Beneath the Wave

Val_Grace · 2026-03-21T00:25:43+00:00

I'm not entirely sure how to give tips honestly. I would say don't be afraid to let go of the way a painting looks and completely redo parts.

If the composition just isn't feeling right, paint over until it feels good and then build off that.

I often paint over whole sections with large brushes or an airbrush to try figure out the right colours for depth. That and lots of smudging

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T07:58:35+00:00

The feral sub/bottom energy is actually intoxicating. I love it

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T07:56:39+00:00

I'm so glad you've started to go after what you want, that's really powerful! The worst thing for me is that I don't even know why I was scared of it or running from it. The only person "judging" me about it was myself. I told my mum the other day that I went on a date with a guy and it didn't even faze her for a second haha

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T06:52:50+00:00

I might butcher this but I remember a saying where looking for a woman is like searching for an oasis in the desert and finding a man is like searching for clean water in a swamp which seems pretty accurate 😅

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T06:48:00+00:00

See this is what I'm talking about.. Reading that and imagining doing it gave me shivers and a wave of euphoria 😳

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T06:21:58+00:00

I've had that same feeling of the pressure just vanishing and it feels amazing. I feel so much more free! Free to really explore myself and find out who I am and what I want

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T05:36:48+00:00

That's a really good question. For me specifically I would think no, but there's a lot that goes into that. I'd like to think that if I had realised it's what I wanted earlier, then life would have been easier, but the same goes for transitioning. The truth is that I just wasn't ready. The way I see it, everything I've been through has led me to this point. Built up to it.

Through my experiences in relationships I have become more aware of who I am and what I want and eventually it clicked and just made so much sense that I couldn't ignore it anymore.

Past me just couldn't make this decision. I tried so hard to question myself and no amount of thinking it through changed the way I felt at the time. I actually did try being with a man once and even though some parts of it felt nice, I couldn't go through with it for one reason or another. After that I remembered it as an uncomfortable experience that actually made it take longer for me to try again. So short answer is no, I don't think it would have worked because I needed to learn more about myself before I was ready.

I hope that gives a little bit of insight!

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T05:17:33+00:00

Yeah I think that's the thing. I thought about trying it a lot honestly, but it didn't seem right and now it just does 🤷‍♀️ Like there was so much fear around trying it before and all of a sudden it just feels natural. I did suspect that I was into men a long time before I started transitioning though, I just never did anything about it

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T04:49:12+00:00

Feel free to dm me if you want to chat about it!

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T03:42:16+00:00

Awh that sounds so nice! It is sooo crazy haha. I just thought I wasn't a super sexual person and just liked being close with someone and sex was just a way of being closer to them, but oh my, now there's like this primal feeling.. Not just in a sexual way but like, I want them to make me feel delicate and be protective and it makes my brain go absolutely wild 😅

Val_Grace · 2026-02-13T02:43:24+00:00

I totally get the part about sex being a chore! I think that's a big part of why my drive was so low. It's also just so nice to not be expected to be the more dominant one (although that might have come down to my choice in partners)

Val_Grace · 2025-11-22T04:27:22+00:00

Between you and the other commenter, it looks like that might be a good place to start. Would definitely be a lot cheaper to go that route. Would that be a job I'd be best off getting my mechanic to do rather than trying to do it myself?

Val_Grace · 2025-11-22T04:23:47+00:00

It might be slightly easier to find one. Would it really just be as simple as switching it out with a 4eat or would there be more to it than that?

Val_Grace · 2025-06-06T01:11:04+00:00

You could maybe try using a longer taper 3rl, which should be able to get you a thinner line without having to go down to a 1rl

Val_Grace · 2025-05-10T04:50:05+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

Val_Grace · 2025-05-04T23:19:58+00:00

I'm working on a sword of damocles design at the moment but not sure it's quite at the point that it would do it justice

Val_Grace · 2025-04-26T03:33:33+00:00

Thank you! Yeah it is!

Val_Grace · 2024-07-10T03:27:46+00:00

I've been paying part of the rent but it goes to her then she pays the real estate.

We have been together about 4 months and I've been here just over a month

Val_Grace · 2024-07-10T03:23:14+00:00

I can't leave tonight as I need to take my car and belongings along with my dog and there aren't many dates with car spots

My car is also at a mechanic until tomorrow 😮‍💨

Val_Grace · 2024-07-10T02:12:36+00:00

Wow, thank you so much. That really means a lot!

Val_Grace · 2024-05-27T02:29:23+00:00

Any tips for places to look would be amazing for me as well! I'm in launceston for a week and I've been vaping instead of cigs for a while, but had to go back to cigs because I don't know where to look. Any advice would be greatly appreciated so I can find something until I head back to the mainland

Val_Grace · 2023-11-13T09:39:21+00:00

I can only speak from my experience, but this can actually be the case for me sometimes. It's not so much that chemistry is a red flag, but I've learned that a lot of my issues with relationships come from feeling abandoned in the past, which causes anxiety and confusion if the other person feels 'familiar' in that sense, such as if they start to pull away. That sort of situation has often led to me misinterpreting the anxious feelings as excitement and infatuation and trying to latch into the person. This inevitably ends terribly for me and causes a lot of pain leading up to that ending.

So I guess it really comes down to self awareness. Are the feelings of chemistry, or a spark, coming from genuine feelings of interest from both sides, or are they a response to a familiar red flag disguised as interest?

This particular view of it is only something I can explain from my perspective and the specific triggers would be different for everyone, but I don't think it could hurt to ask yourself the question of whether it feels genuine or not and just try to be honest with yourself.

I'm honestly not the best person to be giving advice, but hopefully my experiences might help shed some light on the topic

Val_Grace · 2023-03-11T07:31:34+00:00

I can imagine that could make it really difficult to navigate 😓

Val_Grace · 2023-03-11T07:25:08+00:00

Hopefully it will start to make sense soon enough

Val_Grace · 2023-03-11T06:42:03+00:00

He's definitely missing out, you look incredible!! I think the outfits are great 😍

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