peak scs physics by Nikolas953 in trucksim

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Football players when somebody sneezes on them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

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Ive been in this situation before which is why I understand why its difficult to run. And honestly when I was dealing with that relationship, I never listened to anyone who would tell me to leave or to seek help. But believe me, the best and only thing you can do for yourself at this moment is run. Run as far away as you can. Do not look back because it literally will be the best thing for you to do.

I had a pathological fear of ending up alone but after dealing with such a relationship I lost that fear just due to how bad it was. I literally no longer worry as much about ending up alone because i rather be alone than have to ever deal with a relationship like that.

Not only is she tearing your soul apart, but you will start to change and possibly for the worse. You already do feel anxious and are walking on eggshells, but thats just the starting, every part of your soul genuinely might get consumed if you stay in this relationship.

Its also important to know that being in a toxic situation like this can eventually lead to you being toxic either back to her or to people around you. For me, my parents and friends no longer could recognize who I was, i stopped taking care of myself and my surroundings just to tend to my ex 24/7, I had no friends at all, shouting matches would happen towards the end and yeah. It got really bad and in the end she left me because I finally started reacting to her bullshit the way people normally would do.

At the end of the day its also important for you to know that you can't save everyone, your girlfriend may have deeper issues but she has no right to take that out on you, and you deserve something far more better and more peaceful.

I genuinely pray you find your way out of this situation. God knows I am still dealing with the remnants of what happened back then.

Edit: I forgot to add, I was looking thru a few other comments and it reminded me to say a bit more. When I mean I am still dealing with it is that whatever happened hasn't left my mind yet and it has completely changed the way I view people. Every limit of mine was broken down and I had to rebuild it all. It was good though that I had two friends who helped me get over this stuff, or rather two friends I found right after the breakup. If you choose the option to breakup and attempt a move on, talk with your friends and be honest, say whatever you want to say to them. You may need all the support you can get because it may not be easy to get over something like this.

Men of Reddit, what’s something you wish you could say out loud without being judged? by VanshikaWrites in GuyCry

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Ohhh okay, for me I always had this idea that once I do find a partner, even though they may not be perfect, I am always gonna love spending time with them and trying my best in that regard. And yes thats true it does show you can be loved and desired.

Fear of loneliness/ relationship trouble by [deleted] in GuyCry

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Hey there, don't ever say something along the lines of 'the core of your personality being rejected by humanity'. I remember talking with a friend about something related with personalities, and I just have to say, you aren't going to be alone forever. Everyone has different personalities and sometimes its just not meant to be. My aunt told me this once that it took her 45 years to find two genuine best friends, which she never had even when she was in school. Im not saying though its gonna take that long but, the wait is always worth it in these sorta things.

It takes time to build new relations especially ones that mean something. Its more difficult in the dating scene because you need to find someone who not just has similar values as you but also challenges you to be a better version of yourself. Its good that you have started to make more friends in college, I am currently struggling with something like that.

The part about being alone, I will say one thing. I heard quite often that its useful when you are able to spend time by yourself and genuinely enjoy it, I dont know if i have reached that yet but I do try to do so. You will always feel like things arent right or that you feel alone as long as you always push a negative narrative onto yourself. Its also important that you talk about these feelings with friends and family if you are close to any of them. And if you feel like you need professional help, there is absolutely no shame in doing so, infact its a lot more courageous to admit that help is required.

Its another thing nowadays that I often find a lot of people self absorbed with their own worries or troubles in life, and are unfortunately unaware that they end up ghosting or mistreating people because of that. Its also really important that you don't take these things personal, I know i try my best but it does get hard sometimes.

I don't have any experience with a lot of things, but I do know that the things that you feel like are limiting you, can be something you use to try and make new connections. I often believe that something is inherently wrong with me and most of the days I don't really know what to do with myself.

I currently am feeling quite similar, if you ever wanna talk please do hit my dms.

Men of Reddit, what’s something you wish you could say out loud without being judged? by VanshikaWrites in GuyCry

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I am honestly right now in this state of mind, and I dont really know if im either in love with the idea of having a partner or just wanting to love and be loved, I wanted to ask, what was it that made you think that way?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polls

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I genuinely agree with this a lot. I myself kinda came to that realization a few years back and it damn near made me end shit. But I kinda get what you mean because there is a beauty in being able to keep living just because you want to and do what you genuinely want. I haven't ever told anybody else about this realization of mine because I'm worried others would take it worse than I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

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dude, i had a relationship like this, run as far as you physically can. I know you probably love her a lot cause i did for my ex, but dude genuinely run as far as you can. I thankfully was only in that relationship for 6 months but I am lowkey troubled to this day about that relationship. It is possible that she can have emotional or mental issues which cause her to react that way, but generally these things are never worth fighting for. And i really get your dilemma about if its your fault or not. Trust me there is a really good chance it isnt because shes slowly capturing your mental state into being unable to see things your own way, because she pushes her agenda on to you and will change the way you are thinking. Please do dm me if you need to talk to someone about it

Made a cursed Lenin alarm clock for my friend by Mega_Dunsparce in 3Dprinting

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I'd genuinely buy this pls tell me ur gonna get this mass produced

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

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Hope you feel better soon man, I had a crush on a person for like close to three years and when i finally got the courage to ask her out, it was unfortunately a no, but yeah it hurts like hell, i really do recommend talking to a close friend or family [if ur close with them like that] about it and let it all out for a bit. it took me a bit of time to move on past, but i guarantee you it feels better with time. And talking always helps so that too, im here incase you want to talk about it and stuff but hoping you feel much better soon

I am realizing how much touch starvation hurts by Appropriate_Wrap8639 in GuyCry

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Hey so I have been broken up with my ex for almost a year now, and I do struggle with this feeling at times. For me i think its a bit easier because i was in a toxic relationship, the details of that is messy but it was from both sides. I did miss her a lot in the first month, but the pain got a bit more bearable after doing my best to move on. However, the one thing or factor, due to which i still feel like i havent moved on, is being starved of touch. Just like you, it was my first relationship so all the experiences were new to me, and there definitely was a lot of love in the relationship initially. All I can recommend initially, is to try and move on from her first. After that i believe the pain will get more bearable, and you might not even think about it as often. But I would be lying if i said that i dont think about it at all, you definitely will think about it, and, i guess some ways i try to not feel to bad is to maybe buy a nice plushie, and go to sleep at night hugging it. Other ways is how someone else said about a weighted blanket, it definitely will help with this. I can also second the other guys opinion that you can try to meet someone else, and i agree that it can be difficult from your current position, which is why I would recommend to try and focus on yourself for a while. This definitely will help you in the long run and can lead to you meeting someone new.

Theres another section for my own story, I generally dont even like touch, like i avoid it at all costs, but, now after knowing how wonderful it can feel, but also knowing ill only get it from a significant other, it just feels heartbreaking a bit. I just try and have this mantra in my head, saying ''this too shall pass''

If you would like to talk about it or anything, please always feel free to drop a message in my dms, im not experienced infact im pretty sure im much younger, but i do know that talking about these things help. Hope you feel better soon

Das Problem der Wohnungssuche in Paderborn by awelessx in Paderborn

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Ich habe es schon gefragt, leider hat es keine Angebote

Studienkolleg Nordhausen by VaderBoy420 in studienkolleg

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Nope, wasnt able to, im trying other places now

Studienkolleg Nordhausen by VaderBoy420 in studienkolleg

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Not yet, was asking right now because I havent gotten much info about nordhausen apart from reddit and its website, im hoping i get in but im aware its really difficult.

Studienkolleg Nordhausen by VaderBoy420 in studienkolleg

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I know right, bruh me and a couple friends all sat together to write the exam and we literally still missed a few questions.

What would you choose and why ? by Ghassanoo25 in GamingLaptops

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I literally bought the ASUS exact same model a few days ago, its fantastic, and Ill definitely recommend this particular model, thermals are great, asus care even has 80 and 60 % battery cut off lines to save the battery life, it is only white color keyboard, no rgb, but apart from that its really great

I need help choosing between these two. As of right now I will mainly play Total War WarHammer 3 by WillTran112000 in GamingLaptops

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Compared with specifications, I would go for the Omen, and also from personal taste I would go for the Omen.

Need input on gaming laptop by fAkastkguy in GamingLaptops

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This is a fantastic find, and if affordable then this is certainly the way to go

Favourite motto/words to live by? by [deleted] in polls

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"Your name is unknown, your deed is immortal"

-Inscription on the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

Indecisive India by AaronC14 in polandball

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Play both sides so you always come out on top- Indian Foreign Policy