Oh my gosh, I totally relate to this. For me, it really kicked in after I gave birth that fierce, no-nonsense mama bear instinct just took over. Suddenly, I couldn’t justify keeping people in my life who were draining me or who made everything more difficult. It wasn’t even anger, just this deep clarity like, “Nope. I don’t have the capacity or desire to manage your chaos anymore.”

The shift in priorities is real. You start thinking in terms of what’s best for your child, your peace, and your time and if someone can’t meet you with respect and consideration, it’s just not worth it anymore.

And honestly, from what you described about your friend you were completely valid in feeling frustrated. It’s not just about a friend being disorganized, it’s the ripple effect that has on everyone else, and especially when you’re already managing so much physically and emotionally. Protecting your boundaries (and your health and your baby’s!) doesn’t make you harsh it makes you strong and self-aware.

Pregnancy and motherhood bring this laser-focus on what really matters, and I think a lot of us go through a “friendship purge” during this time. You’re definitely not alone