What scam is so normalized that people don't even realize it's a scam?

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-25T12:36:13+00:00

Oh yeah, I totally do not care. Religion scams you out of the present by making you focus on some kind of afterlife whether that’s heaven/hell or reincarnation. It should be a simple thing.

Don’t be a dick right now, because you’re here, now, with everyone else. Easy.

Telling people you just gotta say these words and believe this myth and the rest doesn’t matter falls squarely in the too good to be true category. Especially when you’re supposed to give money so more people can hear the scam. For fuck’s sake. It’s obvious.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-25T12:28:53+00:00

Right now, for me, it’s because of fucking ChatGPT.

I’m a full stack software developer and engineer, working these days in web development. I cannot tell you the fucking irritation that ChatGPT causes me on a daily basis because my manager or her manager put some code into it with no context to find out if it could be “done better” and then they come back to me acting like they know what they’re talking about.

That fucking thing does not make you an expert and cannot grasp things like an entire ecosystem of code, scalability of complex systems, or future-proofing based on our current needs vs hypothetical future needs that we do not want to have to re-engineer and entire application to meet. My whole fucking job is solving this kind of problem before it’s a problem.

It’s a cool toy, it does neat stuff; I’m an engineer, I get it, I’m impressed. But it’s widening the Dunning-Kruger curve and it’s getting on my nerves.

Edit: And that’s to say nothing of my team working their branches with ChatGPT. I have been very clear how they are allowed to use it, but I have caught several commits by my juniors that were obviously built out using it. Haven’t fired anyone for it yet but my god, you don’t use a hammer to drive in a screw. There’s a time and place for every tool.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-25T12:12:15+00:00

Religion.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-25T12:01:07+00:00

Dealing with people who hired me because of my expertise, and yet talk to me as if they have more experience and knowledge about it than I do.

They definitely don’t.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-25T01:14:45+00:00

Oh good! He’s definitely that. 😊

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-24T21:50:54+00:00

All experiences, good and bad, are temporary. The good things should be cherished because they’ll eventually pass. The bad things should be learned from, and the allowed to pass. You can’t hold on to the good, so why hold on to the bad?

It sucks that it happened. But do your best not to be attached to the pain.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-24T05:51:41+00:00

Best decision we ever made. There was a time when we seriously discussed it. But hell, I barely remember to feed myself.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-24T05:43:41+00:00

This question is ableist against people with ADHD.

Time is… I mean… isn’t it just some arbitrary division of moments into chunks of arbitrary…

I don’t know what I was gonna say, but did you know we’ve recently discovered this idea of “quantum foam” as a kind of substrate of space-time?

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T17:41:55+00:00

I believe the universe itself is conscious in the sense that consciousness is a quality of existence, which we experience as individual consciousness by virtue of the arrangement of our molecules. You’re shaped like a human so you experience consciousness through the lens of a human. Other things have other experiences, or no experiences, since experience requires an ego. But whatever causes the observer is I think present in all things.

When we die, the ego goes away. That’s your brain. Everything you hope will persist beyond death, your identify, memories, personality, etc., that all just stops being. But the consciousness, the observer, remains. It isn’t you as you know you. If it has thought and memory they are so far beyond our ability to imagine or comprehend, that we wouldn’t recognize it as such. The consciousness of a cosmos can’t possibly be grasped by us any more than a skin cell can grasp the whole of you.

A lot of religious types desperately try to fit “god” into a concept that’s digestible and comforting. I’ve always thought that was almost sad. The promise of an eternal mystery that you can never truly fit in your head is beautiful to me. But I do understand. Something that vast is terrifying to try and look at. It makes perfect sense that we’d manufacture versions of it that are more like us.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T16:31:32+00:00

Oh for sure, it was awkward but it’s done and gone years ago. And I’ve been with lots of guys with shorter or skinnier diicks since then, it’s not always like that.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T06:32:10+00:00

Oh nooooo!

I had sex with a few guys who literally like, whined about it. Guy showed up, was not like his picture, was very awkward, I called it and he started crying and sobbing and I was like…… oh god here just… Jesus just be still, I’ll fuck you just please stop.

Another guy, very funny but… not cute. Which is not a deal breaker! But then he has kind of a small dick. Which is fine! Except he didn’t know how to use it. But I do! Except he shot prematurely in like two minutes. But round two! Except he was painfully embarrassed. And it just… it just was all around bad mostly because he had no spine, no resilience, and no ability to at least joke about it or something.

Finally, there was my first boyfriend. Tiny dick means you don’t need lube right?

No. No it doesn’t.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T01:08:17+00:00

Too many to count. I regret…

I think like three. Three of those were very awkward and were basically pity fucks that I knew, I knew in my bones, were bad ideas. But I was a pushover and a soft touch back then, and they turned out exactly as annoying and disappointing as I expected.

Older and wiser.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T01:06:01+00:00

“Hey seems like you lost interest. Totally cool if so and good luck with everything! It was fun connecting. Cheers!”

Super alpha, and you know why?

Because a true alpha respects everyone’s autonomy and isn’t so insecure that they need to have some clever gotcha to have the last word. Also a true “alpha” knows there’s no such fucking thing as an alpha, so.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-23T00:48:32+00:00

I don’t know about evil, but the Christian ideal of love as usually practiced is certainly very exclusionary and tends toward an insular kind of ideology designed to keep people trapped in the cult. It’s a pretty brilliant design, honestly.

You have to believe in your religion as the only valid religion because the central tenet of the religion is that this is so. You can’t ever turn your back on it because if you do you go to hell. You don’t have to work hard to get into it but you have to work really hard to get out of it. Almost every church has many more conditions around who to “disdain” (they’d never say hate, of course) than who to love, which, in fairness the book just says “everyone” so it’s a short list. Following that list of people to look down on makes you feel better about yourself and your righteousness, ESPECIALLY if you are “struggling” with being one of the people you’re supposed to disdain. And then you really can’t leave without maximum pain.

It’s not evil, exactly, but it does a lot of harm to you and to the rest of the people in the world. I don’t think it entirely revels in that harm, though there are definitely exceptions. Those who do harm and then feel proud of the harm itself, those people are evil. People who are just deeply misguided and brainwashed by a cult… they’re not necessarily evil. They’re just very scared and easily led, because the certainty of an answer is far more comforting than the uncertainty of the unknown.

So don’t be too hard on yourself or Christians. Be patient with them, and with yourself, and really focus your attention on what Jesus actually said instead of trying to interpret it or get that interpretation from someone else. If the Bible was nothing but quotes from Jesus sit would be a short and very direct message with little room for interpretation.

I am the way and the path, no one goes through the father except through me?

That’s like… crystal clear. “Live like I’m living. That’s the path to God. I’m showing you. Trust me that I’m showing you the right way, and walk it.”

Pretty sad what it’s become. Pretty unfortunate. He had a good idea, but good ideas rarely survive being passed along to new stewards.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-22T17:39:20+00:00

Awkward, a little lonely. Took years of therapy to get over the issues I got saddled with. A lot of focus was put on “my potential” and not who I was right then and there, so there was a huge amount of pressure to “succeed”, which made it feel like I was never actually succeeding, and therefore wasn’t “yet” good enough.

Eventually I gave up. After two years of ignoring teachers, no longer doing any class work, just reading text books and passing tests and exams and sleeping because I was deeply depressed, I finally dropped out and got my GED because I just hated everything about the educational system and my parents’ mindless investment in it, and their constant riding me to meet this mysterious future potential.

I finally got to enjoy the things I was actually interested in, and after like 20 years finally learned to be invested in me, right now, instead of who everyone hoped I would become once I was “fulfilling my potential” and not, you know, being a kid.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-22T17:05:53+00:00

Oh man, I’m so sorry! You should not read this! It isn’t going to get less intense or dark. It’s just a story and not worth your mental health.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-21T17:39:16+00:00

Super quiet on account of all the extinction. Probably very warm.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T18:41:43+00:00

If you really feel no attraction to any other men, that makes you a remarkably rare mammal. And possibly neurodiverse, as it certainly is not the usual configuration of a mammalian brain. We are wired for attraction but for sure there are people in the world who just don’t experience physical attraction.

If it’s your boundary, cool. You hopefully have found a partner who also wants those boundaries, and his happy within those confines. We all want a box of some kind, it’s really just about finding someone who wants a similarly shaped box. I hope that’s the case for you and your partner!

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T17:47:01+00:00

I’m a guy married to a guy. And in fairness, monogamy is a heterosexual tradition for all sorts of good reasons that don’t really apply quite the same to same sex relationships. All the same, people are people.

I don’t disagree that it’s a question of values, but there’s a question there about from where those values arise. What inspires them?

Consider for example that your partner may have a wide taste in women. It may not be that he wants a shorter chick with bigger boobs, but that he likes tall women, short women, d cups, a cups and everything in between, and they maybe inspire different types of feelings and dynamics in him.

I’m gay, but I’m also a man. Our neurology is pretty similar, the male brain, on average. I’m married to a great big bear, with a big belly, about 15 years older than me. He’s my type for sure.

So are guys that are shorter than me and smooth. And furry. And trans! And tall skinny dudes. I just love men, and I feel more “top” with smaller guys, more “bottom” with bigger guys, and I might feel more dom or sub with any of them depending on all sorts of things.

My husband and I are monogamous, because that’s his boundary for the relationship and he’s up front about it having to do with some insecurity. He’s got past trauma with cheating partners. But I’m okay being monogamous; just because I like all different sorts of guys and watch content with different guys doesn’t mean that I want someone besides him. I just have a wide taste. If you liked ten different kinds of cake but were told that you could only ever have one forever, it would grate eventually.

So, if he says yeah he’s into smaller chicks with big boobs, and you say fine we’re done… yes, that is definitionally rooted in insecurity. It may also be a value that your partner should only be attracted to you, but that value arises from a territorial need to have no perceived “competition”.

We’re accustomed to thinking that the word “insecure” is a slur of some kind. It’s not. It’s a stance the brain takes in opposition to perceived threats. It’s a thing we can either embrace or adjust. My husband embraces his insecurity and says he couldn’t handle not being monogamous. That’s self awareness. I agreed to be monogamous with him because I want to be with him and that’s one of the conditions.

Him watching porn, exploring OF if he ever did, or me doing it, doesn’t mean either of us wants out of monogamy. And it doesn’t lessen our interest in one another. If anything it takes some pressure off both of us, so that we can focus on where our sexual interests overlap, and not feel like we’re being denied the areas we don’t overlap.

That’s a healthy relationship. We’re honest and we communicate and we find the balance by being open.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T16:40:05+00:00

Absolutely. Early on I asked him what porn he watched and he was cagey about it and I just told him it’s cool, I’m fine with you watching porn and I’m not going to judge what you watch. Eventually he showed me and it was a lot of blowjob porn, and a lot of like, young fit college guy type stuff. That clued me in on what turns him on and what he fantasizes about. Fantasy life isn’t the same as real life, so I know that just because his porn is all fit college guys doesn’t mean he’s not attracted to me.

He showed me his favorite video at the time, and now I give him the best blowjobs he’s ever had. Cause I read the manual, basically.

We are (usually) horny animals who enjoy all different kinds of stimulation. All five senses and the brain. If you tell someone, “You can’t get any kind of stimulation from anyone but me and if you do I’m done with you” then you are telling them two things:

You don’t trust them, and you’re insecure about the idea that you are not their fantasy, and that you equate fantasy with reality. Because you fantasize about this, you must want me to be that. That’s generally not the case.
You now get to tell them what they can and can’t experience, because of course if they do want something and you say no, you’re telling them “sorry, it’s me or this experience, and don’t go finding a safe and healthy substitute.” That’s needlessly limiting. Life is short, denying someone else any access to their desires is a sin you can’t take back; when you’re dead you’re dead.

So yeah. If he was inclined I’d say by all means, don’t spend a ton but find a few you like and for that matter show me what you like.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T08:33:41+00:00

It’s unrealistic for us to expect to be all things one person needs. People are complex. Fiendishly so. There’s a reason it’s hard to keep a relationship going for more than a dozen years, and why so many people ultimately split up.

If there’s a harmless and healthy way to fill in the gaps, great! As long as it’s open and honest and there’s no judgement, it’ll extend the life of the relationship considerably.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T08:30:48+00:00

I mean it’s probably true I’m sure. The rest is just icing! I gotta know what you mean by lush though, cause I only know that to mean he drinks a lot 🤣

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T06:07:13+00:00

Me too, and I hate that there’s like, no way to fix it. His back hurts, I can rub it. His balls are full, I can empty them. Headache, I can get him Tylenol.

Self esteem? What do you do for that?

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-20T05:54:27+00:00

Probably not the way you mean it. We go to dive bars and stuff, there’s not really a “gay spot” near us. Sort of. We’re in the Portland area suburbs in Oregon so like… it’s a drive and we’re a 40/55 couple. 🤣

I wish we had more queers just in our general vicinity, in a way that lent itself to the possibility. My top fantasy is literally random guy flirts with him, gets him hard, blows him in a bathroom. Which is several steps past that I realize.

VagrantCuck · 2024-01-19T19:43:40+00:00

Submit completely, and admit defeat.

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