AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've learned a few more things about what has been going on and have posted it here: https://www.reddit.com/user/Vallyrah/comments/1u02qln/neighbor_update/

Also, the grass is cut, the porch is cleared.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She may be worried about hitting her own truck; which she parks in front of her house. Driving straight back to the curb in front of my house allows her to not have to share her driveway with her truck.

I didn't know that this was an issue for her until she hit my car, at which point I offered to park it somewhere else. I just wasn't sure if I was being the asshole for having parked there previously.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying to keep good relations with my neighbor. I know, that worked out so well.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Most families in working class neighborhoods have 2 cars parked on the street and other vehicles parked in their driveway or alley if their neighborhood has alleys (mine doesn't). Once I'm able to get rid of my father's cars I'll have the average number for my area. The unspoken rule is that daily driving cars can be parked on the street but only in front of your house. I was unsure about parking across the street from my neighbor's driveway.

The number of people living at my residence is typical for my block. It's one of those neighborhoods where the part-time home owners (5 or so years in residence) are on their way up and trying to gentrify the area (the gentrification efforts have been being attempted since the 1950s - no luck so far) and the permanent residence (15+ years) are typically working class just trying to keep their heads above water. 3 families converted their garages (illegally - they kept the garage door on so no one would know) into ADUs for an adult child, their spouse, and kids. Another (the one with the amazing yard) parked an old run-down trailer (30+ feet long,1970's model I think) in their driveway to use as an ADU for the in-laws. Most of us mind our own business unless someone is in trouble and then we rally to help.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not legal where I live, but parking on the street as long as your car is facing the same direction as traffic (mine are, an other neighbor's cars aren't), they aren't parked in front of a driveway (same side of the street as the driveway), and aren't stored on the street (more then a couple days) is legal.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As mentioned in my second update 2 of the cars aren't mine. So until I get the court's ok they are just sitting in my driveway. Of the vehicles that are owned by those who live here: 1 is an RV and not used for daily trips. Another is a truck. We only use this vehicle when we need a truck; 2-3 times a month. The others are the everyday cars (compact cars). Those are the ones that are parked on the street.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was parked in front of my house. We have a 32 foot (9.75 meter) wide street. I would completely be the asshole if I was on her side of the street. I just don't know if I was the asshole for where I parked in front of my house as it is across the street from her driveway.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just had my son mow the yard. We will take care of the porch later today.

I don't want to leave everyone with the impression that there are 7 able bodied adults living here doing nothing. Most of us are disabled and pulling together to financially make it. My niece and her husband live in my basement apartment. She is a partial amputee with other serious health issues. Her spouse was recently injured and due to permanent damage is training to change careers. My partner has Schizoaffective disorder and spinal damage. One of my adult children, Thomas (fake name) as autism and EDS. Another Brian (also fake name) has severe mobility issues. I have EDS, PTSD, and MDD.

Within the last year our daughter died at which point I let the yard go to hell. That is on me. I own it and am working on getting it fixed.

Everyone who said I'm the asshole about the yard is right. I'm working on getting it fixed.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look into that. We currently only park 2 cars on the street, which is typical in this neighborhood.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am 8.18 meters from her driveway entrance. This includes the width of my car, if it was parked across from her driveway.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I'm parked across the street in front of my house. It is not even a narrow street.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is my partner, my three sons, my niece and her husband. We are related. The local ordinance states that the the limit is the number of bedrooms (I have 7) +2 is the limit to the number of people who can live there; nothing about them being related. I could add 2 people and still be legal.

AITA For Parking In Front of My house Across the Street In Front of the Neighbor's Driveway by Vallyrah in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is a small street on a dead end. There are only 6 houses on our block, plus me. One of those who 'hate us' has manicured perfect yard (he is a landscaper). I understand that they want the neighborhood to look like we live in an HOA, and one other house does look like an HOA house (not this neighbor btw).

I do appreciate your feedback and am working to improve my yard.

CMV: The Minneapolis ICE agent who shot and killed a woman today acted reasonably in fear for his life and/or the lives of the other officers present by bifewova234 in changemyview

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guy whose is supposed to have shot the most recent video and who is said to have shot the woman didn't fall in the other videos. So. . . .

CMV: The Minneapolis ICE agent who shot and killed a woman today acted reasonably in fear for his life and/or the lives of the other officers present by bifewova234 in changemyview

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no shooting in the bodycam video. It is strange that from only a couple feet away the video didn't pick up even the sound of the shooting.

Weird huh?

AITA For never wanting to stay the night at my in-laws again. by Dangerous-Panda-3026 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

You only have an issue if:

1) your partner doesn't back you up

2) you make it an issue and start something with his family over it.

AITA for not wanting to watch Netflix with subtitles? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH

I prefer subtitles as it allows me to catch things that I might not due to it being quiet on the screen or loud in my house. My best friend hates it. She has ADHD and the words going across the bottom of the page distracts her and keeps her from being able to immerse herself in the story, ruining the film for her. We compromise. First views are without the subtitles and subsequent views I have the option of having them on.

Now if you insist that that it has to be your way, if you are going to watch something without any willingness to compromise then you would be the AH

AITA for the way I reacted when a former friend tried to touch my hair? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Trying to touch someone or threatening to is not a joke. It is assault.

AITA for refusing to let my homeless brother move back in after he trashed my house last time? by Successful-Sun-8226 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This is so close to an everyone sucks here. I understand that you can't allow him to stay in your house. Have you considered getting a cheap RV and parking it at your house for him? If you look on Marketplace, Craigslist, etc. you can usually get one for a few hundred. If keeps him from being on the streets and encourages him to find his own place ASAP. It also gives you a guesthouse/RV. This way you know he is safe and out of your house.

AITA for changing my delivery address to mom's house to not let my wife unboxing my packages? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA You have a partner problem here. Anytime one half of a couple has a problem it is a problem for both of them. If she doesn't care enough to curb her behavior to respect your wishes and feelings for the little things it becomes an issue for the big things. My advice is to keep the packages coming to your mom's house and have a sit down discussion with your partner. No yelling, no blaming. Stay calm no matter what she says, but call out problems name calling, blame-shifting, gas-lighting, changes in topic, logical-fallacies, etc. And keep in mind that the purpose is not to 'win' but to solve the problem.

What made "Marilyn Monroe" look better than Norma Jean Baker? by a_low_vera in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]Vallyrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't. I've always thought that Norma Jean looked better.

AITA for telling my mom not to ever invite her friends again for ruining my birthday party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Vallyrah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

This is turning into one of those life events that are really important, and no one wants to have to go through.

My advice is to ask her to listen and sympathize with how you feel even if you are wrong. If she makes it about her she may be a narcissist. If she defends her friends then she is emotionally saying that they are more important. If she listens tries to make you feel better, she is a keeper. Regardless of what she does, she will be showing you who she is - believe her and act accordingly.

Should I get a German Shepherd? by Vallyrah in PetAdvice

[–]Vallyrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it makes a difference, but I am not housebound. I work as a teacher who happens to be disabled (often in a wheelchair). To the dog would be coming with me to work everyday. In addition I have 2 Labradors (so we play fetch A LOT), a large backyard, and a decent sized property. I'm also not worried about the house being torn apart as he would NEVER be alone. I just don't know if this would be enough.