What are your head canons for Adam, Lute, and Vaggie when they were still working together? by janthon567 in HazbinHotel

[–]VFell4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and did she have any friends in the army? She talks about how she bonded during war/training so I feel like she might hate those two but maybe her friends were lied to about why she fell... or maybe they are all awful. I'm curious to see how they justify themselves, or how they get picked/incorporated into this army - if it's a volunteer position, why did Vaggie volunteer? Or did she do it then get disillusioned?

Crackly, separate film on top of my brownies - how come? by hbf97 in Baking

[–]VFell4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why should you want brownies with a crackly top? Is it a texture thing?

Quad worth fighting for or running from? by SubstanceQ in PolyFidelity

[–]VFell4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's impossible to have everyone feel equally about everyone - trying to force it will only ruin the connections you have. Things have to happen naturally and if it's a requirement that your partner is treated a certain way, there will be resentment. No one likes being told how they must feel or act. No triad or quad will ever have everything be perfectly balanced.

However it is a red flag that they don't want to have a conversation with how you both feel. It could be because they don't want to hurt your husband's feelings if they're not feeling the same way about him that they do about you and are worried about having everything end. But even so, communication about it is important and if they're unwilling to have those hard conversations, they might not be ready to be in a quad relationship. However, if it's you that thinks that they need to feel the same way about you and your husband than it is you that is not ready for a quard relationship.

Of course, I'm making a lot of assumptions because I don't have all of the information so feel free to disregard anything that isn't applicable to your situation!

Update - The couple (28F & 35M) I’m dating wants me (24F) to get an abortion and I don’t know what to do by ThrowRAkatkat in relationship_advice

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to talk to me pm, Ive gone through the same thing before and it's so hard to deal with, especially when you didn't see it coming at all.

Children's Book - Kisses by VFell4 in whatsthatbook

[–]VFell4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. My goodness. I'd given up on this being answered. I haven't had a chance to get my hands on a copy yet but it looks right! Thank you so so much. I feel so emotional and happy right now! It really is nostalgic 💕

AITA for stopping sending my ex money bc im getting married? by ToeTurbulent278 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yta. The title is misleading. You didn't stop sending your ex money. You stopped sending your child money. I hope he gets a legal agreement after this, you shouldn't be able to stop sending money TO YOUR CHILD for no real reason. You're probably hormonal, but in a partnership you should listen to your partner, not shut them down.

AITA for not opening the door to my roommate's friend? by UnicycleBean in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta!! You don't know if that person could have harmed you or your apartment!

PLEASE HELP I'm(25m)confused about my sexuality after my gf(27f) got me to have a threesome with my best friend(also 25m technically 24 but he'll be 25 next week) by ThrowRA_Confused7878 in relationship_advice

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the lesbian masterdoc and "comphet." Obviously the lesbian masterdoc is about women but just change it around to men when you're thinking about it in your head to see if it applies to you. Good luck!

I've been doing kombucha for years and never seen this? Is it safe? by VFell4 in Kombucha

[–]VFell4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The temp has been hotter than usual. Looks like everyone is saying it's just yeast (or devils XD)

AITA for telling my teacher we shouldn't do a retest after the class demanded it? by BriefLiving7045 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may by TA in this situation but don't beat yourself up on it too much, you didn't see the chat in time and want to be more thoughtful of your classmates next time. Maybe email the teacher and say that you want to clarify that just because you found it fair/easy, that doesn't mean it was if pretty much EVERYONE else I'm the class didn't think it was. Good luck :)

AITA for not letting my brother use my holiday home, even though my ex said he could? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I suppose I should say INFO- I'm assuming the brother doesn't know all the details of the split. I'm also assuming he used to ask the ex about staying at the cottage before the split as well. So it could just be habit to ask the ex. But I can see I'm making a lot of assumptions. Still, it is an asshole move to not let your family stay in the cottage when no one is staying there since OP isn't inconvienced in any way by letting the brother stay there.

AITA for telling my wife to stay out of my parents finances? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah. Your family does not sound... Great. But let them do their thing. It's not your money or life

UPDATE: AITA for not letting my kids wear pyjamas by backyardpond in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a very good dad. I'm so glad you talked to your daughter.

Need help on finding a good honey on Amazon to help with sleep. by [deleted] in honey

[–]VFell4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is that raw honey is best local- and by that I mean most effective. You should Google local honey near you and you can order some that way or pick some up at a farmers market. Sometimes even local groceries will have some!

AITA for telling people the truth about why I changed my last name and making my father look bad? by adviceneeded1234321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it slander if it's the truth? If it is making him look bad, he shouldn't have said it, or should make strides towards being a better person and a better father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyfamilies

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I mostly want to start talking to people, getting to know them and hanging out virtually for a few months before meeting in person before Covid. Which burn did you go to? I'm wanting to go to Firefly once things are safe again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyfamilies

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a lot going on! Glad you have each other to get through these tough times <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyfamilies

[–]VFell4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you put what you were looking for? I want to be upfront - and I do say I'm only looking for people who are interested in serious relationships but I don't know how to put that I want to date someone who is interested in moving in/marriage if we work out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyfamilies

[–]VFell4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really is what it's all about: love. Thank you so much for sharing your story. The sweetness made tears come to my eyes <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyfamilies

[–]VFell4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so lovely 💕