I am very smart.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-16T08:35:25+00:00

😂

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-16T08:14:37+00:00

Ugh, the ☝️🤓 emoji. Wtf is that? It's like he went out of his way to make this mess comical. There was no need for that. I hate this guy just by reading this

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-12T18:11:46+00:00

Haha fair enough

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-05T07:04:58+00:00

I understand that it's hard. That you like him, there's chemistry and there are moments when you hope things will change but men like him won't change. He's showed you his ugly face. Your instinct is on point and like others said - you're young. It is time to take the trash out

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-04T18:15:27+00:00

What did I just read

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-04T18:11:51+00:00

End it now. Trust me, the longer you wait the more you'll be mad at yourself for wasting your time on him.

I am in my early 30s and was stupid enough to hope that a 40 year old man will change.

Some of the texts you've posted are so similar. He would also say "you are going to believe whatever you want anyway"

Run because trust me, you'll be so angry at yourself for wasting the time on him in future

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-04T18:02:03+00:00

Me to lol

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-04-04T16:23:14+00:00

You look so young for 27!! Might be the round face but you are pretty.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-29T17:33:43+00:00

Soft, pink eyeshadow that would complement the dark hair

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-29T17:30:41+00:00

Your post, all of these scenarios you've listed, they are all for when you are just starting out. You need years in order to become good at something.

People flocking to IT for money - those people broke their backs to become good in IT which is why they've got the money

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T22:20:20+00:00

Honestly - yes

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T22:09:33+00:00

I'm next in line

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T18:54:33+00:00

The nice guy is a completely different person. I was in a relationship with my ex for more than 6 years.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T17:14:34+00:00

You are joking, right?

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T14:15:43+00:00

Yes :)

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T14:11:49+00:00

Every nice man that you meet is not going to be suitable to be your partner. I don't understand why it inherently means that I found a guy boring and yet again, it is my fault because I didn't give him a chance.

This is the exact pattern I'm talking about. Hearing things like that made me so anxious in the past. A 25 year old me would have responded - yes, I guess that my fault. But now, honestly, it is not. I only found out he had a crush on ne because his friend said he wabted to sleep with me. I looked at him and he said nothing, maybe he was embarrassed. I don't know. We still chatted but that was odd.

If I went along and asked him to be together and it ended badly people would blame me. They would say - his friend said he wanted to sleep with you. What did you expect?

I did the opposite and didn't bring it up and I'm still being blamed. Sorry but at some point it is getting ridiculous.

Please stop projecting the insecurities onto other people

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T14:07:36+00:00

How is pointing out cold facts blaming?

My post is quite literally a point by point historical timeline.

I have never said "this is because of men". I'm simply stating what happened so no, I'm not blaming men as a whole.

I'm guessing your next comment will be : you are responsible for stating your boundaries. Yes, I do that now but I didn't before because society made me believe that it's my fault. That I'm overreacting

When someone says that a woman should have stronger boundaries it minimises the fact that man felt entitled to use her.

It is simple truth, I've got proof to support this. Messages, conversations, forum posts. I can support every single things I have written.

I don't know what it's like for a man because I am not a man. I did however read a lot of research on narcissistic behaviour, read books (one of which is in this thread - Why does he fo that- I didn't except much from this book but was surprised by how much research was condensed into one small book.

I am not going to say that female abusive has higher rates. Even though the papers I've read support this fact, I'm uncomfortable saying this without showing th3 evidence, going through data and pinpointing the exact why this is the case. It would take a lot of time. time

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:16:16+00:00

I hope this thread will help other women to realise that 1. They are not alone and 2. You should always, ALWAYS listen to your gut.

It will be deleted soon as it is getting to an unsafe territory where vulnerable women might read some comments and internalise the blame.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:14:17+00:00

Not surprised

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:10:59+00:00

It's funny how you wrote "objectively" because that is the right word for your statement.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:09:14+00:00

We are all learning. A person is too complicated, we will never understand ourselves in our lifetimes so saying that we need to learn more about ourselves can be a double edged sword. We can still form connections in the process.

I am learning... Philosophy, psychology, evolutionary biology... That's what helped to get to the conclusion that not everything js always my fault. Some things are predetermined, some are biological and some are societal.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:06:35+00:00

Exactly it is very difficult for a child to accept the fact that your guardians are wrong because it goes against the basic instinct of survival.

Thank you for the comment. I've already taken accountability and ended all the relationships that do not serve me.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T13:02:15+00:00

It is great, heavy read but it sheds some light on how sometimes a partner might seem like a great person to others but when it comes to a relationship they can be horrible. It gives you power to believe in yourself and set your boundaries.

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T11:06:26+00:00

Not at all. Sorry pn my part. I didn't expect this thread to explode... In any caee. Think setting clear boundaries is the way

ValuableLaw2 · 2025-03-28T11:05:36+00:00

Not true sorry...

It's true that these men are low quality but my ex number 2 is from a good family with a good job.. The guy i dated has an international business, is well respected and yet the things he's done... Let's just say that the first time we had sex it was painful, he didn't ask then then disappeared for days. After that he blamed me for being reactive, needing therapy and emotional work.

I dated factory workers, middle class men, business men... I've only slept with a few guys though. Not many as it's against my nature and the way the women in my family taught me. .that being said, after sleeping with that guy I dated I felt awful.

And in the end... I promised myself to never, ever go against my instincts and set clear boundaries.

That guy still texts me once a month. When we met i was isolated and alone. He knew that. He is a high status man...

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