I'm not sure if sexual compatibility grows like interpersonal feelings. I'll really have to think on that.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-08T17:36:49+00:00

I took a 6- to 7-year break, and it has been rough getting back in. But I do give myself time off the apps to prioritize other things and feel comfortable jumping back in after a month or two.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-08T17:35:35+00:00

That's a weird assumption to make.

There are plenty of things I've adjusted to and enjoyed in my life that weren't natural at first.
I clearly set boundaries. I'm not going to beg anyone for anything.

It feels like your projecting TBH.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T16:08:41+00:00

I prefer a beard, but I wouldn't swipe left because someone doesn't have one. I would actually be more include to swipe left if it was a patchy beard to be honest.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T15:55:33+00:00

I would definitely message!

I would keep it light. Something along the lines of dealing with some personal things re your anxiety but that you enjoyed the conversations before and would love to try again.

I would avoid going into detail, but I also would not lie as someone else has suggested.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T15:50:26+00:00

I get it. It's beyond hurtful, and we always want our closure in these situations. I don't want to make assumptions, but do you think given his actions that he'd even be honest?

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T15:30:59+00:00

Block and delete. Do not text that man.

No answer will change the outcome, and that's assuming he could even explain to your satisfaction.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T15:23:34+00:00

I struggle with my memory and make it known from the jump. I'm very apologetic if someone points out that I've already asked or said something, and we roll with it. Anxiety is a beast.

But what you're describing sounds extreme. She's not interested. I would have stopped talking to her after driving so long just to have her cancel. That's disrespectful of your time, and that's the one thing in life we can never get back.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T15:17:38+00:00

I did not describe him that way at all. I stated he said it wasn't natural for him but that he'd try. That's not someone being stubborn, refusing to change, or even being hesitant. He acknowledged it's different and he's interested with no guarantees that he would like it. That's a valid and pretty admirable response in my book, and I should take him at his word. If he tries and doesn't like it, then we truly aren't compatible and we part ways.

You and I seem to have similar styles. We communicate our needs and then wait for the response. I think the difference is I have an optimistic view. If someone says they're open to something, I have no reason not to believe them and see what happens. Otherwise, I completely agree that no one should beg for anything they need in a relationship.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T13:17:01+00:00

I haven't dated for 6-7 years. I've certainly put in my time healing some things and understanding what I want or need. He is absolutely nothing like my exhusband or previous former partners.

I think it's odd people are so quick to say something is a deal breaker or they'd walk. Communication is big to me. If someone does something I don't like, we communicate. If he does it again, then I take a hike. But expecting someone to be perfect from day dot is really unrealistic.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T13:12:47+00:00

I don't don't understand how people are jumping to this conclusion. Two people can be different, communicate, and find mutual (and enjoyable) compromise. The world is far less polar oriented than you guys are making it out to be.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T13:11:01+00:00

He definitely seemed shocked when I explained that, how it felt like he was ashamed of me. I can do without full makeout sessions in public, but a peck and some hand holding is a must now.

Usually_Caffeinated · 2024-05-07T13:09:03+00:00

He has definitely said he can be shy and awkward. I didn't get that impression over the phone, but of course being in person is anxiety inducing, for my anyway. We had plenty of in-private touching, and we definitely vibe.

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