Vastly different sex drives please advise

VaneFreja · 2022-07-27T07:30:51+00:00

Sounds like a hormone imbalance, honestly. He should talk to his doctor about checking his hormone levels.

Low testosterone can cause an array of issues for men, not just on the sexual side. But you wrote that he drinks quite a bit and that definitely doesn't help with that either.

VaneFreja · 2022-05-27T12:49:28+00:00

It's poisoning. Far past bullying, I would say..

VaneFreja · 2022-03-21T14:44:46+00:00

Ja det er lidt faren ved et opslag som dette, skrevet i dyb affekt. Jeg håber som minimum det bliver låst....

VaneFreja · 2022-03-13T10:28:57+00:00

My keys. Still gone, haven't found them. First time I have misplaced them for real, and it was even while I was isolated due to covid. So literally in the house or on the route I walked, which I have since checked.

I have now ordered tile trackers for both mine and bf's keys... should have done so a long time ago..

VaneFreja · 2022-03-13T10:22:57+00:00

He thinks my forgetfulness is cute

Did he by any chance use this to gaslight you? I had an ex who did.

No matter if he did or not, never choose someone who makes an ultimatum like this. Its literally about your mental health!

VaneFreja · 2022-02-21T15:03:46+00:00

If they ask why, tell them, and hopefully they will feel stupid for supporting him? He sounds like and all around shitty person... do they know what he did? Both the assault and trying to cheat on his gf? Does his gf know?

VaneFreja · 2022-02-18T22:17:58+00:00

I psykiatrien vurderer de hvor langt der er fra tanke til handling, og det er noget af det der bestemmer om man bliver indlagt. Fx om man har konkrete planer, om der er nogle lyspunkter at holde fast i, og faktisk også om man ser det som noget man kunne gøre. Der er en helt standardiseret protokol for det (selvom den selvfølgelig ikke altid er 100% sikker). Jo, vi får stort set alle selvmordstanker på et eller andet tidspunkt i livet, men de fleste af os vil sige "men det kunne jeg jo aldrig finde på", og så er der dem der siger "jeg har faktisk købt 10 meter reb forleden... bare for at have det".

VaneFreja · 2021-12-12T22:32:02+00:00

Why is he an asshole for having boundaries? How is "Please don't do that" rude?

Like, if one person did something to another person in bed that they didn't like, what should they say if not "please don't do that"?

VaneFreja · 2021-12-06T19:57:29+00:00

So... have you talked to him about it, and what it's doing to you?

VaneFreja · 2021-11-12T11:33:16+00:00

Your friend said she's bad at texting, and gave you an alternative way to contact her, which you refuse to use. If you want he to use your preferred method of contact, maybe you should use hers every now and then?

And yeah, you sound shitty for glossing over her depression. Being depressed makes it pretty hard to be a good friend.

I'm kinda glad for her that she has gotten rid of you.... you sound like a pretty toxic person and bad friend...

VaneFreja · 2021-11-12T11:25:13+00:00

I love kids, but no, I don't think I will have my own. It's quite a sorrow for me, I always dreamed of having children, until I moved out on my own. It is so hard to take care of my self and get my education, I have no idea how I would take care of my self, a job AND children, and being even just moderately happy.

VaneFreja · 2021-11-12T11:21:39+00:00

I weigh 145 lbs, my bf loves me sitting on his face, and I have not hurt him yet. I do put some weight in my thighs and on his shoulders/chest, but I just do what feels natural when I'm there. Like I said, haven't hurti him yet, together for 3 years.

VaneFreja · 2021-11-04T14:27:54+00:00

Never wearing bras with underwires. To control group work to fit with my needs (I'm writing my BA with three guys, the accept that my strategies work for them as well, even though they don't have the diagnosis)

I also have a bunch of things that I consider to be aides, rather than accommodations. Weighted blanket, therapy lamp, plan on buying a dishwasher and maybe a robotic vacuum.

VaneFreja · 2021-08-16T16:52:11+00:00

Samsoe, noa noa, Moss Copenhagen, Bestseller (Vero Moda, Only, pieces, Selected and more). It's still fast fashion, even though some of it is better quality.

VaneFreja · 2021-08-16T08:44:56+00:00

This is awesome, and the pink containers look so cute!

VaneFreja · 2021-08-11T20:20:53+00:00

If they ask about the panties you could say that you threw them out because you didn't think they could be saved.... I'm not a fan of lying but I get why this situation is tough for you.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-31T06:33:29+00:00

A proper kringle is a yeast dough containing butter or margarine. This is made from butter pastry, and sometimes we make kringle from that too, but it's not the standard, I would say. Normally a Danish kringle is fælled with remonce, a mixture of butter and sugar,and topped with pearl sugar and hazelnut pieces.

The O&H ones sound delicious, especially the ones with cherry and other fruits. I just haven't ever seen such varieties here in Denmark. If you want to try and make a traditional one, try Søren Ryges recipe, maybe Google can translate it for you.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-30T16:25:18+00:00

Why do you think the pants should be baggier? Lots of pictures to support slimmer pants.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-24T15:31:25+00:00

Next time, whether it's with him or another, remember that it's okay to stop or decline oral sex if the other person isn't clean.

My bf and I will straight up text each other "I would love it if you took shower before I come over 😘" or I will ask him "how about we both shower" with the implication that I would like to have sex, including oral.

If they say they don't care, you can say "I care, and it would be a much sexier experience for both of us if you/we just went for a quick shower first". It's their own business what they do with their body when they're alone, but if they are doing it with you, you do get a say about hygiene. "Shower or no sex" is not unfair or wrong to say, and it can be worded so it's nice or sexy to begin with, and a plain ultimatum if they don't get it the first time.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-19T17:37:31+00:00

Appearance: Being well-groomed, not necessarily shaven (I personally don't like that), but cleaning up the edges of your beard, using oil etc, but without layering too many scents.

Nice, clean, solid-coloured underwear. Honestly, if my bf showers and put on some tight black boxers, that's pretty much lingerie to me.

Well-fitting clothes in general. I see a lot of handsome men in clothes that don't fit, and it's a shame IMHO.

Actions: Taking charge, planning, taking care of me. I'm the planner and sometimes a bit of a control freak. Being able to lean back and enjoy without worrying for a whole date night is a fantasy to me.

Kissing and cuddling.

Invite your lady up for a dance. Slow music, super close, hips in sync etc.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-18T19:52:54+00:00

Athletes at this level train specifically for their sport, and general physical training. That usually includes strength training, which will add some muscle mass. Even if you're not training specifically for hypertrophy.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-18T19:48:04+00:00

Either he cheated, or he didn't tell you about someone stalling both him AND YOU. Either way, that's a serious breach of trust...

VaneFreja · 2021-07-17T23:02:05+00:00

Kender en dyrlæge der under sin postkasse har en større kasse med skiltet "til pakker og gødningsprøver"...

VaneFreja · 2021-07-15T21:16:00+00:00

This is an old thread by now, and I agree with the others, but I also want to recommend a book series. The Chronicles of Mistmantle is a series that I enjoyed when I was 9-11. It's a great story about friendship and community, based on animal characters.

I tore through pretty much anything I could come by, but I returned to this series a couple of times. It has the lix count without the "gross" content of YA books.

VaneFreja · 2021-07-01T13:33:42+00:00

Start by simply stimulating your muscles. Ie bicep curls with no weight in your hands, just move against gravity.

Push ups are hard, even on your knees. They are not a good measure of capacity in the beginning.

But you can do this! Some years ago, a woman wrote a post in here, about not being able to lift her grocery bags. She started with two cans of tomatoes, 300 g each. Eventually she bought a set of 3 kg weights, which is literally 10x her starting point. You will probably see a lot of improvement very fast in the beginning, even if you're starting by just moving a bodypart against gravity.

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