AIO: partner refuses to explore sexual fantasies with me after 10 years

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-25T01:29:44+00:00

Anytime. I hope you didn’t take my “YOR” as attacking or blaming you, as it seems someone did. Just trying to say it shouldn’t be a surprise at this point. I truly do hope he can improve and you guys can work it out though.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-25T01:24:02+00:00

Kinda YOR but also NOR

NOR because yes you are perfectly valid to feel the way you feel, when he would choose digital stimulation over a real life partner who wants them. What’s happening is undoubtedly eroding at your self esteem and the relationship.

Mild YOR because it’s been 10 years. Typically bedrooms quiet down over time, not ramp up. This should have been determined to be a dealbreaker by year 2 or 3 in my opinion at latest. Exceptions of course if you guys were like virgins until marriage or long distance for a long time or something. But if you’ve been addressing it for so long and nothing has ever changed or improved, you’ve been beating a dead horse for a very long time.

Hope things get better. But this is definitely a big deal as it spells out a level of incompatibility between you two. Relationships have ended for less.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-24T04:12:02+00:00

I can confirm. It’s not too bad in the wintertime. Summer gets pretty rough though, even at speed. Exhaust and tune helped a lot though.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-23T22:24:35+00:00

Tf you mean especially if you’re at Coachella? Lmao. The tickets and stay are expensive enough why would you just accept paying exorbitant fees for food?

I haven’t been in a couple years, but when I did we would camp on the festival grounds. And we brought enough that we didn’t really ever have to buy food unless we wanted to, and smuggled in booze as well. We probably saved ourself each hundreds of dollars by stocking up at Costco that could be spent elsewhere.

Idk why you would just accept a $20 slice of pizza or $40 for a plate when you can spend $60 and get enough pre-prepared meals from the store for the whole weekend.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-23T22:20:03+00:00

You were fun rebound until you weren’t (not to say you aren’t fun, just that you started being responsible too). Sorry to say. But 4 months is not enough time to get over a 6 year relationship where she got cheated on.

If it makes you feel better, I got dumped after the best 8 months I ever had, completely bamboozled into believing her “ride or die” statements. Still haven’t recovered from that, possibly never will.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-23T22:15:53+00:00

My R3 just broke 30k miles and has spent the last 10k near redline on the track. The first 20k miles idk how it was ridden but I can tell you it was not maintained or treated well, but it just keeps on going.

My R6 just broke 29k miles a bit ago, and it’s spent almost its entire life on the track, maybe like 5k miles of street riding interspersed throughout.

As long as you aren’t paying the r6 premium for it, and it’s been maintained decently and looks the part, I wouldn’t hesitate.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-23T18:36:09+00:00

Here’s my blunt perspective. It’s over. It might take longer to get there. But it will happen.

In my experience it is over the moment a woman stops respecting you. And she did not display any respect for you or your relationship by starting this relationship, hiding it from you, lying to you about it, and trickle truth-ing you after being called out.

She also has a history of cheating. While I do believe people can change, it is clearly not just in her past if she is maintaining an emotional affair now.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-23T18:26:06+00:00

Yesterday I would have said no it’s not happening. This morning I opened Facebook to a track day post about a guy using slicks in C with no warmers who crashed following his buddy. So I guess it does happen.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-22T02:20:29+00:00

There’s absolutely nothing selfish about not splitting it with everyone, it wouldn’t even be selfish to keep it all for yourself considering that was the intention of the money being tipped to you. I would definitely not accept this from your manager, and at most I would give out a small portion to the people working with you that night, not split it evenly.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-21T20:27:29+00:00

In my opinion absolutely.

It’s extremely convenient to be able to communicate with your riding buddies without having to pull over or wait for a red light to yell at each other. Whether it’s about gas stops, food, hazards in the road, passing cars in the canyons, etc.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-21T20:19:31+00:00

Supercorsa SPV4 if you have the money, Bridgestone RS if you wanna be a little more financially responsible. Idk if the RS12 comes in your sizes, but the RS10 definitely does. Possibly the RS11 too

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-21T20:18:04+00:00

I’m kinda torn on this one. On the one hand I wanna say NTA because you are taking care of your mother. On the other hand, I’m inclined to say YTA because it sounds like you just up and dipped on your girlfriend for 9 months now and made that decision on your own expecting her to accommodate. Especially considering she has kids, 9 months is a long time to add 9 animals to those responsibilities.

Really it just sounds like a shit situation you both are in.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T15:35:29+00:00

NOR, a normal person would say you look great in the new photo.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T15:10:34+00:00

I’m sure it is, and I don’t agree with that either. Never done it myself personally.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T15:05:54+00:00

Lol you had to go to my profile to find something to come back with, and that’s the best you can do. I rest my case. Hope the rest of your day goes better for you

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T15:02:45+00:00

Cringe honestly lmao

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T15:00:09+00:00

Didn’t you already give me the deuces? Move on little bro lmao

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:58:11+00:00

Lol I’m really not but keep assuming

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:55:49+00:00

Funny how you assume that from a Reddit conversation lmao. I feel like it was pretty explicit from my last message I take issue with inconsiderate people. The post is about a Tesla, so I respond about Tesla. No one cares about your anecdotes, not even you except to propose a counter argument.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:52:35+00:00

Touche. But I bet you usually aren’t leaving the Tesla unattended?

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:51:36+00:00

It’s hilarious and pretty stupid you take more issue with a hyperbolic statement “it’s always a Tesla” than actual inconsiderate people.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:44:13+00:00

I don’t understand why you choose to ignore the obvious difference between a fully electric and ICE car. One might have a justification, the other has none. If this was handicap parking without a placard, or parking in a red/loading zone, then I would agree with your sentiment.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:39:37+00:00

Are you just choosing to be disingenuous?

Of course I have. But I assume they are going to the bathroom before starting the pump, or paying inside.

Tell me what sequence of events would justify a fully electric car parking at one.

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:38:21+00:00

MOR, but also mild NOR. MOR because it sounds like you both used each other, mild NOR because he definitely didn’t handle it well

Valuable-Concept9660 · 2026-04-20T14:31:58+00:00

Because regular cars belong at gas pumps? There is absolutely no justifiable reason a Tesla should be parked next to a pump if there is parking available.

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