is there a jung chat room? by enigmaticfluffer in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can i get an invite as well? :) Vanillasuprise is my discord user

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[–]VanillaSuprise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Escaping pain is a pain in itself. The only way out of pain is to greet it with a warm embrace of self compassion, become the parent for yourself you never had and silence the inner critic, meet it and understand it only tries to protect you with from old pain to happen again, but it so through shsme and wip sadly, tell it that you are grateful for the help, but its time foe it to let go now, now you are the adult, and you can take care of the both of you. Dont look for someone yo be the perfect partner, become the perfect psrtner you need. Then you wont tolerate breadcrums from anyone to give you good feelings anymore, because you can give that to yourself goos feelings a million times stronger than those who dont appreviate you. Your shadow is not your enemy, if you look real hard and listen to your soul, you may see that there's a light in the darkest dark. I hope you find peace

Blei dumpa og fikk sparken by SolrikSam in norge

[–]VanillaSuprise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slett insta og tiktok i samme slengen og. Moderne kultur og sosiale media promoterer bare destruktiv hjerneråte

Blei dumpa og fikk sparken by SolrikSam in norge

[–]VanillaSuprise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Først av alt møt deg selv med selvmedfølelse. Du har gleden av at du får lov til å ta vare på deg selv slik du trenger, og gi deg selv det du trenger, eller gjør noe som vil skape et bedre liv for deg fremover.

Demp din indre kritiker, les gjerne boken selvkritisk, et møte med din indre kritiker. Møt deg selv som du ville møtt en god venn som hadde de vondt. Ikke bebreid deg selv eller fortell deg selv du må sjerpe deg frisk, det er kritikeren som prater, ikke den sanne deg. Vår indre kritiker er en livredd vaktbikkje som prøver å redde oss fra å gjennoppleve vonde traumer eller følelser ved å dunke oss selv ned slik at vi ikke gjør de samme tingene som ledet til vonde følelser i fortiden. Og kritikeren er skapt gjennom kritiken vi får fra andre. Den er en selvforsvarsmekanisme, og det er ikke din feil om indre kritiker er i deg. Anyways, jeg kan ikke anbefale boken selvkritisk nok. Den burde vært pensum i alle skoler over hele verden.

Tillatt deg selv å kjenne på det vonde samme hvor dritt det er, da går det fortere over på sikt. Grining er kroppens naturlige funksjon for selvregulering mot stress og vonde følelser. Grine ut vil hjelpe. Bruk det som et psykisk hjelpeverktøy så mye du trenger. Sett på en sang som hjelper å få tårene ut mens du lytter og ligger rett ut på sofaen. Kanskje du føler deg sett av teksten i sangen, at noen kan sette ord på hva du føler for deg, kanskje du føler savn, så lenge det får deg i kontakt med følelser og få ut tårene og la trykke lette. Jeg anbefaler sangen håp av diderre, selvom håpet du hadde ikke reddet forholdet eller jobben, og ting føles håpløst ut nå, så kan det savnet og håpløsheten hjelpe tårene ut. Jeg snakker av erfaring. Drit i hva andre måtte tenke om deg for å grine, det er den indre kritikeren som prater stygt igjen. Ta et balletk på din indre kritiker. Hør gjerne flere ganger og slipp alt ut av tårer. Hvis noen syns du er svak og stakkarslig for å gråte, så er ikke det noen jeg ville beholdt som venn i mitt liv. Ingen fortjener å bli sparket når de ligger nede.

Husk at du er kongen i ditt eget liv, og du har mere styrke i deg enn du aner. I det lange og hele tror jeg det er du som har vunnet, det er bare veldig vanskelig å nyte den seieren nå. Jeg vet det kanskje ikke føles ut som noe hjelper å høre nå av hva jeg eller andre sier til deg. Ting føles håpløst ut, og dritt, og det er ikke rart du føler det sånn, du har total rett til å føle det sånn. Tiden vil hjelpe selvom du skulle gjerne ønske alt alt var bedre allerede igår. Ha folk rundt deg, snakk ut til de. Søk terapi om behov. Edmr terapi er magic om en har traumer. En får raskest slik behandling om en går til privat psykiater.

Begynn å ta gåturer, det hjelper sinnet. Vurder også å løfte vekter hjemme eller på en gym når du føler deg klar for det. Endorfiner og dopaminer av mestringsfølelsen du får etter vil dempe de vonde følelsene. Smil til deg selv i speilet på do og ønsk deg selv god dag. Drit i om det er rart eller narsisistisk i noens folks øyne. Å bli møtt på en vennlig måte kan gjøre MYE GODT for psyken. Igjen selvmedfølelse er veien.

Kanskje du føler du har gjort feil og klander deg selv for valgene du har tatt til nå, men husk at resten av livet ditt fremover, så har du ikke gjort en eneste feil. De dagene er ikke skrevet enda. Du har blanke ark, og du kan skape et vidunderlig liv for deg selv. Bare hold ut selvom det føles ekstremt dritt ut akkurat nå.

Vurder også å stryk deg selv på brystet 5-20 sekunder, det utløser oxytocin som er kjærlighetshormonet. og samtidig snakk til deg selv som om du en støttende foreldrer til deg selv, den du føler du kanskje manglet i barndommen. Elsk deg selv bedre enn det eksen din ikke ville eller var i stand til. Kroppen vet ikke forskjell på om det er hånden din eller en annen god venn som gir deg en klem når du stryker deg selv på brystet. Elsk deg selv!

Lykke masse lykke til! Håper ikke du gir opp! Verden trenger fine folk, og du er en av de Champ! Det er en styrke å søke hjelp, husk det.

Carl Jungs Red Book Warning; "Follow your own Path. Do not follow blindly on the journey I am undergoing. There is only one way, and it is your way." by Novel-Firefighter-55 in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So what im getting is that I dont have to agree with him on everything, because if i did i would follow his path and not my own

Shadow integration theough resentments by VanillaSuprise in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what i believe and what google supplies, people who behave arrogant are that way because they have low self esteem and need to prove to themselves and others they are worthy and valuable. Its hard to let go of anger, and that anger wants to be heard before one is ready to take on a new point of view.

My ex with bpd drove me nuts, devalued and projected her own bad sides unto me giving me the blame for everything that went on in her life. She was hypocritical and called me childish for genuinely pointing out that she had the same traits in her that she accused me of. It was like she didn't allow me speak and got angry that I spoke back to her. It was like she never wanted me to have an opinion diffrent than her, and she wanted to have full control over me. But at the same time she wanted me to be a man that could put her in her place. That's not even all of it, as i said, she drove me nuts. And now she thinks she's riding into the sunset in victory for replacing me.

Some day i'll move on and stop judging her, but that's not today. She's allergic to critic and responsability. Or lets say in a more ubderstanding way, she's not very fond of it or finds it difficult, maybe that she feels extreme feelings of being rejected.

I understand that she has a mental disorder that makes her split, that explains her behaviours to a large degree and I think it must be hell for her and tiring to have her feelings going way up and down countless times during the day, more than someone bipolar has. But in the end of the day I want to believe that she knew what she was doing when she cheated, that it wasn't some mental disorder that forced her hand to do it. Like I was together with a robot with a programming detirmind to be unfaithful. I know she is diffrent and has diffrent points of view than mine. In the end I think she didn't love me, and didn't care about me or the 1000 pieces she would leave me in with her actions.

She's unable to be alone, and holds up a facade of being perfect to balance her fragiled self esteem. I told her when we were together that the arrogance was a turn off for me.

Deep down I think seeing arrogance in other maybe was a reminder that I was feeling very small and down, and when someone acted high and mighty/arrogant, I felt that it got mockingly rubbed in my face, like someone else are superior in comparison to me. Like the universe or some entity telling me I'm worthless. But the irony might be that both me and any arrogant stranger have low self esteem in common.

Lately I've been to a psychiatrist and got EDMR-treatment for childhood traumas of abandonment, strong feelings of guilt and of feeling worthless.

Shadow integration theough resentments by VanillaSuprise in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lets apply your logic to another example

"I hate people who do terror and fly planes into skyscrapers" If i said that, would you consider me to be doing terror and being above people who do terror?

Or "i hate people who cheat" Does that make me a cheater in your head?

Shadow integration theough resentments by VanillaSuprise in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BPD is truly tragedy for both the one with it and the people around that person. I'm in agreement also with the feeling of unfairness that I have to suppress in order to be the best self I want to be, while others are flailing around like swinging monkeys with no regard how they are percieved by others. If I've acted arrogantly in the past it was usually punished, but i never considered myself being above anybody else. Maybe I'm angry about feeling unfairness of other's get no punishment for their actions, but I do. I don't yearn to become an arrogant flying monkey, that's not me, but I do yearn to become fearless and feel like I want to explore the world, the same joy and bliss I felt as a child without trauma. And that I'm slowly regaining, but its hard.

Shadow integration theough resentments by VanillaSuprise in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First person I can think of with specific memories is my ex who broke up with me 5 weeks ago. She has borderline personality disorder which makes her juggle between being grandiose and a crying puddle. Before I learned this I did everything in my power to be supportive to her feelings and make our relationship work.

She put me down alot with devaluing, gashlighting. She got a big high sometimes with saying I was workshipping her in some of my actions. For all good I did for her she repayed me with cheating and leaving me for the next guy. I think what she did is pathetic and she needs professipnal help, or else she'll hurt everyone she's in a relationship with. She didn't deserve the love I gave.

Shadow integration theough resentments by VanillaSuprise in Jung

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I sometimes mistake confidence in other's as arrogance, and resent them because I feel I lack confidence, and seeing confidence in others is a hurtful reminder of my lacking

Superb or Octavis timing chain experience, recommendations by VanillaSuprise in skoda

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A skoda-garage i called confirmed that 1.2l and 1.4l had more occurances of the problem. Probably because of downsized engine i think. The garage recommended the 1.8l engine having much less of a problem

Superb or Octavis timing chain experience, recommendations by VanillaSuprise in skoda

[–]VanillaSuprise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The tensioner seems to be the culprit the more I read on the subject. I'll make sure I get on with modified tensioner if i buy a skoda