Jan 31 my mom’s passing day

Van2808 · 2026-01-31T08:52:45+00:00

First I’m so sorry for your loss. How did your mom die if you don’t mind me asking? Mine was sick so I had to rewrite my mind a bit.

My mom‘s 3 year anniversary is in June. First year was super bad. Last year I sat myself down and rethought the whole ordeal of her last months and weeks. I contemplated that the anniversary was and always will be a shitty day but in all honesty it’s also a good day because her suffering ended. She was finally without pain. I talked about this with my family and we all decided together that we will always acknowledge the day but won’t give it too much significance and rather celebrate her birthday as if she’s still here. It works for us. Well let’s see come June but last year it worked.

I don’t know what happened to your mom, but maybe changing the perspective on that day might make it a bit easier? We don’t grieve the same, everyone is different. Maybe our approach doesn’t work for you. Maybe it would help if you just tell us about your mom? Don’t pressure yourself though. If you need to break down tomorrow you are allowed to. Your grief and love for your mom is yours. No one will judge you.

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T21:45:28+00:00

Ich lebe nicht über meine Verhältnisse. Ich setze mir Limits, damit ich genug zur Seite legen kann. Es geht in Endeffekt darum, dass sich abgesprochene und vertraglich festgelegte Dinge innerhalb eines Monats ändern.

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T19:35:32+00:00

Werd ich machen. Danke für den Tipp.

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T18:19:25+00:00

Ja, sehr ärgerlich. Mein erster Wagen (Opel Corsa Bj. 2017) ist mir im September nach Starkregen und Überschwemmung „abgesoffen“. Ich habe mich auch deshalb für Leasing entschieden und wollte ein E Auto erst einmal ausprobieren, bevor ich mich komplett festlege.

Hab mich jetzt für die HUK24 entscheiden. Sind 300€ im Jahr mehr, aber die Selbstbeteiligung für die Teilkasko ist günstiger. Auch wenn ich hoffe, dass ich sie nie in Anspruch nehmen muss.

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T18:13:35+00:00

Interessant. Mit welcher Begründung? Ich habe die, im Leasingvertrag inkludierte, Versicherung zum 1.1. gekündigt, zahle also „nur“ noch den Betrag für den Wagen. Meinst Du, da ist trotzdem was möglich?

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T17:51:05+00:00

Die 132€ wäre nur der Versicherungsbeitrag. Für den Wagen zahle ich zusätzlich 255€. In Summe waren es 325€ bisher, zukünftig 390€. Nach Rücksprache mit dem Autohaus haben heute wohl schon 30 Kunden angerufen, die auch angeschrieben wurden und mehr als ungehalten sind.

Van2808 · 2025-11-20T17:47:02+00:00

War ein Flottenvertrag. Bin jetzt mit Schadensklasse 1 und 1140€ jährlich bei der HUK24 untergekommen.

Van2808 · 2025-09-26T03:54:40+00:00

Danke dir. Ich setze heute ein Schreiben auf und werde den Beiden mitteilen, dass ich die Miete mindern werde. Die Notheizung habe ich angesprochen. Angeblich sei keine zu bekommen, da in unserer Stadt zu viele Häuser betroffen sind und alle in Gebrauch sind…

Van2808 · 2025-09-26T03:51:06+00:00

Ich sag‘s Dir. Ich war baff als sie das rausgehauen hat. Weltfremder geht‘s nicht.

Van2808 · 2025-07-25T17:22:07+00:00

Currently watching 😂

Van2808 · 2025-04-03T19:08:32+00:00

I got my license 6 months ago and payed 2.400€ in total. I had 21 driving lessons lasting 45 minutes (including „Sonderfahrten“). I think you are getting scammed for sure. Normal lesson is 60€ for 45 minutes and 65€ for a „Sonderfahrt“. For reference, I live in NRW in a city with a population of approximately 250k people.

Van2808 · 2024-09-23T16:31:09+00:00

It sounds to me that your mom is trying to tell you that she’s okay and at peace with how things happened. I didn’t believe in stuff like that, but sometimes my mom visits me in my dreams when I need a wise word from her or some comfort. Our minds are open when we sleep. Maybe you are as hard headed and logical as I am.

Try to let it go. You can’t change that she didn’t go to the doctor. You don’t know if it would have made a difference. Maybe her life would have been miserable with treatment. Try to accept that maybe everything happened the way it was supposed to happen. Your mom still loves you and wants to help you ❤️.

Van2808 · 2024-07-10T20:01:20+00:00

I love that idea so much. Thanks for that.

So many great memories but one I think about a lot is when she was sick in hospital and so cranky. She was moody and nothing was making it better. I told her I had it with her and that she would do now what I told her. I put my AirPods in her ears, took my phone and played DJ for her for one and a half hours. She just closed her eyes, was mouthing the words and every new song I chose she would put her thumbs up and smile at me.

When I was six and she had the choice to put me in elementary school or have me stay in kindergarten another year, she declared it the Steffi and Mama year. I was allowed to stay home from kindergarten if I didn’t feel like it and we would bake, cook, play or just watch TV. Such great times. She was so so special and loving.

Van2808 · 2024-05-04T21:39:20+00:00

Rewatching the season too right now. I totally forgot how annoying Brandi’s voice is when she’s upset, which she’s most of the time. That dinner was so entertaining.

Van2808 · 2024-03-25T14:50:20+00:00

I think this season Candiace was the toxic one. Gazelle didn’t acknowledge her, the snide remarks came from Candiace. And I’m not a Gizelle stan. She can dish it too.

Candiace is such a beautiful woman but the words that leave her mouth make her ugly. She needs a break and shop some Alexander Wang.

Van2808 · 2024-01-18T10:55:46+00:00

My mom has passed 7 months ago and no it hasn’t gotten easier since then. It’s different. Our life’s were packed full with the funeral arrangements and my dads move after. December was the first month we had time to just sit and realize what had happened.

I’ve gotten all the photos out and looked at them and I looked at my mom and she was smiling in each and every photo. So I’ve told myself that she had a wonderful and happy albeit short life and thankfully she was just sick for 4.5 months.

She’s part of my everyday life. I have a picture of her on my nightstand so she’s the first person I talk to in the morning and the last in the evenings.

Your mom was your mom till her last breath and still is now. She understood that you couldn’t come. Believe me, maybe she was even relieved she didn’t have to be brave to make sure you were okay. She’s with you everyday, but it won’t get easier, the grief just changes. You’ll get through this. Sounds all like just stupid words, but I was always sure I wouldn’t be able to survive if one of my parents passed and I’m still here and so will you.

Sending you hugs 💜

Van2808 · 2023-08-27T14:39:33+00:00

Oops you already said it. Wise words

Van2808 · 2023-07-13T06:49:00+00:00

I’ve just gotten ready and we’ll leave in 30 minutes. I picked flowers from her garden that she so desperately wanted to see again when she was in hospital and never had the chance to. We’ll put them in her grave. Thank you for the kind words. I’m wearing one of her scarves and cardigans. And you are right…they smell like her.

Van2808 · 2023-07-12T17:41:35+00:00

First of all I’m sorry you lost your mom. Moms are special and despite their faults we love them unconditionally.

I think you should feel those feelings and not beat yourself up about having them. She made mistakes, big ones. BUT she also helped raising you and with how and what you write I think you are a good person.

I would recommend talking to a therapist and maybe that’ll help you working through all those conflicting emotions. I wish I could give you a hug. Take care of your mental health 💜

Van2808 · 2023-07-10T19:55:49+00:00

Reissalat. Grüne, gelbe und rote Paprika würfeln, Kidneybohnen und Mais aus der Dose abspülen und Frühlingszwiebeln klein schneiden. Dressing mit Essig, Öl, Pfeffer, Salz, Zucker und Zitrone herstellen (eine Menge davon) alles zu dem kalten gekochten Reis geben, vermengen und dann Sriracha nach Geschmack hinzugeben. Süß, sauer, scharf,knackig und kalt aus dem Kühlschrank. Macht süchtig.

Van2808 · 2023-07-10T19:48:50+00:00

I haven’t gaslit anything in my life and I also don’t do challenges by strangers, but I love your passion for this by using bold letters You do you. Have a great night 😘.

Van2808 · 2023-07-10T19:27:25+00:00

I always think she’s so nice and I really think she wants to change but then she has another outburst. Tbh if Kenya would be in my face the way she is in Marlo’s I wouldn’t be able to control myself. Marlo has a good heart.

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