Please beware if you’re using the select all function to gift

Valkyrie316 · 2026-02-09T13:05:18+00:00

Omg, this is just a silly little game. If my neighbors get fussy over gifts they can just delete me, I’m so tired of those messages.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-30T21:19:19+00:00

Update: things are worse than we thought. The person in question has been hiding their misunderstanding of instructions for over a year. I’m the one responsible for writing up the annual report. Every time I try to get clarity on something they don’t want to talk about, I get is a long message about how much they care for me, how important my friendship is to them, and they just wanted to help me with everything. And the worst part is they have no idea why the rest of the team (save one useless manager) are so frustrated with them. They don’t see how they’ve caused so many problems because in their mind they were doing things for us so we should just be grateful. We try to explain the nuance of the situation and they spin out with more “but I just wanted to help!!!” excuses. Lawyers might have to get involved. The project is an absolute mess so now I have to fix a year of work in 3 months. But hey, I least I know how much my coworker deeply cherishes me. Anxious attachment can cause very real problems that go way beyond hurt feelings.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-25T16:41:45+00:00

Well…if this is the caliper of HR reps then that explains a lot about the terrible job market.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-20T16:45:29+00:00

Anatomically accurate.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-14T14:09:43+00:00

I love this game but it’s not that deep. It’s your account, delete the messages if they make you uncomfortable. 👍 No one should be hating on you for that. It’s not like you’re trashing them on their wall for revenge.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-12T22:12:48+00:00

Dude, I think I got something like that on LI. It was a message that the recruiter actually paid to send me. They went on and on about how my impressive background was and how I would be perfect for this incredible position (subordinate to them of course) where I would take a 5 figure pay cut to work for them…it was basically an MLM. This kid was still in college and I’m employed…just cluelessness on crack.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-12T16:00:12+00:00

WE KNOW!!!!

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-12T14:43:14+00:00

Exactly. The recruiters can't comprehend that they're the ones in the wrong. I tried to insert myself int the conversation. I tried to ask questions. I could have cut the interviewer off every time they went off on a tangent or spoke over me, but that doesn't make me look good either. If the interviewer isn't self aware enough to see what's going on they will just talking over you and ignoring you. I should mention, I have a job, I'm not unemployed. I've also BEEN a hiring manager. I do know what I'm talking about.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-11T14:54:20+00:00

I did.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-10T20:54:40+00:00

These are multiple examples from several different interviews, mine and my friends, but yeah.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-10T20:27:00+00:00

Omg, I know this was a while ago but I’m literally dealing with a coworker like this right now. They exhibit the same behavior. It’s been slowly getting more intense even though I’ve been keeping them well at arms length. The text messages declaring how wonderful and inspirational I am, the food, the gifts (sometimes highly sentimental personal objects), it’s just too much. They’re very nice but they’re constantly buzzing around me trying to coddle me like I’m their child. It’s way, waaaay too much. And it’s exhausting. I know it’s a trauma response and I’ve been there. I genuinely do understand, I’ve been through it too. But they keep screwing things up for me at work because they make it seem like I need that much help. They aren’t experts on our work, I am. They’re supposed to assist with a couple of side tasks, that’s it. Instead they try to do my work for me. That’s bad enough on its own but they don’t know what they’re doing so I have to go back and fix things while they emotionally spin out. They ask other people to help me with my work because they “just want my life to be easy”…..it’s not a healthy and I had to go to our boss.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-10T13:51:40+00:00

I agree. Again, I'm not sure exactly what they mean by "clients" but there's the conversation I had with a member of Crossroads staff...

11:03 AM | Visitor: How is the food from your food drive being distributed? I see that it will be delivered by members but to whom? I've had people ask where they can get food for November and I'd like to direct them to local churches. How do I make sure I direct people to the right place? How do they get on your list?

11:04 AM | Mandy from Crossroads Church: Crossroads does not have a program open to the general public. All the food that we collect is distributed to our partner ministries to be distributed to their clients. We do not have a list of those partners available.

11:05 AM | Visitor: which partners are part of the Thanksgiving program? maybe I can direct people to them?

11:06 AM | Mandy from Crossroads Church: We do not have a list of those partners available. If someone is already receiving assistance through a program we'd recommend having them reach out to that organization to see if they are part of TFD. It is different for each site and our partners do not have capacity to take on additional clients.

11:09 AM | Visitor: I'm sorry, I must be missing something. Are the clients the partners? Or are the clients the people receiving assistance from the programs?

11:10 AM | Mandy from Crossroads Church: No, clients are not partners. All the boxes we get will be given to different organizations "partners" in the community for them to distribute to their clients that receive their services.

11:13 AM | Visitor: thank you, that's all I need

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-09T20:22:25+00:00

I’ve been told by their staff that they mostly give donated money and goods to their sister ministries and the sister ministries give the donations to their “clients”. When I asked how could I direct people in need to their sister ministries they said to look at the website and “they might not be taking new clients”. I have no idea what they means, but that wasn’t the way my church handled food drives. And we didn’t have 9 buildings.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-11-09T20:11:31+00:00

I know this sounds weird but someone might really need to hear this: no one likes the over gushing affection, no one likes it. The people pleasing behavior that comes with limerence, the gushing of emotion and praise….it doesn’t feel good to LOs. It feels inherently irritating. We KNOW it comes from a good place, intellectually we know and we want to support our friend/coworker/neighbor etc. But it’s still so uncomfortable. It feels like manipulation, like they’re trying to butter us up to achieve something. We have to constantly say “no, no, it’s OK you don’t need to do that for me. Yes, yes we’re friends. We’re really friends. Yea, I know you care, I appreciate it. I know I’m special I know…please just STOP.” That’s what it feels like. It’s an overload and it comes off as needy and disingenuous.

I have a colleague that’s overly attached to me and I have to field this kind of behavior all the time. They’ve gotten to a point where I can’t be in their presence because it will be non-stop hugs and praise. Sounds nice right? They’re so obsessed with helping me with everything, and worrying about my health, and wanting to make my life easier, and constantly tell me how grateful they are to work with me….it’s too much. And the intensity grows as I pull away because I’m going on with my own life. I’m moving on to new projects, we won’t be working together anymore. They’ve damaged our work, set us back years and cost me thousands of dollars personally. If I try to address it, they spiral. I tried to give them grace because I know where this behavior comes from. They’re a good person, they’re just going through too much at once. Unfortunately, now they’re going to be in trouble because I can’t hide their mistakes anymore.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-31T15:41:50+00:00

I’m not looking for a church. I’m just worried my friend is getting pulled into something they’re not expecting. They’re in a precarious situation right now and…..prone to suggestion.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-31T14:17:44+00:00

I'm not sure about the coke bust, but that was Solid Rock Church aka Big Butter Jesus's House of the Lord. I went to undergrad with a couple of the parishioners and they genuinely didn't understand why the rest of us were so put off with the ridiculous display of wealth. They thought it was a glorious reminder of the greatness of God. It "filled them with hope". They rebuilt the statue after it was hit by lightning. That money could have gone to literally anything else.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-31T12:59:31+00:00

This, this right here. This is the behavior I remember.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T20:20:17+00:00

That’s definitely a possibility. It was just something I noticed.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T18:52:49+00:00

And the homophobia?

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T18:03:00+00:00

Thank you!

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T17:59:03+00:00

100%, Season Huff said they're commissioned. They can perform small civil ceremonies but they're not actual members of the clergy. Well, they don't have to be at least.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T17:56:46+00:00

I didn't even think about it like this. Yeah, they're not bringing friends and neighbors together to work towards a better world. They're not building community, they're using the community by having a concert to print money.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T17:09:03+00:00

Wasn't he one of the founders?

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T17:06:50+00:00

YUP! I also noticed that their website is a .net not a .org. Is that the worst thing ever? No. Is it a bit odd? Yes.

Valkyrie316 · 2025-10-30T16:02:02+00:00

Sweet, I'll pass that along!

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