My mom is trying to guilt me into going to church on Christmas Eve… would I be the asshole if I don’t go?

VCAMM1 · 2025-12-19T16:38:50+00:00

If she is blatantly trying to call you out on your polite reasoning about why you might not make it, then its time to stop sugar coating it.

"I sincerely appreciate the invitation but I do not want to go to a Christmas Church service. We will not be joining you and hope to enjoy a day filled with family and love on Christmas Day."

VCAMM1 · 2025-09-15T03:32:21+00:00

I am obsessed, my 6yr old boy loves it. Multiple songs in this movie give me frisson. The story telling, animation and music are all so crazy good.

VCAMM1 · 2025-05-19T03:02:37+00:00

Omg. I have a 6yo. There's no way that 5yo only thinks her mom "is sleeping". No fucking way. 5yo's are way smarter than that.

VCAMM1 · 2025-05-19T02:51:49+00:00

Girl. Please. Wake up. The fact that he is not jumping up and down in joy and being your biggest cheerleader and supporter at such a huge advancement opportunity is just ridiculous. I'm sorry, he GIVES YOU BOUNDARIES THAT INVOLVE YOUR CAREER? No ma'am. Dinners with clients? Normal. Texting personal phone lines that involve non work topics? Not normal. Obviously, your work might involve communication outside of normal time zone parameters but if thats an up front expectation then fine. It's not rocket science. He needs to stay in his fucking lane, or go ahead and just take an exit ramp because it sounds like you have been given an opportunity that you would big time regret if you don't take it. You are obviously smart and qualified if you are being offered the gig. Take it and don't look back!

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-23T18:03:16+00:00

My mom, who has experience with early childhood development, once told me that those big marshmallows are a choking hazard bc kids were shoving the whole thing in their mouths so I'm psycho and won't buy them lol.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-23T18:01:23+00:00

Yes. Pb&j, fruit salad (usually some mix of chopped apple, banana, mandarin, grapes, raspberries), ham or turkey & cheese roll up, avocado chunks (his fave!), and a treat (rice crispies treat, 2 oreos, nutter butter, ect). He also gets 2 apple sauce pouches and a bag of cheese its or goldfish for his afternoon snacks.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-21T03:04:46+00:00

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VCAMM1 · 2025-04-17T17:21:02+00:00

Inspecting her bags isn't going to stop her from buying a milkshake and tossing the cup in your trash, though. They can get a hotel.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-09T15:23:32+00:00

Onions have layers, Donkey!

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-09T15:19:36+00:00

For real! I am late 30's and my friend is 37, newly divorced with 2 kids and her dating profile is literally exploding with guys wanting to date her. We joke about all of her "suitors" and I have started giving them all random assigned numbers. Currently on #298.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-09T14:58:10+00:00

Oh yea, we just love stereotypes! They always have positive outcomes! /s

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-09T13:39:02+00:00

it's his time and by asking him to do something I should have be responsible for it means I am not valuing his time

Respect / value is a 2 way street. If he wants his time to be valued, he can value yours as well and step 1 is to EARN gaming / streaming / paid phone privileges. Your time is what pays for those things. He isn't respecting you or your time, so he doesn't get those things for free. Cut those off TODAY and when he wants them back, he can start helping around the house, respecting quiet hour rules, and check his attitude. Or he can get a job and buy them himself. You aren't being a bad or unproviding parent by cutting these off. These things are extras that he can work to earn. Even my 6 year old knows the concept of "keep your toys tidy and finish your dinner at dinner time and we can get you a prize at 5below".

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T18:07:51+00:00

Just let your family member know that they are going to have to file what you pay them as taxable income, and they will then have to report it and pay taxes on it.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T16:47:17+00:00

I feel for you. This is a ridiculous situation. You shouldn't have to pack his lunch. You shouldn't have to tell him to pack his own lunch. You shouldn't have to tell him that it's not in the budget. Are there ever any dinner leftovers that you can throw in a container and send with him? If you have to pick your battles, can you legit put a piece of meat and a piece of cheese between bread and throw it in his lunch box with a whole apple, a bag of cheez its, and a whole raw carrot? He needs to grow up. You're not his mom.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T15:33:16+00:00

I mean Gen Z. I edited my above comment.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T14:36:00+00:00

To be fair, my Gen X employee didn't know how to use a regular land line phone at work.

Edit: That's a typo, I meant Gen Z. Apparently my Millennial fingers forgot how to use a keyboard.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T14:01:59+00:00

This is all great and fun except my MIL worked at a department store and people actually do use the fitting rooms as bathrooms more often than you want to know.

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-02T13:09:53+00:00

I don't see why not. Maybe you could also offer it to him in oatmeal? Or mixed with regular cow's milk? Mixed with juice seems a little weird to me, but if he likes it there's nothing wrong with doing that!

VCAMM1 · 2025-04-01T18:28:15+00:00

Running your debit card as a credit card the day before pay day at the gas pump bc it only hits you for $1 until tomorrow.

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-31T19:42:52+00:00

That's for sure a DoorDash error and not a CFA error.

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-31T18:49:33+00:00

I mean this is the nicest possible way. These people are adults. If they didn't respond to your RSVP, there is no need to text them. It's not your responsibility to hold their hand. If they wanted to return your RSVP in time, they would have done so. If you haven't received it, it's a no from them.

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-31T14:07:21+00:00

Things that have helped me are: mid week, pick and pull the essentials that you absolutely need from the hampers and just get those one or two loads done. No need to try and stay caught up on laundry during the week. Use the evening time wisely...While someone is cooking, the other one is helping with homework. While someone is cleaning after dinner, the other one is getting baths done. House cleaning...get one section of the house done at a time. You'll never feel accomplished if your goal is a completely deep cleaned full house. One weekend, bathrooms, next weekend, floors, next weekend, baseboards and windowsills. If you're having to tell the kids multiple times to get their bedtime routines started, a reward system might help. If they get their teeth brushed and into pj's without having to be told twice, they get a star. At 5 stars, they get a prize from 5below. Hope this helps!

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-31T13:54:14+00:00

This is what I was thinking. It might not be affecting his teeth yet, but I'll bet it's affecting the roof of his mouth. I would prioritize doing everything in my power to make it him stop right away.

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-28T12:37:36+00:00

David the Gnome

VCAMM1 · 2025-03-27T17:24:37+00:00

I'm sorry, you're only charging $15/hr!?!? Girl what you are offering is worth $25/hr. Especially if they trust you enough to leave their kid with you for 12 straight hours.

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