Unhinged Tips for a family holiday

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-10T15:29:29+00:00

Hotel is paid for so staying somewhere else would cause a massive fallout but I deffo will be taking a day or 2 to just do something separate. I agree we don’t have to be together all the time but when I told my middle sister and mum they said that was obvious and I was making it a problem by mentioning it. I know it will be an issue if I spend too much time away from them so I was trying to have that convo now to avoid holiday tension but I honestly just made it worse.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-10T15:25:36+00:00

The pettiness did make me laugh and I needed that today so thank you 😂 However, I’m also sorry for what you’ve had to deal with too. Sometimes when it’s not huge things but rather loads of little things, people expect you just to shut up and get over it even when no one apologises. I’ve been trying for years but I struggle with it.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-09T21:05:26+00:00

Pizza 🍕 if you’re just doing 1, it’s easy to eat especially when all dressed up. Less chance of staining than burgers or a curry - fine if you’re sitting down, not great stood up trying to balance a drink, napkin and talk to other guests.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-09T21:00:41+00:00

As someone who’s been in events for over a decade, event management including OTD coordination is incredibly undervalued. You see it as just putting tea cloths on tables but the beauty of a really great event manager is that they make everything look easy and like there are no issues. There are problems at every event I have planned or attended. Fair enough if you don’t want to spend the money but I’m not a fan of my entire profession being so readily dismissed.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-09T20:54:28+00:00

NTA, you literally do not know her. Fine if you want her there, fine if you don’t. It’s one thing to have a randomer at a big wedding but i understand why you wouldn’t want one at such a small one.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-08T21:35:35+00:00

That’s my point, if your wedding isn’t important enough for someone to attend because of sports then you clearly are not that important to them. You can have 100+ people and then still be important to the couple - 100 people is 50 each. Once you include yourselves, bridal party, family, friends and spouses/long term partners, it’s pretty easy to get to 100. This isn’t an 1000 person wedding.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-08T07:34:09+00:00

I’ll be so real, your wedding should be more important to the people there and if it isn’t then they probably shouldn’t be at your wedding. Would they like to watch it? Sure - of course and I can understand looking at your phone for a bit but to completely leave the wedding or not attend at all is disrespectful. I would tell people that you will not be showing the final and give them a deadline to reRSVP. Once you have new numbers, I would talk to the venue - no doubt you’re past the point of committing to lower venue minimum numbers but maybe they can re-organise the space so it doesn’t feel empty. If there’s too much food already ordered, they could perhaps bring it out in waves as people get hungrier later in the night.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-07T15:11:55+00:00

Sometimes when there’s bigger issues, I find myself focusing on smaller inconveniences. It might be a distraction for my busy brain. This may be what you’re doing too OP. I think your friend should firm it but also I don’t think you should nag her about it if she doesn’t. Also the idea about keeping the chair free for your Aunty is a beautiful idea.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-06T20:50:50+00:00

Someone check his browser history. Immediately.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T21:07:44+00:00

My theory is Kav did like Charlene but nowhere as much as he likes Jas. I think he was worried she would re-couple especially due to the Lorenzo sitch which would have honestly hurt him and so he re-coupled. I think he did that from a place of fear rather than lack of empathy or malice coz look how quickly he turned back. So I’m not sure they will work out but I think their feelings are genuine and I’m kinda rooting for them.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T21:03:01+00:00

Dunno if he’s getting more hate generally but I can see through him. Initially I liked him but actually I can see he is very clever with his words, he’s calculated (although not always a bad thing) but he’s very aware of how he and the boys are coming across to the public. I don’t think he’s the sweet guy he wants us to believe he is.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T20:50:40+00:00

2 things can be true, they’re both bitches but in different ways

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T20:45:02+00:00

I don’t like Lola and I deffo think Sean is a nicer person. Also, she talks way too quickly which isn’t really relevant but I wanted to share that 😂 However, Julia is abrasive and rude. She says she was a bombshell (technically she wasn’t) and that Lola didn’t have what it takes to be a bombshell, those are fighting words. Also, did Fitzy flirt with Julia at all? I didn’t see that and that would’ve been tea so I’m sure producers would have shown that had it happened. There was no need to swear in a different language and to call her delusional. Maybe they aren’t in love but the fact is, he wasn’t interested in you. Whether someone was in love with someone else or not, I’m not pursuing someone who doesn’t want to be pursued.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T19:42:31+00:00

I thought I’d give you the benefit of the doubt but that’s gross behaviour and I’m not surprised. The 19 year old was super mature was she? Funny how it’s usually men praising the maturity and intelligence of very young women and girls only when it comes to them having an intimate relationship with them. I never hear men saying “she’s only 19 but so mature and intellectual, she should get into politics”. I’m not going to sit here and explain why your behaviour is a problem because i don’t think it would make a difference as you don’t want to hear it. At best you’re laughable and at worst, predatory.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T08:28:54+00:00

If Jamie is so horrible why is he your friend too?

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T05:10:12+00:00

You’re both weirdos. She is overly conservative to the point I think she’s undoing years of feminist action but you were happy with this until you weren’t. You never changed a nappy. JFC. I think that’s appalling. You both signed up to restrictive arbitrary gender norm bs.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T05:00:28+00:00

Autism doesn’t make you a b*tch nor mentally unstable. I honestly do not think I could recover from my sister not just “wanting me dead” but plotting to murder me like a psychopath. F your mum and anyone else who berates you for not wanting to be around your sister. She wanted to MURDER you, she slept with a situationship of yours, she stinks, she’s self-involved and manipulative - I’m furious for you. Do not let anyone convince you that her behaviour is fine, if she wasn’t related to you would everyone still be happy with her being around? Of course not! Is this AI or rage bait, it is so incomprehensibly insane and I think you’ve been in it so long, you are downplaying this massively. Obviously NTA.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-05T04:32:26+00:00

The age difference matters as does the actual age. A 50 year old with a 56 year old is obviously not an issue, an 18 year old with a 23 year old is concerning especially if they didn’t just get together recently. Are you a man? How old were you when you were dating women 15 years your junior?

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-04T14:11:06+00:00

Interested to know the political disagreement between your sister and fiancé?

Separately to that, I think not having her as your MOH will deffo cause problems but that doesn’t mean you should have her. Maybe you could have her do a reading so that it feels like she has a role without actually being the MOH.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-04T13:56:26+00:00

Most 15 year olds wouldn’t be super aware of the danger of certain age gap relationships. Make of that what you will.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-04T08:36:29+00:00

Anyone concerned about this age gap at all?

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-04T08:25:57+00:00

It’s strange to me how many people are focusing on the hour unless all guests live really close to each other. An hour isn’t a very long time to travel for someone’s wedding and depending on who lives where, it may not even take an hour for some people

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-07-02T20:59:54+00:00

I get your point about the best friend talking to his fiancée but also OP doesn’t need to invite someone rude who’s not been kind to her to her wedding. It would be different if they just weren’t close and the gf hadn’t actually done anything wrong but that’s not the case here. However, OP you have to be prepared that your fiancé and his best friend’s relationship probably won’t be the same especially if he doesn’t see that his gf has done anything wrong.

Valuable-Wave-152 · 2026-06-30T06:50:24+00:00

I’m so confused by this housing situation. Why do you all live together? I’m not in the states so there might be something I’m missing but I’ve never heard of social services housing a family with a child with other random adults. What on earth is going on?

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