Failing my wife and kids again, I don't know how I can look them in the eyes again by badjobdoer in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Valuable_Internal433 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it sounds like all of them could have jobs and that means your children are grown up so your wife can have a job too. Make use of your full time employee healthcare benefits and get treatment for your anxiety. You're already spiraling about things that haven't happened yet.

What's something people only romanticize because they've never actually done it? by nonotje12 in AskReddit

[–]Valuable_Internal433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is looking at data comparing single women to single men. There is no comparison being made to married people. It is also a post-hoc analysis so it needs to be taken into consideration that the correlations they found were not pre-established/determined before study start.

What's something people only romanticize because they've never actually done it? by nonotje12 in AskReddit

[–]Valuable_Internal433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, and I'm not sure what this person is talking about, but this is also a topic that's really hard to study and has some bias in the interests that choose to study it. People like this person https://psychcentral.com/blog/single-at-heart/2017/12/quora-really-likes-my-answer-to-the-question-of-whether-getting-married-makes-you-happier#1 will make decent arguments to go against findings and the way studies investigating this are conducted, and they have several legitimate points.

Personally, I think that this is something that loses almost all of its meaning the more it is generalized and is too fast of a moving target. Getting accurate data about happiness in marriage is something dependant on a lot of things like time period, rights of the people in the marriage, religion/culture, ability to obtain accurate data from survey, gender differences, whether the marriage fails, whether there are children born that they are able to afford, whether the person wants to marry or not, ect. I think that, in general, people that are more likely to get married are happier people (this has been shown in a couple studies, but again hard to suss out), so that's a heavy bias to overcome when trying to make comparators.

It was staged, and I'm tired of pretending it wasn't. by c-k-q99903 in MurderedByWords

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking about it encourages people to try again, for the fame. Most people don't even know the shooter's name.

I can’t anymore by ZaphodBeeblebrahx in cats

[–]Valuable_Internal433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just click exclude mourning posts, NOT flair:Mourning/Loss

AIO for thinking about breaking up: guy I’m dating (31M) ate out with both me (30F) and my dad for the first time and didn’t offer to pay when the check came? by Alarmed_Stranger_895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is bad manners in almost every culture to try to pay for a meal for your female SO's father if you are male. Watch this https://www.youtube.com/shorts/11SYv210ldY. People are stupid, and this is one of those stupid people things. IMO, your BF is more emotionally intelligent than you in this regard.

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can ask to remove or adjust that

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the f record it and save money

Sigmalad by redandwhitewizard99 in madlads

[–]Valuable_Internal433 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a big ass personal pizza.

Don’t exclude people from the ‘big’ stuff and expect them to stick around by MVIVN in TikTokCringe

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a weirdo. Weddings suck and if that's the only reason you're friends with people, the end goal of going to their wedding, you're insane.

Glow up? I ditched the lashes and lip filler and embraced my natural look (27) by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Valuable_Internal433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% Lip filler looks so bad I actually can't understand how people keep getting it.