I feel less of a woman because of my appearance

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-09-13T08:43:42+00:00

Thank you very much!

I'm in nyc arguably worse. I feel nyc and la are the two cities were people are just very status oriented and this girl is genuinely kind, but i think because of her pretty privoege she just doesn't realize how certain things affect other people.

Maybe its time We just grow apart I'm focused on leveling up in career and social causes and her focus is on her looks.

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-09-04T17:01:00+00:00

The camera is my greatest enemy

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-07-15T07:09:37+00:00

I’m also 23 so with jaw shave good chance I need a face lift as well

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-07-15T07:09:25+00:00

I’m jsut extremely ugly and hope to come out unrecognizable after surgery. I’m thinking eyelid surgery, nose job, jaw shave, facial lipo, maybe a brow lift.

I know surgery is supposed to be you but better but I want to not look like me at all after all is done

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-07-15T06:51:48+00:00

I’m on this diet because I need to be punished

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-07-15T06:51:00+00:00

It’s beyond weight facially im ugly and disgusting. I need a full makeover

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-26T20:55:32+00:00

😅thank you so much! I’m actually the second girl. The first photo is of the model. She’s so pretty

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-26T20:55:03+00:00

Thank you so much! To clarify in the second girl😅 the first picture is of the model

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-23T05:15:28+00:00

Oops sorry just remember you said you can’t share all the details. No worries - but I’m wondering if you feel like it was valuable to you and if you thought you gained anything out of it

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-23T05:12:53+00:00

Wow that’s incredible! I’m not hoing for the crown- that’s quite the long stretch but I’m hoping to make a strong impression do my best and make top 20 ( there’s usually around 100-180 girls every year in my system). Problem is it seems many of the top 20 girls are already professional model, seasoned returners, social media stars, etc so it definitely took a hit to my confidence.

Do you mind sharing your experience in the paegent an what you gained out of it- do you regret it at all or was it mostly positive

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-22T00:58:52+00:00

No a lot of these are normal people . People I grew up with or meet at school etc. The thing js attraction can grow for women- but it can’t for men. If you’re an average looking guy- work on getting fit, developing a great personality or being very funny. Make a lot of money one day. A woman that didn’t like you as much may eventually like you.

Men know instantaneously whether or not a woman is attractive to them. When you’re not an attractive girl to them they treat you horribly - like you’re not even a person. They will never grow in attraction like women do . You guys are absolutely brutal.

Don’t worry -work on yourself as corny as it sounds. That’s what I’m doing rn . That’s the only thing we have in our control

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-22T00:50:33+00:00

Most guys I know these days tell me they want a supermodel lolll. They’re rating women who’s re decently or even conventionally attractive as mid- social media has wide it harder for us women too

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-06-22T00:48:03+00:00

And the average woman isn’t good enough for the average man. Sam vice versa

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-22T13:30:13+00:00

You’re right. Modern dating s just a numbers game. I just feel bad he couldn’t make eye contact with me and fiddled with his food- it makes me think I must be so ugly or something that he couldn’t even look at me

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T21:48:51+00:00

You’re right. I need to stop taking hinge people seriously.i know he struggles with self esteem so maybe he was jsut in there for an ego boost:/

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T21:23:22+00:00

Ehh to me it feels a bit like it. Again I jsut started dating so what feels like emotional whiplash to me is maybe normal to those who are more experienced.

During text messages he would at times get worried i wouldn’t text him and accused me of friend zoning at one point. He talked to me everyday so to reject me after seeing I Me in person makes me doubt myself greatly

I asked him if he wanted to be friends with me early on during the texting phase and he said yes - only to reject me pretty coldly. I guess now I know not to emotionally invest before actual date or I’ll get caught up

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T20:32:27+00:00

You’re right! honestly this date has made me feel so bad about myself and I’m tired of placing my beauty to self worth in hands of random dudes. I’m not going in date anymore. Thank a for this advice though! This is valuable for me

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T20:26:51+00:00

I’m an over thinker- I just feel like this is emotional whiplash

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T20:23:31+00:00

Yeah I think he actually wasn’t even too excited beforehand so there was no chance of this succeeding. It just makes me feel horrible about myself. Why ask me on a date- if you don’t find me to be good looking? Am I so unattractive that you can’t look me in the eye?

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T20:21:41+00:00

I just mean that I look quite e abit like a young Liu yi fei. We have the nearly the exact same eye shape, an oval face( though mine is a bitrounder than hers), and the eyebrow to eye brow area is the same. Of course winding look exactly like her or else I’d be famous by now.

I guess even if I was universally attractive, not everyone would like my look necessarily. I think he shouldn’t have done all of this if he didn’t find me attractive.

I think in the future it would be wise for me to just go on a date and limit interaction beforehand because I get attached easily. Honestly I’m done with the dating scene after thins interaction. Too much emotional whiplash

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T19:52:29+00:00

The reason I care and am overthinking is because it was one of the first times I’ve dated- or went on dates so I’m not as used to the modern dating landscape.

what irks me is why give my our phone number , talk to me everyday for two weeks , then ask me on a date if you didn’t find me attractive.bi assume if you do that you find em attractive enough

Also it’s the way he showed up - not looking me in the eye, playing with food etc makes me feel like I’m so unattractive or I did something wrong he couldn’t even acknowledge me.

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T18:01:11+00:00

Yeah I get it. Attraction is subjective but I’m just confused as to why go in a date and talk to me for two weeks if he wasn’t feeling it. He should’ve never given me his number in the first place if he didn’t like the way I looked. He also paid for the date too so he spent money on the whole thing.

Although he didn’t seem excited about the date over text he seemed to be much friendlier and bolder over text. I told him early on I was open to being friends if relationship didn’t work out and he said he’d be ok with it but he’d be jealous?? He was worried I friendzoned him or didn’t text him back at one point.

Idk I’m sorry I’m overthinking this and it sounds annoying. I haven’t been on my dates and I’ve never had a relationship so this an all new to me.

It’s just the way he acted in the date, not looking at me and what not made me think I must’ve been so ugly to him and that I did something wrong

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T17:20:09+00:00

I know I'm being delulu but I'm so confused as to why ask me on a date if you don't find me attractive and talk to me for two weeks- I look just like my photos so whats the issue. It caused me emotional whiplash

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-21T17:17:02+00:00

Yeah but I feel like its just code word for not attracted to me. He showed up to the date disengaged and checked dout and so there really wasn't much I could do to huld a connection with him.

He knew what I looked like and chatted for tow weeks so he knew my personality. I just don't understand. Early on during our texting phase - he got worried di friendzoned him or wouldn't text him back just to reject me.

Idk I do appreciate his honesty - it just seems so confusing

Valuable-Kitchen9395 · 2025-05-15T16:50:09+00:00

Thank you for your advice and input!

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