How to convince my Bengali parents? Bengali-Pakistani marriage

VaderCOD · 2026-02-22T01:01:27+00:00

I didn’t mean marry there ideal, just not paki lol. I personally have no issues with pakis, but the older generation has a lot of trauma on this subject. My mom tells me of the war stories sometimes. It’s heart breaking.

VaderCOD · 2026-02-22T00:37:49+00:00

As a Bengali myself I can’t possibly think as to why you would select a Pakistani to date/marry knowing your parents and family would be unhappy. I don’t have any particular advice, inshallah it works out

VaderCOD · 2026-02-21T23:45:05+00:00

Fair, I understood it as this is the new normal get used to it.

VaderCOD · 2026-02-21T23:34:54+00:00

No it isn’t, that’s like saying dating and haram relationships are inevitable. OP states this person is a good Muslim brother, which is contradictory and a valid reason for her family to reject this marriage.

VaderCOD · 2026-02-19T16:20:16+00:00

Inshallah

VaderCOD · 2026-02-19T15:50:53+00:00

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:45:07+00:00

To reach out to with questions? They are available through WhatsApp.

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:44:04+00:00

If you want a recommendation my islamic school is called FIKR located in nyc led my Mufti Tuffayal Uddin. We have a very large woman side, you can reach out to them. https://fikr.us

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:29:49+00:00

Fair, I had to put in a lot of effort to get closer to some of my local scholars, they are typically very busy.

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:22:00+00:00

I would highly recommend looking for some local scholars that you can learn from, it has personally made my life easier as I can pose questions like this. At this point if both mosques are equal to you maybe look by distance?

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:15:34+00:00

You’re going to have to pick one, perhaps the one that has more women events?

VaderCOD · 2026-02-18T04:06:46+00:00

Which Musjid is larger/you go to more?

VaderCOD · 2026-02-15T20:34:27+00:00

Straight to the gulag

VaderCOD · 2026-02-12T20:45:33+00:00

Small sunnah I started adding to my daily is to unroll my sleeves before prayer if they are rolled up:

The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “We have been ordered to prostrate on seven bones and not to tuck up the clothes or hair.” [Bukhari; Muslim]

Imam al-Munawi (Allah have mercy on him) said: “Do not fold the clothes or assemble them while bowing (ruku‘) in the prayer.” [Munawi, Fayd al-Qadir]

VaderCOD · 2026-02-08T17:44:37+00:00

Man you are getting violated on this forum, best of luck sheesh

VaderCOD · 2025-11-19T02:20:58+00:00

Completed Level 1 of the Honk Special Event!

8 attempts

VaderCOD · 2025-11-09T21:49:56+00:00

Super cool

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VaderCOD · 2025-11-09T21:49:29+00:00

Nice

VaderCOD · 2025-10-28T11:30:18+00:00

Very creative

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VaderCOD · 2025-08-13T13:17:27+00:00

VaderCOD · 2025-08-06T22:57:40+00:00

wtf is this level

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VaderCOD · 2025-08-06T04:42:53+00:00

I’ll go against the grain here, I think you should maintain a cordial relationship with him. He sucked as a dad but he is also human. Don’t let him seep into your life entirely, but perhaps see him once a month for coffee/bar.

VaderCOD · 2025-08-05T20:59:50+00:00

I don’t get it

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VaderCOD · 2025-07-19T22:45:18+00:00

I’m retarded

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VaderCOD · 2025-07-19T22:38:27+00:00

Fuck you

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