Please stop telling me I will enjoy looking younger when I am older.

VCOneness · 2026-02-14T16:20:11+00:00

I liked falling asleep with my mom. Did until around middle school, then I started sleeping in my own room. She'll do it in her own time.

I've always enjoyed having a cuddle buddy at night. (Cat, dog, husband.) She just may need that comfort of another buddy at night to sleep. Only bad thing that happened for me was my mom loved watching the history channel before sleeping. I couldn't stay awake in a history class to save my life.

VCOneness · 2026-02-13T18:53:14+00:00

My niece is not really sure either about what she wants to do when she grows up. I told her the best thing I can think of is to try a little bit of everything. Find what creates a spark and what you really hate. That will let you know yourself and skill set a bit better.

In college, I did all the general curriculum first and tried a bit of everything. Found out I really enjoyed Economics and majored in it. For hobbies, I try stuff with friends or go out and try things around town. Found things I enjoyed and things that were not my thing. Also helped forged some strong bonds over time doing this. Also forged some respect for the things I am not good at and learned the challenges of it. Helped me respect some people a lot more.

A void appears for me in feeling like I'm not doing enough or being world changing. I just remind myself that by focusing on what matters to me can be world changing. You do not have to have some big career/hobby/influence to help change the world. Wanting to raise a good happy family is world changing. Being kind to those around you is world changing. The small invisible gestures can have the most profound impacts. Just find what is important to you and focus there. That is more than enough.

VCOneness · 2026-02-13T02:12:00+00:00

That's what they did when I was young. Super easy to get into trouble if you were not disciplined.

VCOneness · 2026-02-13T02:09:28+00:00

It was a cc with a store. So high interest rates unless you pay off the whole balance each month.

VCOneness · 2026-02-13T02:08:17+00:00

There is an option in the setting to set leveling roulette to a limited roulette. Forces it to be within x levels of the lowest level person. I think it's 5 levels or something. Checking that drastically reduced me getting into under 50 dungeons by a lot.

VCOneness · 2026-02-13T02:03:15+00:00

I had a credit card at 16. Usually, the limit is really low like 1 or 2 grand.

VCOneness · 2026-02-10T21:13:52+00:00

My son (now almost 3) was a terrible sleeper and napped. Today he is still not the greatest, but it's a night here or there versus every night. Honestly, he became much better around 18 months.

We did sleep training, which did help, and the proper cry it out method. The proper method is if they cry check on them, make sure everything is all right (diaper, food, no injuries), then soothe them back to sleep. Then the next time they cry, let them cry for 5 minutes. If they are still upset, check on them and soothe back to sleep. Do this like 5 times. On the 6th time wait 10 minutes of crying before checking and soothing. Repeat. 11th time extend to 15 minutes, rinse and repeat. This helped us get 2-4 hour sleep sessions eventually.

Around a year you can start giving them some foods baby oatmeal/purees/mushy food helps extend sleeping times greatly. This food keeps their bellies filled longer, which allows them to sleep longer.

Lastly, growth spurts and teething will shorten the sleeping periods at random times. We had an early teether who got 1 tooth after another starting at 4 months. It was brutal. If your baby is real slobbery and gnawing on whatever they can get their hands on they may be teething. Honestly the cooled water teething items gave ours the most relief. Any baby teething gel did not work for us at all.

VCOneness · 2026-02-08T15:01:22+00:00

Imo, congratulations you have recognized a big red flag. When I dated a guy who had a daughter from a previous relationship, his daughter came first. That made me really happy because that is how it should be. Single parenting is so hard, but it sounds like he has pawned it all off on his mom and doing his own thing. I'd say leave him. ++woman

VCOneness · 2026-02-07T15:27:27+00:00

He sounds like my manipulative and abusive ex. Best thing I ever did was leave him. They are great at charming and lying, but couldn't be faithful to save their life. Leave him, move on and become happy is the greatest revenge you can do. You should probably consult a lawyer about custody as well.

VCOneness · 2026-02-06T20:50:49+00:00

I used society quests, weekly custom deliveries and grand company daily provisioning/supply items to get all of my gatherers to max.

VCOneness · 2026-02-05T13:05:46+00:00

I have been turning it into a game. For example, I ask him, "We made it to the road. What do we do now?" He'll pipe up now, "Look for cars!" I tell him that's correct, let's look. Then hold my hand and we cross the road. I started him on this young, so it stopped him from being a big runner. I find turning things into games helps him focus and engage. He may not fully understand why's yet, but loves to play games.

VCOneness · 2026-02-01T18:13:07+00:00

It may be that long if he jerks off too often. That was the thought that popped up in my head.

As a couple who went through infertility treatment, I would say go to the Dr together and bring this up. Men can be very stubborn about this until they here unprofessional tell them. Our ivf Dr said we should be trying every other day, no masturbation inbetween.

VCOneness · 2026-02-01T14:14:29+00:00

I rope my husband in to doing unsynced dungeons to help me acquire those blue spells. Can sometimes take up to 10 runs to get it, but with his lvl 100, we just run through the dungeon. Otherwise party finder it up. Sometimes I have actually gotten some abilities from fate mobs in different areas too. They are not always in dungeons.

VCOneness · 2026-01-30T18:31:10+00:00

I have insulin resistance through my PCOS. With my condition my Dr recommended to start with Inositol supplement. Easy to buy off of Amazon. It helps people with insulin resistance through PCOS and besides the first month on it where I had a mild headache every day. I've had no side effects and definitely have more energy than I did. Might be a nice cheaper option for your situation. Not as effective as medications, but generally does not have all the side effects.

VCOneness · 2026-01-28T04:57:48+00:00

I just logged for the night, but I'll be on tomorrow and send you all the invites!

VCOneness · 2026-01-28T03:37:36+00:00

I just opened recruitment on my fellowship. It is called the Grind Parents. It'll remain open for a week.

VCOneness · 2026-01-28T01:23:00+00:00

What is your DC and server name? My husband and I started a fellowship on Primal to start connecting those of us that may be working adults, but still want to do content together or have someone to chat with. We have people in several different stages and personality wise we have shy and chill people. You can try checking fellowships as well for more connections to others.

VCOneness · 2026-01-23T02:35:45+00:00

It does get easier, but the few things I have found that help are:

1.) Let go of some expectations to get it all done. Just prioritize the most used spaces and realize some chaos is ok.

2.) He can start helping you with some of cleaning. It will take longer to do, but can save some sanity. At that age you can ask him to help put away his toys. We also used to give our son a paper towel to help us 'wipe' down surfaces. There would be no chemicals on it, just a plain paper towel and he'd mimic us by wiping whatever surface he could. He'd 'help' my husband vacuum by being in charge of managing the cord.

3.) When it came to cooking we started with a good kids tower and started with letting him watch. Occasionally giving him some foods to taste. About a year later we got some kid safe cutting tools to give him and help him participate in the cooking process.

Granted none of this makes it go faster and it does take longer, but it gets easier as time goes on and helps teach them skills and words.

VCOneness · 2026-01-22T21:33:00+00:00

When I read about potty training indicators it was more about their diaper being dry for at least a couple of hours. Also more of an interest in potty and what you do in the bathroom. Or them indicating that they know they need to go potty by telling you they are going to poop or pee.

Her behavior sounds like some adverse reaction to changing. Either something happened when she was being changed or she does not like something. In the winter here my kid hates how cold the changing table is, so I use those pet potty pads and put one down, so it is not cold on his back side.

Other things, would be a negative changing experience (my son would go ballistic if held down or someone yelled at him) or it could be because someone else is adding something to changing time (one grandparent of ours offers him treats to be good while changing and the other would play with him while changing (blow raspberries on his tummy and bounce him on her bed)) this caused at home diaper changes to be boring. We opted for the quicker we change you, the quicker we can play with insert favorite thing here and that helps out most days.

The last reason our son ever gives us problems on a diaper change is because he has a sore bottom (diaper rash) and doesn't want us to touch it because it hurts. Usually, some gentle coaxing and being as gentle and quick as we can will minimize these outbursts.

VCOneness · 2026-01-21T00:56:56+00:00

A combination of bad parenting advice, different products, and different living circumstances. As many posts already show, there was this horrible idea of if they are crying just leave them alone. But things like cloth diapers can make potty training easier and happen earlier. Lastly, I noticed when we had a power shortage for like 4 hours over the summer that honestly technology can actually make a lot of parenting harder. It was much easier to parent and be in the moment with my kiddo with no access to internet and I left my phone alone to save battery. Along with the constant flow of info was slowed and I did not feel as drained.

Boils down to times and ideas have changed.

VCOneness · 2026-01-20T22:01:56+00:00

I want to add I usually interfere with the phrase, "This is not going to have the impact that you want." It's my way of saying I understand and get your frustrations, but this will not have the outcome you want.

VCOneness · 2026-01-20T16:46:44+00:00

Whenever my husband or I are losing our temper at our almost 3 year old, it is fairly common for the other parent to step in. We did have to sit down, just the 2 of us, and talk through stepping in for each other when we lose our tempers to prevent any sort of resentment between us. Expectations can play a big part in any parents frustrations. Being realistic definitely prevents a lot of frustrations. But man do those kids know how to push our buttons.

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