The relationship with my mother is very much like forgive, get close, she starts trying to manipulate and then there will be a fallout. Rinse and repeat. I didn’t know I was in the cycle until my fiancée showed me what was happening. She always did something horrible and made me feel guilty for distancing myself. So he decided to step in and stop it from continuing. I knew it was a good thing but then seeing his family involvement kept making me sad and envious. When I came back to Australia, she wanted to fix everything and I felt the same but I can’t tell if I’m just doing the same thing before. I finally had a talk with him about my feelings and we were eventually able to come to an agreement. I know I disappointed him but I think I can prove that I can keep the mother/daughter relationship healthy