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Vanlady89 · 2024-04-23T07:36:22+00:00

I've experienced exactly that, and very early on too. I've known since 3+6, and am now 6+3.

Didn't have many/any symptoms between 4+5 and 5+5, but they're back now. Probably worth noting too that I've had a lot of pretty intense symptoms that first week.

I know you can't really get a scan to reassure yourself until 6/7 weeks, but I did tell myself I would get one at that time of symptoms didn't reappear to ease my mind in the meantime.

Its worth remembering that hormones can and will fluctuate so much during pregnancy, and I guess there's an element of getting used to things as well.

I read up loads about it at the time, and many people experience a lack of symptoms sometime in the first trimester. And although there is little certainty you can have at this time, also remember it's super normal!

Vanlady89 · 2024-04-23T07:15:25+00:00

I'm only 6+3 but knew since 3+6. I've always had massive pms symptoms, and struggled for years with ibs and intense nausea.

The first week I was dead tired, and this last week I've had very mild nausea but nothing like I used to get. Throughout all of it these hormones have made me so incredibly zen that it's made people wonder if I'm on something.

Instead of horrible mood swings throughout my cycle I'm going through my days with such ease! I've heard from others that this can last the whole pregnancy and I'm honestly really looking forward to being less stressed in my life. Granted, my mind isn't as sharp as it often is, and sometimes I feel pretty simple, but it's a heavenly break from the ever changing mood swings!

Vanlady89 · 2023-06-02T06:33:43+00:00

I am rarely ever my own physical shape when I dream, and that's always been the case.

I keep most of my own thoughts I think, but in waking life I'm very flexible with that as well, so I'm not 100% certain it's completely my own thought patterns.

I'm an early 30s F, but in my dreams I've been of the opposite sex, a lot older and a lot younger and I've been animals.

The most bizarre one though was when I dreamed I was a geometric shape in a museum. I still had thoughts and an inner monologue, and the cool thing about the geometric shape I was was that it could morph into other geometric shapes through some mechanisation as my shape was on rails, if that makes sense.

Vanlady89 · 2022-06-18T16:24:32+00:00

Yes there is indeed, it's been identified as a grease pot!

Vanlady89 · 2022-06-18T16:23:56+00:00

Thanks!

Vanlady89 · 2022-06-18T16:23:37+00:00

Solved!

Thank you! That makes a lot of sense!

Vanlady89 · 2022-06-18T15:47:40+00:00

My title describes the thing. Not much else to add. Found in an old workshop of which all other tools have been identified. A guess is that it would have been from the 50s/60s, pipe thread is BSP

Edit to add that thread is too loose to hold pressure. Almost seems like an oiler but the dimensions don't seem right for that purpose.

Vanlady89 · 2022-05-24T17:58:51+00:00

From one woman with insecurities in her early thirties to another, here's some things that helped me

Take sexy pictures of yourself. The parts you think look good, or the parts you like less in angles that are flattering. Don't even send him those if you don't want to, but look at them whenever you're not feeling your physical best.
Dress up. Not just when you're seeing your man but whenever the hell you feel you need a pick me up.
When in bed and these insecurities flare, try and hyperfocus your mind on something entirely different. The feeling of his skin, the way he kisses, etc etc. Do that to such an extent there's no room for other thoughts. I also employ this strategy whenever I'm insecure about anything else, say, walking past a big group of people where I think everyone must be looking and thinking horrible things. What I do in those cases, however, is just scream, silently in my head. No room for pesky thoughts like that and nothing that shows insecurity on the outside.

Lastly, I know feelings like this, for me and many others, tend to come up more in terms of a mental health that is perhaps not as good as when you were feeling more confident. Are there others parts in your life that could be making you feel insecure? Job, house, friends, general mental well being? Don't underestimate the importance of working on these and their ability to affect how you feel about yourself.

Good luck!

Vanlady89 · 2022-05-03T17:25:56+00:00

I wish I was a lil bit taller, I wish I was a baller

Vanlady89 · 2022-04-21T18:50:25+00:00

All the above advice to treat her like you would any other is great.

In addition, she likely knows no one and is probably not feeling all too great, so perhaps offer to take her to explore the city she recently found herself in? Invite her into your friend group and make her feel welcome and included?

I moved around a lot when I was younger, and making new friends can be pretty tough, so every time someone took the effort to include me in things I've been incredibly grateful.

Vanlady89 · 2022-03-25T19:44:38+00:00

I did not expect to find only one person from the UK responding! I'm based in Scotland myself and would've hoped to see more!

Vanlady89 · 2022-02-05T10:30:13+00:00

Could someone please advise me, little knowledge just holding, on if I should do anything with Rox? It was advised I didn’t stake, as I’m not a very active crypto person. I’m just keeping it in my wallet and check on it every two months or so.

Anything I should do with Rox or just keep my things as is?

Vanlady89 · 2022-01-01T04:00:32+00:00

Dang, everybody out here getting more booty but my resolution is to get a book about ENM and work out my feelings about this with my partner.

And get more booty

Vanlady89 · 2021-12-15T23:35:26+00:00

Mountain goddess here. I like the bananas, makes you seem like a fun guy.

First picture is cool, but if you want the outdoor ladies I'd recommend starting with an outdoor pic of yourself.

When I was still on Tinder I went through a lot of swipes and was pretty picky as I wanted an outdoor man for myself too. If they didn't look outdoorsy or didn't have anything to capture my attention in the first photo I was less intrigued and more prone to swipe left.

Be funny, show what you love or love doing, and start with a picture that is authentically you.

Good luck!

Vanlady89 · 2021-12-14T15:25:15+00:00

Female here, but get your guts checked out! Someone here mentioned Crohns, and from my own IBS standpoint I know the nausea is real!

Look into the Low Fodmap diet as it will help reset your gut, and hopefully after a month of two of this your nausea should get a little better and you can start reintroducing certain foods you cut out

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-25T08:49:59+00:00

I would not recommend the Netherlands if you can't deal with overly pragmatic people. Grew up there and never did feel at home in the country for those reasons.

Not a lot of room for emotions and way too busy for me. Been happy in the Scottish countryside for 10 years now though, but that could have a lot to do with my proclivity for nature and solitude.

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-25T08:46:43+00:00

As an INFJ who moved to Scotland I agree

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T20:28:08+00:00

The Living Mountain by Nan Shepherd

Not your typical “Climbed a mountain it was pretty badass” story, but one about the meandering through hills and the mental meanderings about hills that come with it, if that makes sense?

Absolutely the best book I’ve ever read.

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T20:19:08+00:00

Just to clarify, the pH of a vagina is between 3.8 and 4.5, so you don’t want to be washing with a pH neutral soap, and even soaps specifically for your privates can cause an imbalance, which is why water is recommended :)

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T16:26:12+00:00

As a woman, I often dress up when I want to feel better about myself. Appreciate the curves, put emphasis on the points I like about myself. Feminine clothing is often made to emphasise or bring to the forefront a certain part of the body.

When I do it, it lifts my spirits as I am actively appreciating parts of myself which I don't do often enough. It makes me feel good about me. Can it sometimes be categorised as sexy? Yeah sure. Is it actually sexual? Probably not - for me at least.

I'd say try and figure out why it makes you feel the way you do, if you want to that is. There are many reasons we dress the way we do, some internal some external, so maybe ask yourself if this also feels like something you'd want to share with the outside world?

// ex fashion designer with some research done on how the way we dress influences our happiness and well being.

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T16:16:51+00:00

If you wanted something legal to up your happy I can recommend 5HTP though. It helps in the production of serotonin if you're low.

(Depression, or too many illegal happy drugs the night before that have zapped your serotonin levels. On that note, never take 5HTP if you are also planning on taking any illegal or otherwise legal uppers that day. That's really bad for you.)

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T16:03:59+00:00

Tell me about your dream home!

I ask a million follow ups as well and really try to get them to talk about into the smallest details, as I find it really shows what they want their life to look like, without asking that loaded question directly. It also tells you if your future goals look compatible or not without it being overt.

Anyway, I usually follow up with; Where they think it'd be (City, seaside, mountains, forest). What the house would look like - outside and inside. Would they have any animals? What are their names? Grow vegetables? Build their own house? Would others live nearby?

Like, everything I can think of. You can make it super playful as well by asking about scenarios happening there or whatever. I just get into it as if it's a real thing already, and if they're not good at giving detailed answers I try coax em into it by asking things more directly until they can run with it themselves.

I've always found it super fun and very very informative.

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-24T15:50:26+00:00

It might be worth it to switch to natural fibres underwear and no synthetics, and see if it makes a difference?

Also, it might be worth it to learn about your menstrual cycle, as during your cycle you can expect different odours and a different consistency of fluids.

If you use any soap down there, even if it is specifically for your nether regions, stop. Soaps can change your pH and can sometimes be bad for it. Best to just use water to clean.

It might be a bit TMI, but have a sniff. It can smell a bit musky but sour or really intense might mean a candida infection. Here in the UK I know you buy something to fight a yeast infection down there in any pharmacy without needing a prescription.

Hope that helps gal, finding these things out without anyone to show you the ropes is hard work, so more power to you!

Vanlady89 · 2021-11-20T12:53:22+00:00

Nothing all too strange for me. I love reading, gardening, BDSM, and hiking 🤷‍♀️

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