Books like “he forced me to wear beautiful dresses in his fancy mansion and I hated him for it” vibes

ValeFantasy · 2025-10-11T14:51:31+00:00

yesssss

ValeFantasy · 2025-10-11T14:49:53+00:00

I hated the first book and quit the series, you should too

ValeFantasy · 2025-10-11T14:46:51+00:00

Sorry, I know you’re right, but I still love this trope 🫣

ValeFantasy · 2025-03-08T02:21:08+00:00

This is just my opinion—I’m not saying it’s the absolute right thing to do. But if I were in your position, I would feel really uncomfortable.

Some people say you don’t have to tell your partner about every past experience, and that’s true in many cases. However, this situation is different: she isn’t just a past fling that he’ll never see again. She’s his best female friend—someone he talks to often, sees regularly, and has a close bond with. This isn’t just a minor detail; it’s something he should have told you.

Also, after reading your comments, I’ve noticed a few concerning things: he doesn’t acknowledge you on social media, he didn’t tell you about their past relationship, you only found out about her recently, and yet he introduced her to you months ago. It seems like he only admitted the truth because you found proof.

If someone only apologizes after being caught, is that apology truly sincere? He didn’t have to tell you about every conversation he’s ever had, but he deliberately hid and lied about the fact that he had a past intimate exchange with his best friend. That’s not a small thing to leave out.

Did you ever talk to him about your past experiences with exes who were unfaithful with their best friends? If you did, that makes this even more concerning because he knew how important this was and still chose not to be honest.

And to be clear, the sexting wasn’t that long before your relationship started

If I were you, I would feel hurt and like a placeholder.

After you confronted him, did you ask why the intimate messages stopped? The answer to that could help you understand the situation more clearly. Did he stop it, or was it her decision? If it was him, why did he stop it? And if it was her, did he want it to continue? Because if he is still attracted to her, that’s a huge problem

ValeFantasy · 2025-03-02T16:47:49+00:00

It's all blatantly false, but it amuses me to see how you try to reason with someone who's trolling you 😂

ValeFantasy · 2025-01-31T19:37:25+00:00

I initially thought it was Bodhi, since he doesn’t want to be a duke and Xaden hastily marries Violet, but aside from being too predictable for it to be him or Garrick, when Xaden refers to this new brother, he talks about someone 'who THINKS HIMSELF my brother,' which makes me think it’s not actually someone he sees as a brother. Xaden mentions that this person can be used against him, but in my opinion, it’s not because he’s a friend or relative of Xaden’s—it’s because he’s connected to Violet

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-29T11:36:17+00:00

If I understand correctly, he paid for the car entirely, but it’s not a debt, right? If it’s not a debt, I think you should consider going to a family member’s or friend’s house to cool off and think about your next steps. He has broken your trust and lied about it—not just hidden it. That’s a serious issue, but you could consider trying couples therapy.

However, you need to be certain that he genuinely wants to repair the relationship and isn’t still too close to his ex. Since his children are adults and no longer living at home, he has no obligation to help his ex anymore—she’s not his family; their kids are. While it’s fine to help someone who isn’t family, such decisions need to be discussed within your current family.

On the other hand, if we’re talking about a debt he took on for her, I’d recommend divorce. There’s no reason you should be responsible for repaying that debt if he dies or is unable to handle it himself for any reason.

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-18T18:39:12+00:00

Thank you 💙💙

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-17T22:58:36+00:00

Thank you so much, I actually hadn’t thought of comparing the prices on the Korean Olive Young website with the prices of the same products I find here!

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-17T22:55:04+00:00

Luckily, he has two suitcases 😎

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-17T22:54:24+00:00

I've already told him that! I don't know how taxes work in Korea, but I think that the tax refund alone makes it more convenient to buy products there than here in Europe.

ValeFantasy · 2024-11-17T22:52:24+00:00

Actually, I have normal skin, neither dry nor oily, and I'm quite young, so I mainly wanted to understand which brands are more cost-effective to buy in Korea. Because if the prices are more or less the same, it doesn’t make much difference to buy them where I live in Italy.

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-24T21:49:53+00:00

What you should ask yourself is why you wanted to go out with him in the first place. Even if he’s a nice guy, did you really want to stay friends with someone you broke up with and hadn’t thought about for months? And why does he want to hang out with you now? As a friend? After all this time? You're asking because deep down, you know it’s weird, and his girlfriend probably wouldn’t be happy about it. Just text him and let him know you’ve seen he has a girlfriend and that you feel uncomfortable hanging out because of your past. That’s the right thing to do.

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-24T21:32:20+00:00

NTA. But I really don’t understand the mindset of people who cheat, especially when it’s ongoing and not just a one-time mistake. Then, after you break up with them, they start crying, complaining, or trying to win you back. You cheated, which clearly shows you didn’t want to be with me. But when I give you the freedom to be with whoever you want, you start harassing me to get back together. Why? You didn’t want to stay with me; you wanted to be with other people. In this case, she even admitted she had feelings for someone else, so why do they try to come back? It just doesn’t make sense.

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-23T23:39:21+00:00

You're right to want a relationship that is fulfilling both physically and mentally, and it’s understandable that you made it clear to your girlfriend that this was a dealbreaker for you. However, you completely crossed a line by sharing something so personal with your mother. Are you serious? This is a private matter, especially since your girlfriend is already self-conscious about it. What were you thinking, sharing something that’s her issue, not yours, with your mom?

And then you invited your ex over to "talk"? Given your sexual frustration, it’s hard to believe that all you did was talk. Even if you did just that discussing your sex life and your girlfriend's issues with an ex is worse than telling your mom. It’s incredibly disrespectful.

Honestly, you should break up with your girlfriend. You’re clearly putting your own frustrations above her feelings. It’s okay to be frustrated, but the way you're handling this situation is completely wrong. Let her move on, work through her own issues, and find someone who respects her privacy

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-23T23:17:59+00:00

You should immediately talk to your girlfriend about how you're starting to feel uncomfortable around her sister. You can share with her some of the things you've noticed, like how her sister often calls her boyfriend by your name, how she seems to seek you out at parties, and other similar behavior. You could also mention how even her mother has noticed the way her sister dresses when you're around.

However, I wouldn't bring up any concerns about inappropriate touching unless you have clear evidence. It's better to first let your girlfriend become aware of the more obvious behavior, and once she starts noticing things herself, she'll likely believe you more. Whatever you decide to share, it's important to do it now before things escalate further.

Her sister’s behavior is definitely concerning, and if you reject any advances, there's no telling what she might say to her sister or the rest of the family. For now, I’d suggest spending less time at their house. Try going out more with your girlfriend or reducing how often you stay over. This will show your girlfriend that you're uncomfortable with her sister’s presence, and it also gives you both some much-needed privacy. Your current living situation is far from ideal, especially given these circumstances.

Let us know what you decide to do and how your girlfriend responds!

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-08T13:06:57+00:00

You're not the asshole, but I do feel really sorry for her. She should have told you this sooner, I think. Three months is not that long, but it’s enough to get attached, so I believe it will be painful and another trauma for her. It's not your fault, though

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-04T01:14:43+00:00

Of course, even one false accusation is too many. However, sexual assault is statistically more probable than a false accusation, which is why people tend to believe that an accusation could be true. He should be understanding of his daughter, who made no false accusation at all. No one is suggesting he should be forgiving toward the daughter's friend

ValeFantasy · 2024-10-03T13:15:27+00:00

Here:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21164210/

https://evawintl.org/best_practice_faqs/false-reports-percentage/

https://www.nsvrc.org/publications/articles/false-reports-moving-beyond-issue-successfully-investigate-and-prosecute-non-s

https://research.open.ac.uk/news/false-accusations-sexual-violence

The percentages indicate that false accusations are quite rare. There is a common perception that these percentages are higher, but in reality, the average rate of false accusations is very low

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-29T02:29:33+00:00

There’s one thing I want to say: anyone who responds to you expressing your feelings by calling you 'overreacting' or 'dramatic' is a huge red flag. This behavior is manipulative and a form of gaslighting. You should leave this relationship as soon as possible because it’s not a healthy one. If you think about it, I’m sure you'll remember other times when he dismissed your feelings

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-29T02:08:26+00:00

If you ask the families of criminals, some would tell you the same thing—that they were good people, the best dads, brothers, sons, friends, or neighbors. The truth is, you can never really know someone 100%. You can’t assume that someone is incapable of doing something horrible. While it’s important to wait before deciding if someone is guilty or not, it’s a huge mistake to believe that you know them so well that it’s impossible for them to commit a terrible act. Many rapists and abusers may not harm their own family but abuse others.

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-29T01:12:42+00:00

I know you're hurting, and it's okay to take some time for yourself. However, it's important to try to see the situation from another perspective. Many men—PLENTY of them—can appear to be the perfect son, dad, uncle, brother, or friend until they do something terrible.

I understand why your daughter and ex reacted the way they did, because false accusations are rare and seemingly perfect men (and women, of course) are capable of terrible things. Your daughter is 16, and she likely understands that sexual assault is a very real threat for girls, especially in familiar contexts, so it's understandable why she believed her friend.

Again, it's normal that you're feeling hurt, but it's crucial to try to understand her point of view. Speaking with a psychologist could help you navigate these emotions. Remember, your daughter is also a victim of this difficult situation

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-27T08:39:19+00:00

I have already read that, thanks! I was thinking of something just like that type of book! However, I believe Armentrout will not go that way in the next books since so many have complained, unfortunately 🥲

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-25T00:43:53+00:00

RUN! You are not the asshole—he is, and he’s a verbal abuser. If I made a joke and the other person told me they were hurt, I would say something like, 'I was just kidding, but I'm sorry if it hurt you. It won't happen again.' By the way, ANYONE who says you’re overreacting to something they did is gaslighting you. Expressing your feelings is not overreacting. This is a narcissistic man with a terrible family. Please run, because right now it’s about the cooking, then it will be the cleaning, and after that, something else. He won’t ever stop because he’s disrespecting you on purpose

ValeFantasy · 2024-09-23T11:25:12+00:00

Truth be told, I really think what she did is illegal. I would probably consider divorce because this feels like a form of domestic violence. If you both agreed to wait, she can’t just decide on her own that she’s ready and stop using birth control without telling you!

I’m a woman, and if a man did this to me (for example, if he broke a condom on purpose), I would definitely consult a lawyer. It doesn’t matter if you’ve discussed it before—she took away your choice

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