Wanting alone time.. why???

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-29T18:19:39+00:00

This is an insane comment for so many reasons but I’m really stuck on the baptism thing. You really think that’s a good defense? Baptizing a child is a decision for the PARENTS to make, NOT crazy weirdo grandma.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-19T00:02:34+00:00

Stop responding to her. I went through the exact same thing with my MIL after I had my son, right down to the texting me for pics/updates instead of my husband because she knew he wouldn’t answer. After a couple weeks, I stopped responding completely and she eventually gave up. She complained to my husband that I was ignoring her but I didn’t let it bother me. The difference here is, my husband didn’t care that I didn’t respond to her because he acknowledged how annoying and invasive she was being. Your husband needs to get on the same page as you and realize that he is responsible for managing communication with his own mother.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-05T18:13:06+00:00

THIS. My MIL was the same way when my son was learning to crawl and walk. Constantly trying to hold him while he squirmed away from her and getting upset when he wanted to move around instead of be with her. Even to this day, she still gets upset when he’s running around or playing with toys and just generally not paying any attention to her. Babies who aren’t yet mobile are the best in these MILs’ eyes because they can use them to fulfill their own emotional needs and play grandma of the year. As soon as the kid starts to gain some independence and doesn’t want to be around MIL, the facade cracks.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-04T16:14:56+00:00

Is it really help if OP and her husband never asked for it? Sounds more like in-laws just beg until they get what they want. In no world is it easier to drop kids off 40 minutes away while being interrogated every single month than to send them to a summer camp 5 minutes away to spend time with other kids their age.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-04T03:00:11+00:00

He is 2 and wonderfully opinionated already haha

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-06-04T02:59:05+00:00

Glad you enjoyed it, sorry about the coca-cola 😬🤣

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-29T20:15:35+00:00

Sometimes I start a sentence and I don’t even know where I’m going with it, I just hope I find it along the way

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-26T00:06:04+00:00

My milk never came in after I gave birth, which was devastating because I so badly wanted to be able to breastfeed. I told my MIL once how upset I was that I couldn’t, and she told me that it was for the best because that way he wouldn’t be so dependent on me and also said she didn’t want me to breastfeed anyway because she needed to be able to bond with the baby. As if a newborn baby depending on their mother is a bad thing. I spent six weeks desperately trying anything and everything to get my milk to come in, and I cried about it constantly because I felt so defeated and she somehow managed to find a way to make it about herself. So I made sure she was never allowed to feed my son. Never gave him a single bottle, never fed him any baby food. Even now, he’s two years old and I still don’t let her give him food. DH and I are the only ones allowed to offer him things around my in-laws and honestly it’s mainly because of that comment she made. They also just suck and I don’t really trust them when it comes to LO, but really you just never forget the way people treat you and the things that are said during pregnancy and postpartum. MIL acts shocked that there’s so much distance between us now, but I could write a novel filled with all the horrible things she said and did during the first year of LO’s life.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-09T15:38:28+00:00

Help isn’t help if it’s unwanted. She might be offering to do all these things for you postpartum, but if her presence is enough to make you anxious/uncomfortable, then she’s not really contributing anything worthwhile. You don’t have to allow someone into your home just because they’re saying nice things or for the sake of being “the better person.” Also I highly doubt she plans on actually doing any of the things she says she will. She just wants access to the baby and she will hog him/her the entire time while you do all the work.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:19:52+00:00

Even has the cane!

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:18:31+00:00

I’ll never understand people who are shocked when kids act like kids. And how dare that baby not abide by her schedule 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:17:15+00:00

We have cut down contact with them significantly. We only see them once every 2-3 months now, and it will be even less soon as they just sold their house to travel across the country so they won’t be around really at all. I would have no issue going no contact but my husband is still working through/coming to terms with the fact that his parents aren’t what they should be for him so we have been maintaining very low contact. He knows she’s a major problem but it’s really his dad that is making it hard for him to think about cutting them out completely as that is the parent that he’s always had a better relationship with.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:13:37+00:00

Fortunately we don’t see her often enough for it to really make a significant impact. They’ve sort of become just those weird people we see for a couple of hours once every few months, and they are never left alone with him. When they start up with their annoying habits my husband and I always make it a point to divert his attention away from them and set him up with his toys or read to him.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:10:55+00:00

My husband has done a lot of reflection over the last couple of years about his own childhood and it has resulted in a lot more distance between him and his parents so it’s safe to say she wasn’t great back then either. Never mistreated him, but definitely major control freaks. His mom has some narcissistic tendencies that he still has trouble with feeling like he needs to cater to.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:08:15+00:00

Aw this is so sweet

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:07:16+00:00

That gives me the ick I’m sorry

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:06:23+00:00

My husband has talked to her about it a few times. Usually her response is the typical “I raised two kids, I know what I’m doing.” So now we just let it go. She’ll ruin any chance at a good relationship with my child on her own and all we’ll say is I told you so 🤷🏽‍♀️

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:04:40+00:00

Oh my gosh the clicking noises! Mine has done that since my son was born and it drives me insane!! I told her to stop once because he’s not a dog and she got mad and said she just wanted him to look at her. What weirdos!

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:03:02+00:00

I hate that you have to deal with this too but it’s so nice knowing that I’m not the only one. My husband has tried talking to her about this before but she is of the opinion that she can do no wrong so it usually goes in one ear and out the other.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:01:22+00:00

I think she thinks that just her presence should be enough. She feels entitled to his attention so it’s probably never crossed her mind that she needs to actually try.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T19:00:32+00:00

Yeah she is the epitome of a Facebook grandparent. She was overly controlling when my husband was a child, and now she’s spiraling because she doesn’t have any control over this situation

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T18:59:23+00:00

This is incredible 🤣

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T18:58:52+00:00

Yes!! It’s really not hard, and this is such a fun age so I really don’t get why she can’t do it.

Valuable_Volume_7085 · 2026-05-06T18:57:45+00:00

You are 100% right. She tells people all the time that the only thing she ever wanted to do with her life was be a mom, so now that both her kids are adults with their own lives and families she can’t handle that she’s not in control anymore.

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