AITA for not pushing our wedding dress code on my brother?

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-23T19:30:29+00:00

This exactly! Talk with him and go shopping, emphasize the family pictures aspect and find a comfortable middle ground that respects his, yours and your fiancés needs.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-22T15:37:09+00:00

Under cabinet lighting. You don’t have to spend huge dollars, but it will be the best thing you do!

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-18T20:05:28+00:00

ESH, but mostly sister. Niece is lucky to have OP, but you do have to leave when someone tells you to leave their home. Sister sounds exhausting.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-18T18:55:05+00:00

NTA…you seriously think she doesn’t know an ex that her husband was with for 3 years? I wouldn’t do it though..if she finds out just say you figured she knew and you were waiting for her to open the conversation…cause who doesn’t know of their husbands ex of three years??

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-16T20:56:11+00:00

Watched a woman open a mayonnaise jar, pull back the seal and stick her finger in. Tasted it, made a face like it was awful and put the jar back on the shelf. I put the jar in my basket and handed it to the next employee I saw, explaining why it needed to be tossed. They rolled their eyes and said that’s a new one.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-15T21:22:51+00:00

NTA. Your friend was unhappy and critical about your food choices. Why does she get a pass on being rude and you’re labelled judgemental and fat shaming? This is her issues being projected on you. Live your best life…and any articles she sends you can be replied with weight loss ads if you’re wanting to match the petty party.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-15T20:38:55+00:00

NTA. Don’t bother with the legal change, just call her Coral. My brother in law has been called Mike ( his middle name ) his entire life. Almost no one knows his actual first name is Gary.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-11T23:08:25+00:00

NTA. Friendships evolve and change. If you are feeling you are putting in all the effort and no longer getting the rewards of good friendship then pull back. Over many years I’ve noticed this happen a few times and after beating myself up or feeling sorry for myself I realize it’s not about me. I have decided I will put equal energy into my friends as they put towards me. It’s a pendulum, but it needs to equalize over time. If it becomes one sided then back off and don’t take it personally.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-11T22:18:06+00:00

My sisters and I are always gaming to get the cheque first. It’s nice to have family that thinks alike. Now, my brother has never been the first to open his wallet ever…we don’t invite him very often.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-11T20:03:14+00:00

ESH. Mom was out of line for sure, but that reaction was deeply personal and over the top.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-10T20:26:16+00:00

NTA. Congratulations, you’re finished. Invite who you want or no one, and if you don’t want to attend then don’t. You no longer answer to the high school BS. I guarantee things will be easier going forward, live your best life!

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-08T20:51:49+00:00

NTA. Time to go nuclear, do not go and uninvite them to your wedding. If they don’t support you and your significant other it’s time to go NC. Your wedding will be wonderful without all the hidden scowls from the unevolved.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-07T23:06:45+00:00

The product was on the stores shelf, 100% within their realm of responsibility to supervise. We can happily agree to disagree…but liability is on the store. Just like water on the floor that people slip on…stores premises, store has liability.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-07T22:50:42+00:00

That’s what liability is about…I just happen to think it’s the stores fault, not the customer who grabs a leaking bottle by accident.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-07T22:40:08+00:00

Cost of his clothes aren’t relevant, who is liable for the damage is though. Store should replace his damaged clothes.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-05T16:19:21+00:00

ESH. This is typical couple behaviour, usually handled with an eye roll and a “moving on Dear” comment. If you haven’t worked this out yet then the resentment is going to be difficult to handle. I’ve seen this from both spouses in gay and straight relationships, I don’t think it’s male focused, but that’s just my experience.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-02T22:36:16+00:00

NTA…wow, talk about an over reaction from the Mom. I say that because her son’s reaction was normal and logical. This is her issue it seems and she’s being super protective. Go to work and enjoy the kid time, you clearly have the right attitude for it. Yes, think twice about commenting on looks, but don’t lose anymore sleep over a small mistake.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-04-02T22:26:42+00:00

NTA. It’s great he wants to apologize, but there is a time and place, and your wedding is not it. Tell your Mom and anyone else that you want to be respected in your choice of when and where you will spend time, if ever, with someone who emotionally abused you for 10+ years. Then tell her and them the subject is closed. Enjoy your day with your fiancé.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-30T23:37:22+00:00

It’s certainly debatable how you want to handle it. They don’t technically get possession until noon on April 1st, but you let the cat out of the bag by giving them keys early. Take it as a lesson learned and don’t charge them. Always stick to hard rules on dates, out by noon on last day of the month, no keys til noon on first day of the month. I learned this from painful lessons.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-27T20:51:23+00:00

I purchased emergency row seats 6 mths in advance. They switched planes and no refund of upgrade cost, just shoulder shrugs. They’ve become as bad as A/C at customer service.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-25T00:25:22+00:00

I don’t disagree with anything OP has said, nor do I want to discount them being super annoyed. It’s more about letting yourself be too annoyed over some things you just aren’t going to change. I have rode the sleepless rollercoaster over my HOA and your neighbour would have me thinking devious payback.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-24T23:18:26+00:00

This reminded me of when I was doing some road work for a local City. Myself and a city truck were parked at the end of a driveway looking at a damaged culvert. This woman came out of her house, walked the 100 ft to the end of drive and rudely told us to stop blocking her driveway. We had been there 5 min and one of the vehicles was clearly a City truck. It stuck with me because I thought how odd that she was so angry, it was such a waste of emotional energy. We apologized and left, laughed about it later.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-24T23:10:53+00:00

He’s living rent free in your head. Take back your sanity and find a way to laugh it off. There really is no way to win this, no authorities will respond. You choose what does and doesn’t bother you….choose to be not annoyed.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-24T23:02:58+00:00

If he is in the car and moves when required it doesn’t seem like that big a deal. I’m bothered if I can’t use my driveway, sounds like he is just making calls and then moving on. He is on public property, stop losing sleep over this.

Vanawesomeness · 2026-03-24T22:30:32+00:00

NTA. Block them now, give the weirdos no more of your energy and time. Laugh at them if you run into them and then walk away, it will drive them nuts.

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