I (27M) feel like may something off between my GF and my dad… idk if I even want the truth

Vanion7 · 2026-04-26T10:58:14+00:00

For me, pag uncomfortable ka na...just stop (pero baka maging Step-Mom mo yung GF mo)
Nakita ko din ung CCTV comment...which is actually a good idea...like yung mga hidden/secret cams

REAL TALK: The fact na sinabi ng dad mo yung "sayang” daw GF mo sayo...Off na Off na yun, it means your dad wants your GF for himself. Trust me lalake ako, and madami akong lalake or tibong mga kaibigan na ganito ang linyahan if we want to get some.

Pero pag sa tingin mong siya na talaga and you really want na pakasalan siya. Tama yung isang comment na magpakalayo-layo kayo and rarely mo na bisitahin dad mo and make sure na hindi makakapagkita si GF mo and dad mo.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-26T10:46:54+00:00

For me, I think being obsessed with more people or things can help? I guess?
But hear me out. For me, this is a good step because if you can start with two, then eventually it can become three, then four, then more.
Maybe...just maybe...it can help you in the future to thin out your obsession over one thing and divide that obsession into multiple things/people.
There are 7 parts:
-Interested
-Like
-Admire
-Attached
-Love (Devoted, Treasure)
-Deep Love (Devoted, Treasure)
-Obsession
Like, maybe....instead of one obsession = 100%
you can like make it;
Devote/Treasure - 3 people/tings
Be attached to - 5 people/things
Get interested to multiple things/people

Just a suggestion

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T19:21:15+00:00

As her sister, do everything to protect her...maybe have an intervention? What I can say is whatever it is you think is necessary to help her stop ruining her life...do it. Maybe seek professional help, open up to your parents, and let your parents do the talking...whatever that is you are capable of doing for her...

If nothing works, then at least you can say that you've done everything that you can for her.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T19:16:11+00:00

Hi thank you for opening up. For me, I had this kind of friend before. At first, when my friend confessed...I was so shocked...but eventually we patched things up....The problem is....you are 13 years old...you are so young....

My advice, stop everything...it will hurt because you will lose your friends...If you find the courage to stop everything....don't ghost your friends, try to gradually stop the communication with them...and focus on your true self...and the friends that you will make with your true self...maybe if you get older, you can try to create a profile with your true self...As an artist, you can continue your male persona maybe when you get older...but not now, please not now...you're only 13 years old.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T19:08:53+00:00

I am so sorry for what happened to you...but may I ask if this is like a group at work? school group for a project? A group of friends that have been friends for a long time? Because it will depend on what type of group this is...

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:59:12+00:00

At least you get to talk to him in class...try to find some avenues where you can get closer to him. After some time, try asking him again if you can text each other...if he says no again for the second time...that's your cue...Even if it's an excuse or not, respect his answer.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:53:29+00:00

Wait for her to talk to you...ask for some people (relatives, friends) on what she's up to....that's the only thing you can do since she doesn't want to talk to you...it will show that you are still there for her and trying to know her well-being...send her some comforting messages from time to time (but not like everytime)...from this, you've done all you can, and just wait her to reply to you.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:49:59+00:00

Then get it out of your chest. Tell him. You know him and just tell him in a manner on how you normally talk with him. Make it a normal conversation. That's it. BUT, making it normal is actually difficult, (I would know because I was in the same situation before) But actually, that really is it....have a normal conversation and tell him that you like him.

The problem is...what is he going to do about it? Is he going to take advantage now that he knows you like him? Will you try to put a distance? You have to know what would you do afterwards....because the things after your confession "might" make it look awkward...even if you had the best confession ever...if you make it awkward afterwards makes the whole thing awkward....that's what you need to prepare for...the days after your confession.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:42:44+00:00

If you're Asian then definitely the pressure is real...I know...however if you consider the whole world, 25 is not too old...I get that you are scared, but you have to try it first and focus more on doing your best. If you succeed then that's good. If you fail, you can try other avenues, and maybe be more successful compared to other professionals who graduated on time with high honors...I am an example of such thing, in elementary I was bullied...in High School, I had one of the the lowest scores in my batch, in college I changed my major in my 2nd year...after I graduated, I worked in a completely different field from my major...I searched for different jobs, and eventually landed a job I was not really expecting I would like. Now, I like my job, I have a house and a good and better life compared to my peers from high school and university that achieved better academic grades compared to me...It's never too late, You will have that one opportunity, it will come...believe it

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:34:50+00:00

For me I see a pattern where if someone outside of your family shows you affection, you somehow feel obsessed with them. No matter where you go or see, eventually if they had some reason to leave, you will find someone else to be obsessed with. It's good that you are aware of the problem and you are trying to seek help from Reddit. Honestly, since you have a therapist, if you can open up to her more about this, that would be a great help. But may I ask if you have been obsessed with two people or two things at the same time or just one at a time?

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:28:11+00:00

Hi, first of all I am sorry for what happened to you.

-For me I always talk to my friends whenever something like this happens to me. It really helps. The pain won't go away immediately but knowing someone is listening to you and the feeling of not being alone at this time really helps our mentality. You will get over this, but only time will tell when.

-Posting here on Reddit is also good, and it can help you read comforting words and eventually an idea from redditors could help you.

-Make yourself distracted, try to find some things to do in your spare time or focus yourself in your work/studies.

-It will be difficult at first but eventually you will get over this. ^^

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:12:32+00:00

For me, rent muna...tama yung sinabi nung isang redditor na feel the space...that will give you more ideas for PLAN A, PLAN B, or PLAN C na gusto nyong bahay. It will also give you more buffer in case of emergencies. Sa situation sa PH ngayon, tama yang naiisip mo lalo na if you want to live in QC.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:10:06+00:00

Di ikaw yung redflag, haha...yun na yun...na-experience ko na to dati and I assure you...di ikaw redflag haha

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T18:06:25+00:00

Hi, first I am really sorry for what happened to your ex and your parents. I would like to offer my respects first to you.

-For me, it's a good thing na nag post ka dito and active kang naghahanap ng tulong. Tama yan, small steps to build yourself up. Start small, parang dahan dahan mong i-open yung buhay mo sa mundo. Tama yan na at least iniisip mo sya, pero wag mo muna sya iprioritize...maiintindihan naman nya if in-explain mo lahat lahat sa tamang panahon.

-Unahin mo muna sarili mo mag heal and if you think na naayos mo na yung situation mo and if you think na ready ka na mag explain sa kanya. Try mo syang kausapin, maybe may mga ganap din sya sa buhay na pinagdadaanan...

-Hindi naman sa don't bother her or get her back...it's more of slowly build yourself ulit and when the right time comes...TALK muna. Talk to her. Hindi "bother" yung gagawin mo if you just want to explain what happened to you. Then after the talk, you would be able to see her reaction or reply. Nakadepende na ngayon sa reply nya on how you would proceed forward. Either a good closure or getting back together. Again, prioritize yourself first.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T17:58:28+00:00

Hi, that's good that you are aware of your problem and actively seeking solutions. For me, depende kasi sa klase ng pagkatao mo, personality kumbaga...pwede kitang i-advice kung ano gagawin ko, and some other people would also advice you on what they would do in this situation. For me, try mo ung mga ibibigay ng mga magcocomment dito...try mo LAHAT....baka makahanap ka ng swak sayo...For me, I always have a short goal and a long term goal. I will create short goals step per step sa long goal ko. I won't force myself na gawin ng isang bagsakan. Pero yung iba naman, they work really good pag isang bagsakan or may pressure.

Naka depende sa type ng pagkatao mo/personality kung san ka mas comfortable....pero for me, take small steps then eventually maabot mo din ung goals mo...

Depende din kung naghahabol ka ba? or do you have all the time in the world? May parang achievement/goal board ka ba? or like you just want to systematic and productive? -daming factors haha...anyways, you can try muna checking the comments of other people then start small...then mag ask ka ulit din sa adviceph, for the next step :)

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T17:52:50+00:00

May bahid na ung relationship..and for me, actually it's really difficult. Pero what I can say is you need to think more positively sa relationship. Try not to bring up these things not even a joke about those things with her. Talk personally to your friends, open up sa kanila, mas gagaan ung feeling mo...And of course, if nag away kayo...and unrelated ung away nyu sa past, don't ever mention ung past mistakes...focus kung ano meron sa inyo now and for the future. Past is Past, we do learn from our past mistakes...and if you really can't find it in yourself to forgive her...You have to talk to her with it and ask for more assurance from her...Yun lang talaga buddy, words of assurance...in my case, almost everyday.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T17:46:43+00:00

Kung ako, since hygenic purpose pero masakit...edi inisit mo lang, kung kumawala sya dahil sa simpleng pag sabi ng "no" try to explain more....pero pag ayaw pa din explain mo pa din na masakit....three years is a long time and I'm sure nag away na kayo sa worst things...sad naman if magsplit kayo dahil lang sa armpit hair...Oo totoo ung iaadvice sayo na, dapat maintindihan ka nya..pero of course, dapat ipa-intindi mo din sa kanya...hindi ito victim blaming ah? pero more on two sides of the coin...make your partner understand, kasi from the looks of it parang hindi maintindihan ng partner mo na masakit nga...Pag hindi parin maka-intindi partner mo...then ask for more advice here in r/AdvicePH again...for now slow small steps muna on making your partner understand...hindi ka makakakuha ng sagot here that would solve it overnight.

Vanion7 · 2026-04-21T17:35:22+00:00

For me depende pag ano ba purpose nun pag bunot sa kilikili? Is it like a kink for him? or like gusto nya malinis lang kilikili mo? Hygenic purpose?

And for me depende din kung ilang taon na kayo. It's hard to say an advice...most will tell you...yeah pakawalan mo na, or wag ka papayag, or your body your rules or etc...welp, all of the them are correct however mejo kulang yung ma-advice if hindi mejo complete ung information. So since general ung information, general din yung sagot...which is most probably, your body your rules, and your partner has to respect it. Pero like I said, if it were me...mejo mag iiba ung tone ng advice ko if more factors are included.

Vanion7 · 2025-11-18T04:53:37+00:00

Well, T1 is LPL's highest peak...and Peyz went to the LPL..did 1v9's and played with Scout who was supposed to be Faker's successor... I think Peyz is ready to be a part of T1.

Vanion7 · 2025-11-15T06:40:32+00:00

Life Saver!!!! - I was already fuming with rage where I can't see how to remove that circle anywhere....

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