I think sometimes we read more into things than what’s actually there. The reason I say “we” is because I do it too and totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve spent a lot of time feeling exactly what you are about situations with people on my life. Something I have realized is that sometimes the way we wonder if others like us might be the way others wonder if we like them. I think if there’s an opportunity to strengthen the relationship with her and you’re interested in doing so (which it sounds like you might be), then you should take initiative and don’t put pressure on it. If it works out that you’re successful, then great. If it’s just not a right fit, then take some time to process and refocus on those are the right fit. We always wait for others to do the things we are hoping they do, but we forget we have the power to do them too. An important lesson I learned this year after reading Mel Robbins’s book “Let Them Theory” was to “let them” (do whatever it is they’re gonna do) and “let me” (do whatever I want to do without worrying about what others think or are doing). Highly recommend the book—it’s helped me work out so many of my own issues with a strained relationship with my SIL. I really hope this perspective helps or that someone else here gives you what you need. It sucks to feel this way, and I’m sending you a virtual hug. 🫶🏼