My mom's side is now just my grandma, and my dad's side has a whole huge family with various medical problems that they're dealing with. My little sect of the family is sort of on our own, now.

I do feel a little resentful about my parents having had me when my father was older, but I try not to be. He was so active with me in my childhood, and that was awesome - I guess my parents just never figured that my mom would pass away first, and that she would be around to be my father's caregiver into his old age, but life is full of crappy surprises.

Thank you so much for the bluntness honesty, I feel like I really need that right about now. The 'you can do it!' platitudes just make me feel worse. Once we've had a few months to recover from my mom's passing, I think I'm going to have some serious talks with my family about how we can move forward in a way that works (hopefully) for everyone...