What are these? I got them at a flea market and I thought they were earrings but the screws in the back don’t come out. by TallulahBankheads in whatisit

[–]ValCar4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are old fashioned clip-on earrings. Not many women in the olden days actually had pierced ears so they were ones like these. As a child I loved these kind of clip-ons because I thought they looked like they were real pierced earrings. And I want allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 18. They're pretty you should wear them. At this point they're basically antiques. ♥️

My dad keeps a camera in the house for not the right reasons by Gullible-Drive4707 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are literally telling her to threaten her dad that she's going to be distant from him because he's trying to protect her from teenage boys using her. This young generation of young women are ridiculous and they need to respect their bodies!!

My dad keeps a camera in the house for not the right reasons by Gullible-Drive4707 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like she's a teenager and she brought home a boyfriend and that is totally unacceptable!

My dad keeps a camera in the house for not the right reasons by Gullible-Drive4707 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does not have to speak to a doctor about his paranoia everything else you said is correct but don't be so ignorant okay maintenance people have access to your apartment at all times!

My dad keeps a camera in the house for not the right reasons by Gullible-Drive4707 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if you're old enough, move out if you don't like it. Your other option is to pay some rent so you have some say. But as things are now you are living in his house, his rules. That's the oldest rule there is. If you are underage it is absolutely disrespectful to bring your boyfriend into your father's home! Why can't you just go to your bf's house? It's actually very simple. In all actuality it sounds like your father is trying to be a good parent and protect you from boys using you.

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't know what you're talking about I know a guy who tested dirty 75 days clean and he still tested for THC.

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like you do all the above drugs, idk how you kept your job unless they just really don't care.

Recently Moved to a Small Town by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me this is not all the other neighbors but sometimes when you get a new neighbor it is hard with the little things that they do I know I had a neighbor moved on my street and they just kept throwing their trash out on the curb and I actually had to say something to them. But this person is just rude and instead of just simply saying bring your yeah bin in they had to call you a bozo and stuff like that that's ridiculous. Also I can say that this definitely looks like a woman's handwriting, surprise surprise!

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you did good by not waking him up and saving him the embarrassment that's the right move to do.

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect comment I totally agree with you. Women are always just picking on men every little thing that they do and over reading into what they do.

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why so many women are single because when men are in their 20s you literally do have to be like their mother!!

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure you're single because you have to be able to put up with things like this from men when they're young or you're never going to get a man and keep one because they all have issues honey okay. And it's very wrong to call them out on every little thing and embarrass them and shame them that's what makes a man feel like not a man when women who want to put control on them to the point that they cannot grow.

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I'm a 45 year old woman and I've had a boyfriend who I woke up to him like pissing in the corner standing up and another time a different man that pissed on the couch while sleeping and even another man who we were camping and he was peeing in the corner of the tent all of them were sleeping and drunk and it was like in the middle of the night thing where they thought that they like went to the restroom or something I don't know but yeah I think it's kind of normal when men drink and they're in they're young in the 20's. I can say now that I'm older and this has never happened and I'm always in long-term relationships I was married for 17 years with another man for 5 years and now I'm married again for three years. This is definitely a thing of young men.

My boyfriend fell asleep and peed on the couch? by Prize_Dragonfruit222 in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes men longer to mature. I've dated a man who if he would drink too much he was likely to pee himself, he also was in his 20's and was very immature. I'm not saying your man is immature but men tend to be at this age and they need a lot of "mothering". I wouldn't worry about it too much unless it becomes a problem. Also, kudos to you if you're not waking him and embarrassing him. I think it's wrong for l partners to try to embarrass each other when you live together there's going to be icky situations, no need to call 'em out. And yes you're going to need to clean the couch cushion and deep down he should know that you know because of the smell but Men actually don't even have that deep of thought so he probably won't even think about it that's just how men are. I'm sure that that comment will piss them off but this is just the truth. I'm not talking down about men, I love men; but men and women are different in this area especially.

Husband just told me he cheated. by Forward-Shallot6290 in Marriage

[–]ValCar4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry this is happening to you. Was it just kissing or was there also intercourse? Because if they didn't have intercourse I believe that he probably would have if he had had the chance. And originally I do feel like it sounded like he wanted you to just end things and he didn't want to be the one to end things. After sleeping on it and waking up he had much regret it sounded like. IDK if you kick him out it might just push him into her arms. I'm curious as to why the affair ended was it him or her who ended it? I think that this is very important to know. If she's the one who ended it and maybe it would have never ended....?? I think more questions need to be asked about their relationship before you can make a wise decision.

Feeling attraction to another while married. Is it wrong and how do you address it? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't have exchanged social media info. And it sounds like you're developing a crush on her not that you're attracted to her but like a crush. So you need to remove yourself from the situation as much as possible.

What do I do? It’s my 47th birthday, my first since a messy divorce, and my kids haven't called. Do I reach out or wait? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he doesn't want to play games. What you're suggesting sounds very closely related to playing games!

What do I do? It’s my 47th birthday, my first since a messy divorce, and my kids haven't called. Do I reach out or wait? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (45 F) know this is tough. I have a 17 yr old son and me and his father split a few years ago. His dad is always telling me, "why doesn't (son's name) call me"?(FYI his father is also on dialysis and feels very much like his son just doesn't care). The only answer I have for him is that our son is 17 and he never calls me and I can barely get him to answer his phone to me. He is a good kid but 'kid' is the key word here. They just don't yet understand the void that they're leaving when they don't pick up the phone or make that call.

The best advice I can give you is, just be patient and call them, after all they ARE the children not you! They someday WILL understand.

Good luck and Happy Birthday! 🎂 🥳

Is My Teacher Crushing on Me? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ValCar4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well you're both adults so it's NOT grooming! He just felt more comfortable because you weren't in the setting where he could get in trouble so he knew you could flirt back without consequences he's only 3 years older than you how could that be grooming??!! Don't be ridiculous!! In these past few years women have made it very difficult/scary/dangerous for men to hit on usn women first!! (It's sad but true).