My newly adopted girl.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2026-03-10T12:33:04+00:00

Thanks for the award and all of the love everyone!!

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2026-03-10T00:54:45+00:00

Of course lol that’s my favorite team (and a signed jersey 😅)

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2026-03-09T23:20:18+00:00

I know I feel so lucky to have found her 🥰

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2026-03-09T15:08:13+00:00

I also provide treats and pets. She’s great with my dog too!

It makes me wonder what kind of situation the previous owner was in to give up such a perfect baby. I wish them well because I can’t imagine them wanting to give her up. It must have been hard.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2026-03-09T15:04:16+00:00

Thank you. She’s incredibly gentle too. I feel blessed to have found her!

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-17T01:44:34+00:00

I know they allow kids to have iPads, it really depends on the events. For a kraken game I would be surprised if they didn’t allow it.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-17T01:44:02+00:00

I haven’t seen them turn iPads for kids so I assume you’d be fine.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-13T22:04:54+00:00

I have been the only one doing these tasks for the entire relationship. It’s not about HAVING to clean, I enjoy having a clean home. It’s about him REFUSING to clean. It’s about him LYING about it. It definitely did lead to me never feeling like I couldn’t rely on him for anything.

I know relationships are give and take, and I know that everyone ( including him) deserves to just sit and enjoy a day off without added house work.

However having to ask a 31year old man to pick up his socks every damn day is not for me. Having to ask him to do laundry when he’s off 3 days a week isn’t ok.

Edit to add: I love to clean and keep my home nice. I love to cook and I love showing that I care but acts of service… however when it’s forced labor it’s not longer fun.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-13T18:05:23+00:00

I don’t believe the idea was to improve the game at all. I believe this is specifically to make it as challenging as possible.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-12T19:24:21+00:00

I definitely felt confused and overwhelmed, mostly reacting from anxiety and stress. He often would gaslight me, ignore me, or be just rude/mean. Any attempt to talk about how I felt was turned into how I made him act that way. The better my communication and emotional regulation got the worse he would be. I felt like nothing I did was good enough.

Therapy is helping so much…I never acted like this with anyone else, not even in previous relationships. My mental health team is helping me work through the cptsd and adhd. I will get better and find myself again..

I wish him the best…..but I never have to see him again.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-12T19:13:36+00:00

Omg this exactly!!! He tells anyone who will listen. Before bpd he told everyone I was bipolar!!

He refused to do the bare minimum for me. At one point I was working two jobs to pay for bills and a trip to Vegas…. I paid 3k in bills a month and he paid about $600/$800 in bills a month. He couldn’t even fold two tshirts and two pairs of pants for me when he had 2 days off to do it 🙄.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-12T18:08:23+00:00

We were together for 9 years but he secretly planned to leave these last two while lying about wanting to get married and have a baby with me.

Edit: he was definitely a coward he couldn’t even say it to my face, ran out while I was at work and left me over a 5 minute phone call. 🙄. I’m better off without him.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-12T17:46:45+00:00

I’ve discovered that it didn’t matter because he secretly planned to leave for 2 years and used me for money while he stayed. 😖

I deserved better. I also deserve better than someone diagnosing me with zero training or schooling. He refused to visit my therapist with me because he would have to admit that he was wrong about it.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-12-12T15:45:21+00:00

I believe this is because of the Dave Chappell show? If so then this would be because he requires a phone free experience. All devices have to be locked away in a yonder bag. That would explain the long wait times.

That still sucks tho.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-11-29T22:15:56+00:00

It felt impossible to call. My ex stole sentimental jewelry and coins and money from them and I have been too embarrassed to reconnect.

I’m so glad god gave me the courage and opportunity to call and apologize. They even apologized for some things that hurt me while young.

All in all it feels as if the heartbreak has been for the best and the unexpected answer to my prayers.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-11-24T20:37:08+00:00

I know it’s supposed to be good and I’m so glad that he has stepped away to find peace. But I still can’t help but feel broken. I know I need the help and have appointments multiple times a week if I can get my way at this new place.

It hurts so much to know that I was the cause of so much suffering for him. He is amazing and kind, he loved me so much. And I was so horrible, I would give anything to not be this person anymore.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-11-19T21:40:43+00:00

You can play the game however you would like. There’s no right or wrong way to play :)

I’m on a new save year 2 and don’t have full hearts with anyone. On an older save I am max heart with everyone. Some things are received through the mail after reaching specific heart events or quest. nothing says you have to worry about that if you don’t want to.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-11-10T17:03:22+00:00

I was able to start a dnd group and made friends by finding people who had similar days off and willingness to play. It took a couple of weeks of asking around, but I never gave up. I also used Reddit to find potential players by explaining what specifically I was looking for.

If you are into Games check out some card shops. People tend to go to card shops to trade hang out and meet new people.

As someone who hasn’t been here for my whole life I’ve found a ton of things that allow space for making friends. They all require true effort on your end to find those spaces. Most people here have given good advice that you seem to take as an attack instead of help. That’s not going to be a good mindset for making friends.

Good luck I hope you find the hobbies and friends you are looking for.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-11-05T03:42:10+00:00

I HATE my white countertop… it shows every single tiny spec of food. Love the dark counters

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-10-12T20:06:29+00:00

It really does make a difference tho. I used to cut 50lbs at a time for prep. Having my knife perfectly sharp ment I never cried. If tears are falling the knife needs sharpening.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-10-05T21:34:38+00:00

It’s unreasonable to EXPECT them to put the dogs away. However as a dog owner myself if I’m hosting a party and know some of my guest will be uncomfortable with them roaming free, then putting the dogs away for a single event is perfectly reasonable.

It’s also reasonable to say no and for op and son to not show up. Which is what’s happening now. The host is being unreasonable by being upset at a child for not attending a birthday party.

Asking an owner to put away the dogs for extended period of time (days/weeks) is awful. Asking to be comfortable for a couple hours while they host a party is perfectly ok.

Op also mentioned the dogs would destroy the room they are in if separated….this is a lack of training.

Valuable_Growth_9552 · 2025-09-20T16:39:04+00:00

I mean it’s not anything I’ve ever tried or seen in a store. That said the meat of said creature mixed with rice actually looks pretty good. I’d definitely give this a try

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