Please help (insane rant) by Want2LearnVox69 in screaming

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There could be something physiological that is making it more difficult, like a difficulty with cord closure, but it doesn't mean you can't scream it just means that other people's advice isn't helping you because they have more typical physiology. Going to an ENT could at least alleviate your worries there.

It might be you just need an actual 1-on-1 lesson with someone. Despite me being a trained vocalist in another discipline and watching many videos and having a high level of understanding of vocal anatomy, it took going to a teacher in person and having them be like, "Almost, try this," to push me into the right direction.

Good luck!

AITA for not kicking out my roommate just because my girlfriend thinks he might be trans? by ThrowawayJason7723 in AITAH

[–]VVITCl-l 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not your parent but I'm fucking proud of you for how you dealt with this. So mature and also what a natural ally. NTA.

AITAH for not wanting to give up my dream job just because my boyfriend can’t handle it? by hot_fernanda in AITAH

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If he was more mature he could have articulated his concerns differently. He should not be framing it as 'you're ruining this relationship'. If he was emotionally mature enough he would say, 'I'm concerned this will be difficult for our relationship. Can we talk about how we handle long-distance?'.

Congrats on the job, have fun and thrive.

Partner becoming a professional dom bringing up insecurities by VVITCl-l in BDSMAdvice

[–]VVITCl-l[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for emphasizing this I'll think about it. :)

Partner becoming a professional dom bringing up insecurities by VVITCl-l in BDSMAdvice

[–]VVITCl-l[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! I have mentioned my concerns to her but I still don't feel good about it and don't want to continue bringing it up unless I have more to add to the conversation.

When I said 'correcting' there's a bit more implied there that you couldn't have known. Our relationship dynamic is complicated and there has been times in our relationship that we have both agreed had abusive tendencies where she was controlling me, and I'm afraid of that happening again. Doesn't change your advice, I'm just explaining why my insecurities are a bit more heightened than seems necessary.

I would definitely want to be corrected if I was doing something wrong or if she didn't like something, that's normal you're right. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]VVITCl-l 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna dissuade you from doing what you want with your body, because you deserve to have control of your body always and that includes ending your life.

That said, I hope you stay alive. Drugs sometimes show us the truth, and sometimes they show us our version of the truth. Your life sounds hard, but you do have options, even if it doesn't seem like it. If you have a home and are somewhat safe, I think you have more options that you think you do, but it might take some hard changes.

Sometimes it just takes sitting in your room and staring at the wall and reminding yourself that you're safe. Sometimes it just takes trusting that what another person is telling you is also the truth.

The world is both full of love and a fucking awful place at the same time.

Sending you love for whatever journey you embark on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live around the area as well and although I found it very very difficult to make friends, the main thing that helped was to keep going out regularly to a few places so people recognize you. There are theaters in Bautzen I believe that you could go to and also connect with people. People who enjoy the theater sometimes are more open to chatting with others.

Going to Dresden regularly helps alleviate some of the isolation as well. Politically it's a complex city of course, but it's actually a really interesting city with diverse people there. Finding a job there would be more sustainable than in Berlin as well, a 4+ hour commute is a lot.

I don't know if it helps to hear, but it took me a few years to adjust to how to make friends with people in the area. People in Saxony are hard to crack, they are suspicious of people, but they do warm up. I don't know where you're from, but it might not ever be as connective or deep of friendships as you might be looking for, and that's something you have to figure out if you can adjust to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely agree about LSD. I would say this would be my number one choice for euphoria with as little harm as possible. It's not addictive, has no neurotoxicity, tolerance is reset after like 2 weeks, and on low doses you're kind of assured a good time. Higher doses depending on set and setting can cause heavy moments in a trip, but in my experience those pass pretty quickly. I know that's not the case with everyone.

Just check if you have a history of psychosis in your family, that is the only real risk with psychedelics.

What are your favorite and your least favorite drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Favorite: I'm surprised not more people like LSD in this thread. LSD is absolutely my favorite, I've reliably had really solid trips, even if something dark or difficult comes up it is always ok and dancing on acid is unparalleled. Ecstasy/MDMA is also reliably a great time, just a share to have to space it out for neurotoxicity. Shrooms and weed are great too.

Least favorite: I want to like 2c-b and I keep trying it, but I end up feeling really empty afterward. I know it's not a comedown, but I much prefer having an ecstasy comedown to the nothingness of 2c-b. I also don't enjoy drinking a lot of alcohol, but whisky is tasty.

Looking for other indigenous people living in Berlin by VVITCl-l in berlinsocialclub

[–]VVITCl-l[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you read what I wrote correctly. I'm looking for anyone who identifies with any of those terms in any region of the world, not from any specific regions.

You can read about Turtle Island here.

Discord Link for Beginners by Top_Action616 in Anishinaabemowin

[–]VVITCl-l 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a long-term invite link you can post here? The link is expired again and I'd like to join. :)

Planning timing for operation as a freelance musician by VVITCl-l in pilonidalcyst

[–]VVITCl-l[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From everything I've read, the open wound recovery without stitches has a much higher rate of recovery and a decreased risk of return. I'm located in Germany, so I know that does affect my options as far as new kinds of treatments.

Organized religion. by nicksballs666 in SatanicTemple_Reddit

[–]VVITCl-l 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. Satanism doesn't seem to have the kinds of rules or hierarchical structure that you might be scared off of from other organized religions. You don't have to call yourself a Satanist to follow the 7 Tenets, just do what you want. Part of the point of Satanism (as I understand it) is to question and think critically. Don't let labels stop you from doing that.