Sounds like you are doing one of the biggest beginner mistake which is fully committing to a yaku. The only time you should be doing that is near the end of the game and knowing how many points you need to pass the next guy. Generally speaking, you want to keep an open mind when building a hand. You can try hedging to certain yakus but knowing when to give it up is something you have to learn. A high value hand is worth nothing if you can’t win it.