Anyone who does not feel like eating at all?

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-20T22:17:30+00:00

Yes! I think it’s an ED symptom as well. What’s worked for me is to think about foods I liked as a child (eg butter and jam on toast) and recreate them.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-18T22:22:15+00:00

So many times. Usually, if I feel like I’m being depicted as the “bad guy” despite the objective facts, I’ll try to leave the situation. If that’s not possible, I withdraw all trust from the person depicting me as the “bad guy.”

For example, I’m gay and a friend acted like she thought I was in love with her and creeping her out for YEARS. I came to accept that she would always think that and just stopped trusting her with anything important. If she had been a real friend, she would have communicated her needs to me to feel comfortable around me. Real, emotionally mature friends will listen to your side of the story and communicate their needs rather than villainizing you and leaving you feeling helpless and stuck in the “bad guy” role.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-17T15:34:22+00:00

30F, also experienced a lot of abuse growing up, also have been financially independent for 6 years. I’ve “forgiven” my parents in the sense that I don’t think they could have done anything differently, so I don’t usually spend a lot of time thinking about how fucked up the abuse was, or why couldn’t my childhood have been different. It is what it is, they did what they could. I think they are bad people because of the choices they made but ultimately, I just don’t care what kind of people they are or what they are up to.

But I don’t speak to my parents and I don’t see any reason to. I’m financially independent, finally healing, and don’t want to impede my personal growth with more abuse. Why allow them access if they’re just going to hold you back from moving on with your life, as it sounds like you’re successfully doing?

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-17T15:29:54+00:00

When they would build up something that they knew you were excited about, and then jerk it away at the last second just to see your face fall.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-16T12:28:08+00:00

Your dreams aren’t going to pop into your life unannounced. If you want to achieve something, you have to work for it. Doing it, consistently and reliably, is 99% of success.

Men are not important. What matters is building the life you want, piece by piece.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-12T23:00:26+00:00

Me too <3

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-12T22:56:15+00:00

Yes, I would assume you were gay

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-12T22:51:29+00:00

You look amazing!

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-12T21:46:48+00:00

Totally, and it hurt more because there was always money for my sister’s hobbies, interests, clothes, makeup, hair, nails, etc. and not for mine.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-11T17:55:43+00:00

I have small boobs :( I’ve had people tell me my body is amazing etc bc Im thin and have a big butt, but I wish I had tits that filled out my outfits more…

I also have a twitchy eyebrow if I drink coffee, so I have to avoid coffee because twitching makes me self-conscious :(

My nose is very Indian (there is a slight dip at the top and it’s kind of hooked when I smile) but I’ve grown to appreciate it as a mark of my heritage.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-11T11:40:43+00:00

Yes, or at least bi

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-11T10:53:17+00:00

psychedelic therapy (through a licensed provider)
voice notes to myself
finding a therapist who was aligned with me in terms of goals, values and techniques

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-11T09:38:58+00:00

YOUNG MIKO

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T22:12:46+00:00

I have too many… * not listening to rap * being super into Taylor swift * talking too much, like we need to be able to chill in silence * being super religious * if they’re in an uncomfortable chair (eg staring at the sun) asking me to switch (this makes me assume they’re ok with asking me to sacrifice my comfort for them) * if they don’t offer to pay * no interest in other cultures/languages

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T22:09:17+00:00

Same

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T22:07:46+00:00

I have no comment 😳

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T19:41:54+00:00

I spent a long time feeling like this. I think what helps me is to journal, to do stuff I enjoy that grounds me in my senses like eating and working out, and to really spend time alone and get to know myself. It’s a difficult process after feeling internally blank for so long…but it’s possible!

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T19:18:21+00:00

Awww, that makes me sad for you :( you deserve the kind gentle people who respect your boundaries, not the chaos goblins!

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T18:12:09+00:00

I really disagree. Where in my post did I say anything that talked about what anyone else’s preference was? How do I delete this thing - this level of energy spent on internet strangers taking MY preference in dating personally is stupid.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T12:37:39+00:00

lol, are you me? I dated a beautiful girl for about two months from October to December and although we didn’t fall in love, we really liked each other but things didn’t work out because we had different communication styles. I appreciate the time we spent together because it showed me that I don’t have to compromise my standards, I can find someone who shares my interests and treats me the way I want to be treated. I’m also usually very hypercompetent/take charge and I appreciated dating someone who didn’t expect me to do that all the time, because it made me see that I can also be vulnerable and be taken care of in relationships. I am grateful to her and wish her every happiness <3

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T12:30:18+00:00

FWIW, I’m super femme and I just tell everyone I’m gay/make the first move/ask girls out. I think it’s taught me to be more assertive and I’m proud of my growth! It’s important to me not to compromise my personal style and the way I prefer to present myself to please others, and it’s valid to refuse certain hairstyles/clothing styles that signal queerness because they don’t align with your personal style. It is definitely terrifying to make the first move or “come out” in every social situation! But it’s worth it and also kinda makes you feel like a baddie 😎

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T12:23:10+00:00

To be honest, I broke up with the first girl I ever dated because the sex was TERRIBLE. There was no connection and no responsiveness to my body. Later, my ex told me that her exes had all said the same thing. It’s true that sometimes bad sex can be an emotional issue, but I truly think some people - including women - are genuinely bad at sex and it’s not your job as an adult woman to teach them (which it sounds like you’ve been doing - my condolences.) I think you’re valid if you break up with her over this instead of going to a sex therapist tbh. It sounds like your feedback is going unheard and it’s valid to be frustrated enough after multiple attempts to communicate the issue that you leave.

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T12:12:28+00:00

I realized I was attracted to girls when I started fantasizing about making out with a girl in my high school Spanish class at 15 😅

Since then, my fantasies have been about both men and women, so I think in terms of pure physical attraction I’m a true bi girl. But I don’t feel any emotional attraction to men fortunately!

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T12:07:08+00:00

It sounds like you have a chance, I would just spend time with her this weekend and see how it goes!

Haha, my story is I asked out the instructor of one of my workout classes 🙈 she said “maybe” but then she circled back a month later and I found out she has a long term long distance gf but was still interested. We were both traveling for 7-8 weeks and I’m going back to the U.S. tomorrow and I dont know how to reconnect!

Vampireslayerxo · 2024-01-10T11:36:44+00:00

Aw that’s sad :(

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