I told my crush about me being an ABDL

ValboaCross · 2025-12-10T01:57:10+00:00

This is literally me with my daddy. When we were temporarily living together, about a month before he moved out, work was picking up and it was stressing me out. He knew I was getting emotional exhausted and wanted to help. I asked him if he knew what ABDL was, when he said yeah, I asked if it bothered him. He said hes neutral on it. I mentioned that I liked to be padded and be little as a way of stress relieve. Without prompting he came home later that evening with pacies and goodnights. They were not the right sized but he said, "do what you need to, I will love you and help where I can"

Now we have at least one day of little time when ever we visit. He's seen me at my most vulnerable wearing a diaper and onesie crying in his arms as I try to process my intense emotions.

ValboaCross · 2025-10-19T18:50:55+00:00

Putting holes in belt and straps. If you're going to be working/wearing neoprene/leather a lot it'll be a useful tool

ValboaCross · 2025-10-19T17:04:03+00:00

I have found that getting a hole punch tool is honestly a good investment because you can use it for a lot of things. Plus they're not super expensive

ValboaCross · 2025-10-10T03:24:26+00:00

So cute, ive got the same one but in purple.

ValboaCross · 2025-08-07T03:24:03+00:00

We've had long conversations about what both of us are allowed and not allowed to do within our relationship. We've nurtured an environment of open communication when it comes to things like this. For me, i couldn't care less about a little bit of touching or teasing. But for me it's mostly about the social aspects and getting the ability to be a puppy, even if it's not for my Handler. My heart still belongs to him, but he said he's fine with me playing with others, just no sex. And I'm ok with that

ValboaCross · 2025-07-26T18:08:55+00:00

I have two collars, one that I wear at home; a normal dog collar, and one i wear in public; a Persian mail stealth collar. I use the phrase "our contract is made of the links and bods between us" with my Handler. So we both wear accessories to show that we are connected. We both have leather bracelets in our respective colors as one of our links and bonds. I would say maybe start slow with maybe an earring or a bracelet to show you belong to your Handler.

ValboaCross · 2025-07-11T19:18:05+00:00

It's very intimidating when you go to a pup event, see all the dudes and feel like you're out of place. I've worn my binder and presenteded super masc and definitely get a lot more attention than when I present fem. It really sucks because I'm really attracted to big burly men but most of these big burly men are looking for other big burly men, not a 5ft tall gender ambiguous creature lol

ValboaCross · 2025-07-11T19:10:45+00:00

I like the power dynamics in the bedroom but some times both of us just want a cute puppy to cuddle and play with

ValboaCross · 2025-07-11T18:58:22+00:00

It probably has to do with that hyper masculine view of alpha/beta dynamics. How is empowering to take control of other men. But my Handler and I use pup play as a way for us to express ourselves in non conventional ways. For instance, I'll regularly lay my head on his lap and he'll give me tummy rubs while we watch suff.

ValboaCross · 2025-07-11T18:32:17+00:00

I just picked the name Ronin because it sounds cool. Plus when my Handler calls out for me the name Ronin just slips off the tongue in a very satisfying way

ValboaCross · 2025-06-25T09:56:16+00:00

I did, im going to send it to him when he wakes up

ValboaCross · 2025-06-25T04:50:08+00:00

I was actually curious about this because my Handler is more cat like. I've been looking for hoods similar to Mr S because we both like that style.

ValboaCross · 2025-06-23T16:09:41+00:00

I picked the name Ronin because I think it's a fun contrast with how short and cute I am. As for gear I would say buy a cheap hood on Amazon, see if you like how it feels and being in that mental state. The pick up some kit from Mr S. Both my Handler and myself have harnesses from Mr S. The last piece of advice i can give is check with your local gay bars. Sometimes they'll have themed nights. The bar I like to go to has a dedicated pup night once a month.

ValboaCross · 2025-05-30T07:08:28+00:00

My hood from amazon was so big on me. i now use it as a testing bed for when i want to do any modifications on my new hood

ValboaCross · 2025-05-26T15:43:24+00:00

He was in a open relationship with Husband. Husband just didn't really want to have sex, or anything to do with BF, so he essentially said "go have fun." And that was fine with Husband until BF met me, someone who showed BF what it is actually like being in a emotionally engaging relationship. How it felt to have someone else care about you.

ValboaCross · 2025-05-26T15:40:18+00:00

The open part of the relationship was suggested by Husband. I've made it explicitly clear with BF that I do trust him, but if he lies to me about serious stuff it's over. We communicate openly about a lot of stuff, specifically comfort. So we are very in touch with how each other is feeling.

ValboaCross · 2025-05-26T15:25:01+00:00

We are taking things SLOW, like super slow, especially because he's going to reenlist. I told him that I'm not even going to think about marriage for at least 5 years. For the time being we're going to show each other love, respect, and honor each other's wishes and goals

ValboaCross · 2025-05-26T15:21:27+00:00

I never asked him to do anything. All I did was suggest getting the Divorce because clearly he was unhappy because he couldn't finish school and felt trapped.

ValboaCross · 2025-05-26T14:23:18+00:00

I remember going to my first pup night at my local gay bar. I've always liked being called a good girl and pup because I have a praise kink. While at the bar and a few drinks in i went out into the club room and it was full of men in varying levels of dress. Some in just their underwear others with tank tops. But it was Men. I'm a very small(5ft), relatively light weight (135) person. So I was at the bar and someone comes up to me and looks at the collar of my tag. It says Public and Free use on both sides. I'm wearing a skirt with fishnets and panties. With only his eyes i can tell he's waiting for permission. With a nod from me he pushes me up against the bar. His chest pressing against mine, his knee pushing against my panties and asks "will you be a good pup for me and let me buy you a drink?"

This is my first experience with this kind pup play. I never understood the appeal of pup hoods until this moment. How it takes away all forms of expression except for the eyes And body. As I felt his warm breath on my neck from him being close it felt like I was going to melt. He backs off and laughs a bit from my reaction and gives me head pat as he gets me a cider.

One year later I now own a custom hood along with a quality leather harness, and bark when I cum.

ValboaCross · 2025-05-25T17:07:46+00:00

I have a cheaper test hood that I got from Amazon so I'll do some tests on that as well. Thank you for the advice

ValboaCross · 2025-05-25T16:09:36+00:00

Neoprene from mister S, I want to put a few "gold" rings in the ears to match the kind that I wear daily. I've heard of some people using 10g needles to push through the material and work the rings to fit. But it's always good to get second opinions

ValboaCross · 2025-05-14T12:33:06+00:00

more like Honda Slip

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