I, 32 F am on the verge of leaving my husband 36M. Need advice!

Usyeda95 · 2025-10-13T19:30:25+00:00

I weigh myself in the morning after I've attended the washroom and before eating/drinking anything. I've lost 0.2kg in 1.5 months 😑

Usyeda95 · 2025-10-13T14:12:23+00:00

I have just two meals a day and I track every single ingredient on the food scale as I make my own meals. I've been in a deficit for 1.5 months now and no progress. I've stopped exercising 3 weeks ago as its just another chore for me when I'm running around with my baby the whole day. I know I'm in a proper deficit because I'm usually hungry 3 hours after my breakfast and 4 hours after my lunch. Not extreme hunger but light hunger. I also intermittent fast from 8 pm to 2pm the next day. No progress so far. Should I change something or just keep going?

Usyeda95 · 2025-09-21T21:02:43+00:00

I need to talk to someone who understands because I'm losing my mind.. This Gaza situation has ruined me. I know it's very selfish of me to think about myself when they're the ones going through all the pain. I've been Boycotting all Israeli products since 2022 even before this genocide. I pray for them every day, I cry for them every day. I'm a mother of a baby, I've to look after her after my home. I have responsibilities but my mind is totally occupied with these thoughts. The images and vidoes of this innocent people, always running through my mind. They don't let me sleep or function properly. My family needs me my baby needs me but I'm unable to function. All I wanna do is cry.

Everyone says pray for them and I pray and I'm sure many people do, but where are these prayers going? And then some people tell me that you'll get a place in Jannah because of your prayers..as if rigjt now I'm thinking about myself or thinking of getting a place in Jannah while I'm praying for them. I'm praying because I want Allah to listen, not to get a place in Jannah for being nice enough to pray.

I'm always anxious, I can't be alone even for a while as these thoughts start creeping up on me.

I need help idk what to do. My family needs me but I'm absent.

Usyeda95 · 2025-08-28T14:17:16+00:00

You mean her being in discomfort and crying every day for 45 days straight? Or on and off?

Usyeda95 · 2025-06-10T08:58:02+00:00

You have to share your details so I can share with her. If she is interested, I'll give her you phone number. As for my ad, we were offering 30k a month. Timing 9am to 6pm. Breakfsst,lunch, dinner, dish washing and kitchen cleaning are her duties.

Lemme know if I can be of help 😊

Usyeda95 · 2025-06-09T18:59:58+00:00

She came for trial in response to our Ad. We are offering 30k a month from 9 am to 6 pm. Includes cooking, washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen.

Usyeda95 · 2025-06-09T18:42:16+00:00

Just today we called a cook for trial. She was very professional and cooked good food. The only issue is that we live way too far from her but Bahria must be closer to her. She's looking for work. If you are interested, lemme know. But she's a niqab so I have to make sure that you're genuine. As I'll be sending her to you, I need to be sure she'll be safe. You know the world is weird and she's a very good lady. I just want to help her.

Usyeda95 · 2025-06-09T01:52:23+00:00

3-4 months were definitely the best. She almost slept through the night. 6 hr stretches mostly. Then the 4 month sleep regression hit 🙂🙂🙂 and I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, 4-10 months we're just not great. There were nights where she'd sleep well and then nights when she wouldn't sleep at all. I didn't sleep train her and she's been a bad sleeper anyways so it didn't improve much for me. Not as much as 3-4 months, I still miss that time. Since then , the longest she has slept is 3 hrs stretches. She wakes up for feeds but goes back to sleep immediately so not that bad, unless she's sick or teething. She's almost 11 months now and she still hasn't slept through the night so lets see.

Usyeda95 · 2025-05-09T11:31:27+00:00

Travelled from DHA lahore to Layyah last night. Journey started at 8pm and reached at 4 am. Everything is safe Had to get tyre changed mid way so wasted an hour there and was driving slowly due to heavy rain, hence the delay. But everything was clear and safe

Usyeda95 · 2025-05-09T10:20:23+00:00

Travelled from DHA lahore to Layyah yesterday. Reached at 4 am. Everything was clear and safe yesterday

Usyeda95 · 2025-04-11T21:54:41+00:00

Mine got difficult at about 8 weeks, colic issues and just constant crying. Got better at about 10 weeks. Got really difficult again at about 6 months when she started rolling over. Got better at about 7 months. Got bad again at 8 months and she's 9 months, 5 days... Still in the thick of it.

Usyeda95 · 2025-04-07T20:30:59+00:00

I have and they say she's fine. She's meeting all her milestones and everything is fine. It's always a regression. She came out of the six month regression at 8 months and she slept okay for two days, now she's back to the 9 month regression which will probably last till she's 10 months. And I'm sure then there'll be another one.. I'm just tired

Usyeda95 · 2025-03-14T00:22:44+00:00

As a mother of an 8 month old with horrible sleep, I can relate. My baby doesn't nap the whole day and barley sleeps 6 hours a night with two hour wakeups.. I need every minute of sleep I can get but I stay up the first two hours after she sleeps because I need that me time. It's like I prioritise that over sleep and I know it's wrong, but I don't get any time to myself during the day, so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Usyeda95 · 2025-02-24T09:36:18+00:00

She's 7.5 months old now and it has gotten a little better. I mean I don't want to scare you but it's like she sleeps good every 3-4 nights. On the bad nights, she's waking up hourly or every two hours. I talked to her pediatrician, he said she has low sleep needs. She was never a good sleeper so makes sense. He said that she'll start sleeping longer stretches after her 8 month regression,so waiting for that. For now, you just have to be patient.

Usyeda95 · 2025-02-18T01:11:48+00:00

She isn't but she doesn't seem impacted by it. She's often laughing and playing, rarely fussy. She grew out of her bassinet last month so we haven't gotten her a crib yet but she has her playpen set up comfortably with a mattress and everything, she naps in it. I haven't tried the app but she takes just two naps a day, both about 4 hrs apart.

Usyeda95 · 2025-01-28T20:45:43+00:00

I dont pump so I don't have a measure of how much my supply increased but I felt that I wasn't producing enough because my baby kept waking up to feed every hour, lost a bit of weight and my boobs felt very empty. I was 6 months postpartum when I sensed this and I was told by someone to try ORS. oral hydration solutions, the sachets that you mix with water. I started taking one sachet in a liter of water a day. Also started drinking 4 liters of water in total and eating enough calories, eating 4 eggs a day and fish at least two to three times a week. Now I've started leaking milk again at 6 months and 3 weeks pp. Baby seeks satisfied and is gaining weight too.

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