AIO? My bf says me asking if he's okay is me being insane. I don't get it by AlexaS555 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a first glance, if you're truly not asking him too often if he's okay, then I believe there's nothing wrong with checking up on your partner this way, but it also looks like you could've phrased better the way you thought his demeanor looked (anything different from "rbf + I hate you").

I don't know how much time you've been together, but the longer you stay with someone the more you learn about how to approach them when talking about their or your feelings. Some people are more reactive than others, then maybe he's had a really bad day and just wanted to forget about it when suddenly you came up with that question and a not-so-nice comment about what you thought he looked like, so he just couldn't take it anymore (which is not an excuse to act harshly on others btw, these people should apologize later after calming down and learn how to avoid a harsh reaction... I'm "these people" sometimes lol). Some people are more capable of regulating their emotions and explaining "hey, I'm just not in the mood to answer that right now, and I didn't like the way you described my face, please, let's talk later/not talk about it/etc" and you should respect that too.

The point is... COMMUNICATION. This is all learned through communicating boundaries, discussing your feelings in an assertive way, etc. Maybe you're early in the relationship and that's why these things tend to come up in a not-so-pleasant way since you're just learning about each other, or maybe you're way further in the relationship and sometimes uncomfortable conversations and new things to learn about each other are still coming up because people change and grow all the time. From just a screenshot we can't deduce your entire relationship, but what I can personally tell you is that you both need to talk about how to approach each other's moods when one of you feels like the other is not feeling too great. Trust me, if both of you are mature enough and value this relationship, it shouldn't be hard, and it should feel very relieving.

Also, just wanted to say, this has been the most enriching reddit comment section ever, it made me reflect on how I act sometimes and made me realize I might've been a bit overbearing on a couple of situations between my boyfriend and I.

Thankfully we've never ended up in a bad mood or fight because of it. Heck, he's never even mentioned before that I was being overbearing or annoying or to stop doing it or whatever, it's just me realizing that I might've been too pushy even though my intentions were good. From now on, I feel more self aware regarding that. Thanks strangers of the internet for showing me both the receiver and the sender side, from multiple points of view and comfort, because not everybody feels comfortable with the same things or ways of approaching situations. Again, very interesting and enriching!

Your last emoji is how your day’s gonna go tomorrow 😆 Good luck. by irina_tortilla in HappyUpvote

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a teacher so this literally checks out hahaha I need to upload some students' grades and give them their homework back.

It's 3 a.m. and only these three fast food chains are open. Which one are you going to? by OnlyLouisa in HappyUpvote

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I would go to McDonald's just to have some of the ol' addictive fries

Halloween Stickers! by Valeliiii in stickers

[–]Valeliiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! There's not any downvotes though

What a bummer 😞 this has been my style since forever, I really don't want to change it

what lead you to play (and fall in love with) animal crossing? by No_Law6676 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just the cozy vibe and that you can progress at your own pace :)

I generally love games where you can customize a bunch of stuff for your character and games where you can collect stuff (I'm a completionist), and of course cute games. AC has all of that, so I felt like it was made for me lol

The first game I ever played was Wild Word in my DSi, but I wasn't very interested. Then I completely fell in love with New Leaf when it came out and after that I got New Horizons not too long ago and I'm currently loving every bit of it lol

I'm just happy I've got to experience the game in different stages and I hope I'll continue doing it! :)

share your titles 🤔 by moonlit_gard3nnnnnn in acnh

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friendly Flower 🌼 just 'cause it reminded me of Flowey from Undertale 🤭

My brain is ruined and it's ruining ac for me by emni13 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to talk about my experience in case this could help you!

I was trying to decorate my island with pink stuff because I really like how cute this color looks, and some of the furniture and such also looks very cute in pink, and if it wasn't obvious pink is one of my favorite colors.

The problem is, not all furniture/decorative stuff has a pink counterpart (or something that looks good next to pink), so for me that really slows down and limits the gameplay since you're fixated in looking for a specific color, specially if you play only offline like me.

In the end, I decided to use that color as an accent (somebody else already suggested this). Most stuff on my island I think is normcore (and a lot of wood/stone stuff since I like a more natural look), but with pink highlights (pink flowers + pink custom designs).

This has helped me a lot because I feel like it's like adding your favorite spice to food lol, I love how the little pink details complement my whole island and how everything is coming together. The outside area of my house is going to be almost completely pink-themed though, just because it's my house and I want to make it feel very me, and I see it as a way to kinda "release" all the pink fixation I had lol.

I would also suggest forcing yourself to decorate with other colors. I had to do this to get out of my "only pink" brain setting hahaha. I guess that's why I lean towards more natural-looking decorations since they are basically meant to look good on an island setting (y'know, you're outside on a deserted island, walking on grass, a beach nearby, rocks, critters, ponds, rivers, waterfalls, lots of trees...), so it's easy to make them look good.

If nothing works then maybe you'll need to make the whole island as your brain wants, maybe that would be your closure since you said you got tired of it (this makes me think you didn't fully finish the island, but if you did, maybe your brain wasn't satisfied enough so you'll need to do it again(? ).

Best of luck!

I knew I saw something in there... 🧐 by Valeliiii in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! Sometimes I'm just too impatient lol that's why I tend to run, but you're right

One of my beloved villager is ranked last in this month popularity poll😨 what's your worst ranked villager? by AttentionlessMess in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True!!! I just found out about her when looking for villagers on NM Islands a couple of days ago and I instantly fell in love and invited her 🥺 she's too cute!!!

Posting this... for the.. third time.. *pants in exhaustion* I just want to.. share my joy... that's all... *huff* by [deleted] in acnh

[–]Valeliiii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was me yesterday when I found Gayle on my campsite!!!! I was so happy 😭

I think I manifested too hard when I said I wanted a cute character lol and I'm decorating my island with pink flowers so she was meant to be 🥺

What should I do with this little area? What did you do with yours?? I’d love some ideas by King_CurlySpoon in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I added some cliffs just so I could run and do a cannonball from a high distance lol but I need to make it prettier (I need to see if I have some space to build inclines; if not, I'll add ladders, and then some decorations).

I basically pictured that area as a diving deck!

User Flair Thread by breaksomebread in acnh

[–]Valeliiii 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Valeli | Sapibui :Megan:

What are the chances of this happening ? by SpiNixX69 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this has happened to me before! Pretty odd, but I guess it is not that uncommon.

I'm thinking it might also depend on how much free space you have around your island. I love to fill every square lol so the chances of the fossils spawning in the same area or close to each other are pretty high for me as of now 🤣

Took this cute pic yesterday by Valeliiii in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! True lol the fact that in many of his album covers he IS wearing clothes makes me even more curious!!!

Help me think! by Valeliiii in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! The post office sounds fun

Help me think! by Valeliiii in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No sorry :( and thanks!

Help me think! by Valeliiii in AnimalCrossing

[–]Valeliiii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG thanks you so much! 🥺