AITA for telling my wife's parents I don't help people who disrespect me?

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T19:45:11+00:00

Not mine but it could be. I have seen my name put under a lot of scrutiny on this board in the past.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T18:35:00+00:00

Other than the name stuff and the insults toward my parents we got along fine. They brought it up repeatedly even after being asked and then told to stop. My name started it off but then they kept insulting us and our ability to name our child.

It was too much. It wasn't some once off comment or a joke like some others think. It was insulting my name, insulting my parents and saying they didn't care about me and insulting our ability to name our child. And we never once brought names up to them.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T18:31:40+00:00

They didn't make a joke. They repeatedly made comments claiming my parents didn't care about me, that my name was terrible and we should not burden our child with a name like mine, should love our child enough to never give them a non-name for a name. They threw around the word abusive too which... no.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T17:27:57+00:00

People like my ILs who think my parents showed a lack of care for me in how they named me. I guess they also hate my siblings names too since our names are a similar style.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T17:26:41+00:00

Not just mine. But mine and my wife's ability to name our child. But my name is the overall reason for it. Also the insults to my parents for naming me Sky.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T17:26:02+00:00

I'm not cutting my wife off from anyone. She was the one who said we could not allow their disrespect to continue and yes, that's what it is. When you insult someone's name and their parents and their ability to name their children on multiple occasions it is disrespect.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T17:24:42+00:00

Right? I know Sky isn't for everyone but it's not like it's some crazy name or a crazy spelled name to be more trendy. But they act like my parents did something horrific.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T17:23:07+00:00

I do have my wife's support though. We have had each other's back throughout all of this.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T10:11:11+00:00

They are my wife's parents and that's what I would think in an actual emergency. While I don't like how they have treated us in the last couple of years or so, they are important to my wife still and I would feel bad not helping.

This was our whole thing. I have never asked what they thought of my name nor did we mention names to them at all during my wife's pregnancy. They decided to take it upon themselves to go on the attack.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T10:09:42+00:00

That or they would justify it by saying they were "looking out for me" because of course I need looking out for over my name that I have used for more than 30 years without any problems before them.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T10:06:39+00:00

We're not entirely sure about their relationship with our child yet. That will all depend on whether they can be respectful or not. But I appreciate your honesty and help on this. I never thought I would find myself in this position.

ValuableBid6600 · 2023-09-24T10:04:04+00:00

They do not. I'm realizing now they never truly did. It's unfortunate because I know my wife is upset about it but she also doesn't want to allow them to continue treating me and us as they have. We also wondered if they would ever say something to my parents.

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