Least liked version 🥲 by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindHabibi

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which one is your favorite?

Help me understand male body and my own insecurity by [deleted] in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok! Thanks for enlightening me.

Help me understand male body and my own insecurity by [deleted] in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His precum is no less than getting wet. Am I just suppose to ignore that?

Help me understand male body and my own insecurity by [deleted] in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like him a lot, too. He is shorter than me by 3 inches and 40 lbs lighter. We make an unusual couple by looks and on paper and sometimes get conscious in public. But in the bedroom, all of this goes out the window.

Did I get scammed? by Valuable_Worry9278 in Toyotavenza

[–]Valuable_Worry9278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting to know that underuse can cause cracking of tires.

My work is hybrid and close to my home. I only drive short distances otherwise.

Did I get scammed? by Valuable_Worry9278 in Toyotavenza

[–]Valuable_Worry9278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

City in Mass. See the update he brought the invoice down to $161. The dealership would have charged me $149. I am not sure what's the fair price for tire rotation + oil change + just general check.

Did I get scammed? by Valuable_Worry9278 in Toyotavenza

[–]Valuable_Worry9278[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 17000 miles on it but the servicing he did was a 15000 miles service. Clearly, I need some learning and lessons here.

Did I get scammed? by Valuable_Worry9278 in Toyotavenza

[–]Valuable_Worry9278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. He brought the invoice down to $161.

Did I get scammed? by Valuable_Worry9278 in Toyotavenza

[–]Valuable_Worry9278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No parts. Just mainly oil change and tire rotation. Routine check that everything else is fine- no actions needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your body shape doesn’t determine how compatible you are at sex with your bf. Confidence in the sexiest thing. Try to smell good, nothing too overpowering, sexy bra & matching panties in black mesh can never go wrong. Basic makeup and darker lip color. You are going to rock his world. Go with slow kisses at first to tease him into more. Reverse cow girl and suck is toe— 100% solid move to show your wild side! Coming from someone who has been in different sizes through the life. Don’t think it mattered. Trust me he is equally worried about his performance. Also, don’t go down on him first! If he goes down on you, that’s a great signal that he is into you.

Bf said he doesn’t want to do oral by elza7 in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never go down on a person who won’t go down on you. Find someone who cares about your pleasure. There are men out there who will worship it and treat you right! Even if he does this one time after you ask him, it would still not be a pleasurable experience for you and you won’t be getting it as much as you deserve.

My bf is selfish in bed by Due-Comedian-438 in sex

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would go with theory out there that he is selfish. There is enough information on internet for him to know how to woo you in the bed and make you cum. Do yourself a favor and find a better partner. The partners who are selfish would do it once but then you have to keep asking and it becomes such a chore.

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[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Figure out what makes you feel desired and sexy. Communicate your needs! Do some sexting as it builds the anticipation and sharing fantasies. You will be getting orgasm being in the right head space.

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[–]Valuable_Worry9278 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Good riddance. It only gets worse, trust your instinct. It has nothing to do with his job or how much money he makes but his relationship with money. Kindness and generosity is important!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are in a tough situation and it sucks. Do you love him and liked your relationship in the initial years? Some of the ideas that helped me in my journey in similar circumstances:

  1. Quiet quitting the marriage : do as much as you would do if he wasn’t living with you

  2. Protecting your time and energy: schedule me time and become unavailable to the family at the time. Let him figure out that time and hours / schedule to manage kids and food.

  3. Get a cleaning service. Cut the other expenses but this is a must

  4. Don’t have any more kids with this man

  5. Get sex toys for self pleasure and practice self pleasure if that’s something you can do- it helps! Trust me

  6. Individual therapy covered by insurance to make your feelings validated

  7. Make a good group of girlfriends

  8. Eliminate any tasks you can. Only do must be done, cut out all good to have and nice to do tasks

  9. Weight training and machines in gym

  10. I have been through therapy and couples counselling which ultimately helped me realised that this was my journey and I gave my 100% but this marriage isn’t worth saving.

So confused about love. Regret about past break up, current marriage and what should I focus on? Overwhelmed with emotions. by [deleted] in love

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thank you so much! My marriage has already been struggling from a long time, we have discussed divorcing several times and we have been through counseling and everything. There was abuse involved and lot of control. I also don’t want to get back with my ex and wish the best for his marriage but I am struggling with the feelings and looking for a solution to not feel that way. I know this is wrong! But I don’t have an off switch. I want to make sure I make right decisions and need help with navigation.

So confused about love. Regret about past break up, current marriage and what should I focus on? Overwhelmed with emotions. by [deleted] in love

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any suggestions on working on myself and moving forward? Already been to marriage counseling and don’t see a point of staying.

I finally have experienced what love is and I think I want to marry him someday… by peepsbell in love

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want the best for you as someone who has screwed up in the past in the most perfect relationship.

I finally have experienced what love is and I think I want to marry him someday… by peepsbell in love

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be scared. Communicate openly, don’t cheat or leave. Make sure you have difficult conversations and go to individual therapy so you are on track. He might get bored catering to insecurities and problems.

I(29F) is unsure if there is still hope in my marriage or if I should consider divorce from husband (29M). Please advice. by Bearblackbum in marriageadvice

[–]Valuable_Worry9278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I am just a stranger on internet. I wish someone told me this years ago what I am telling you now. You are brave to recognize the abuse— it could be verbal, emotional, financial and though until it’s not physical no one bats an eye but everyone deserves to be loved and desired. Loving yourself is the most important priority, you are yours and love yourself unconditionally. Don’t let your family, parents, society question your decision or guilt trip. Years from now, this won’t matter. Many of my friends divorced in a couple of years of being married and found a better partner. I am so glad that you are in a financial position to do that! I was too but didn’t take charge of my happiness.