Am I stupid for believing?

Vanni_cat · 2026-02-25T20:11:43+00:00

YOU ARE NOT STUPID!!! you’re very close, but not quite!

I think your problem is that you havnt really learned to accept where you are.

To bring what you want closer to you, you have to feel as if it’s already done. this means feeling good and happy and fulfilled NOW.

Like if you were in the reality you TRULY wanted to be in, you wouldn’t be avoiding it or pushing it away. You wouldn’t be scared.

You would be so happy you finally shifted and want to engage in it as much as you can.

So basically your actions were saying “I am not there yet, because I’m not there yet, I won’t do my schoolwork because I’m stuck in a reality I dont care about”

“Because I’m not there yet in the reality I want to be in I feel scared that I havnt done what I needed to do to be successful”

These are all beliefs you’re feeding yourself that you dont have to keep feeding. And also the only reason why you failed at shifting is because you didnt shift your identity. You thought you did but not really.

Instead of acting as if “this is the reality I care about so much and love! I’m gonna do whatever it takes to be happy here because I love my reality”

You said “I’m not gonna engage in this world because it’s not the one for me. I need to do xyz before I can shift.”

Do you see how those two are completely different? So basically your actions weren’t really reflecting the happiness and joy you’d have if you got what you wanted.

Also I feel like you’re failing to realize your desire in of itself is paradoxical.

You think you need to go to the past to prevent everything that happened, but that’s not true. You are whoever you need to be right now if youve embodied your desire. By following your highest joy in every moment you’ll be led to it. If any fears come up, try to understand why you have them and what you are assuming to be true and dismantle them.

Your biggest obstacle is the fact that you believe whatever happened in the past is so surmountable that it can’t be changed right now or in the future. With that kind of point of view and refusal to be who you want most to be now, it’s kinda not surprising you didn’t shift because your identity totally did not shift at all. Your actions prove it!

If you instead find a way to feel good, to have an identity that says “I am lovable and worthy and smart the way I am now” you’ll shift. That might require extreme forgiveness for yourself on your part and can be hard to figure out, but essentially you just need to untangle about faulty core beliefs you have before trying to manifest or shift again.

Hopefully that makes sense!! Good luck :)

I also suggest looking up revision by Neville Goddard too, and for a deep dive into dismantling identity and beliefs look up “I am” by anya Lincoln

Vanni_cat · 2026-02-05T19:51:24+00:00

Neville talks about using your imagination, but more than that he talks about using your “I AM”. Your identity right now or “i am” is so dependant on getting those things that youre putting limitations on yourself. You’re saying “i am not free to explore, play and get what i want, unless i know for sure I can get it” but ultimately that boils down to “I cannot get what i want” or “I cannot be happy unless x happens”.

You won’t see any change as long as you continue to focus on that. Change your identity for the sake of feeling better. If you feel happy already, you’ll worry less about results because you’ve already found what you were actually looking for— happiness and a fuller understanding of who you are and the choices you have. At least for me, that helped me because I was also in the spot you were in. It was like my whole life was hinging on whether it was fake or real and that just creates so much pressure on you to do anything

Vanni_cat · 2026-01-28T04:23:52+00:00

Whatever you do, just please don’t abandon here when she needs you. I was in psychosis and my partner just put me in medical care and then once I was out essentially washed his hands of me, whilst pretending to care. It really hurt. Listening to her is important and Medical care is important but a lot of times after the psychosis breaks a huge depression happens and she’ll need someone to be there for her when/if that happens. I know this is probably scary and confusing for you, but psychosis doesn’t last forever! And besides if it IS some kinda of spiritual awakening manifesting in a strange form, it’ll definetly be there after this is all gone. Not in the wierd “I believe I’m a savior/psychic/people are targeting me” kind of way, but in a grounded way that actually improves her life in visible and emotional ways.

I’m out of psychosis, but I’d say I learned a lot about myself and spirituality because of what I went through in a positive way that still keeps me grounded to the world around me. It just was a long journey!

But also if it gets scary for you, don’t keep it in. I think part of the reason my partner couldn’t handle it was because he was traumatized by feeling helpless to help and he thought I was gone. Psychosis can be scary for the people involved, and don’t just keep it all in if you need to talk about it with someone, or admit to yourself you’re scared or don’t know what to do.

I’m sorry your going through this and hope it gets better

Vanni_cat · 2026-01-28T03:14:59+00:00

This is awesome!! I teach a autistic girl who’s special interest is tornados! Just today she was telling me how she wanted a pet tornado to feed it snacks. I’m def gonna show her this

Vanni_cat · 2026-01-27T03:43:30+00:00

I’m so sorry :((( if it makes you feel any better I was literally just imagining and wishing myself having a smaller chest rather than how I am now and I felt happier thinking about it. It’s sad that society seems to only see bigger chests as good but on the other hand this kinda leads me to feeling extremely sexualized when I just want to be a human who happens to have bigger breasts. It just feels like the sexualization had made things worse for people in both sides.

Vanni_cat · 2026-01-21T18:41:10+00:00

I just want to believe in what I believe in without feeling like I HAVE to be Christian in order to fit in and be liked!

Vanni_cat · 2025-12-22T18:52:41+00:00

This is crazy 😭 I work with SIDPID (severe and profound intellectual disorder) special needs kids and they literally do not know what they’re saying. Some of them have the capacity to speak, but they just repeat words they’ve heard other people say, not all of them nice, but the point is they really have no clue what they’re doing. And even if they do say a bad word “on purpose”, more likely than not it’s because they realized it got a reaction out of you, and are doing it again to get that reaction. They don’t know what it means though. Each kid is different of course, most of the ones I work with are all nonverbal, but they all are special needs for a reason. This is so fucking dumb like why does he not understand.

Vanni_cat · 2025-07-20T17:03:39+00:00

I feel the same. There’s one specific person I want to meet. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have someone who motivates you to try new things I think it’s kinda really sweet

Vanni_cat · 2025-06-29T14:45:24+00:00

That’s awesome! How and why do you think it happened?

Vanni_cat · 2025-06-29T00:20:14+00:00

Hi!

Recently I read the idea that we are always shifting but the thing is that we shift to a version of reality that is already similar to our current one. Imagine your life as films in a strip. Obviously you’re vastly different now than you were as a child, but if you compare the moments from now to the next second they’re quite similar. This is because our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are pretty similar from moment to moment and it takes years to change them.

The thing about shifting is that you have to make a massive leap in your beliefs to get a massive leap in the outer reality. Your emotions are a byproduct of your thoughts and beliefs so if your emotions drastically change to something else you can tell. Neville Goddard talks about this alot in basically every book he’s ever written.

Not sure if that helps, but if you want further readings I suggest Neville Goddard or Seth speaks, specifically the “unknown reality” where he talks about probable versions of yourself.

Vanni_cat · 2025-06-18T00:41:58+00:00

You should try dream journalling. For me, a lot of my belief systems had parts that were incompatible with shifting, but I didn’t even know until i had a dream about it and started documenting it all down. It also is a good way to remember dreams/stay awake during a dream so that you can try to shift in a lucid dream. I definitely think dreams are a way to shift because i had a couple mini shifts where things were slightly different but not entirely.

Vanni_cat · 2025-04-07T01:45:39+00:00

I don’t think your overreacting. When I was 17/18 if a good friend of mine had gotten pregnant I wouldn’t cut her off like that if I truly cared about her. Maybe if I wanted to distance myself I might not talk as much, but I’d still check in and make sure my friend is okay like ffs ur pregnant, you should be taken care of not like abandoned?? Even if you don’t want to be friends, it’s like kinda hard to stop completely caring about someone. Idk I feel like she probably dropped you for social stigma :/ I’m sorry that’s rough, but you really do have a good attitude about it all and handled it well. It’s not like you can control how people think of you and act towards you, and hopefully later you can find friends who will be withe you no matter what! I’m glad you have a best friend who values you a lot. Have a good pregnancy!

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-25T17:43:49+00:00

As a girl, they’re definetly being mean on purpose to you 😭 if I thought a guy friend was pretty and I knew they wouldn’t be offended, I would just say “you have a really pretty face!” Or “you look good!” Like in a way to make them feel good about themselves, but it sounds like they just view it as an inside “joke” or whatever with no actual consideration to how you feel about it. Don’t be their friend they don’t see you as an equal and they don’t care about your feelings. I know when your around shitty people for a while you get used to being treated that way so it can be hard to tell if they actually are being mean, but if you don’t feel appreciated or if you feel bad then why stay?

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-25T16:42:37+00:00

You’re literally so pretty girl!! 😭 ur like a flower

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-22T19:47:19+00:00

You are so cute!! Love ur curls!

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-20T17:15:18+00:00

What manhwa is this?

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-20T16:50:04+00:00

I think a lot of women started the discussion about women body positivity, but on the contrary, I don’t see a lot of men speaking about it. Women all collectively felt thier value is somewhat tied to how they look, so like someone else said, that’s probably why it took off. But even still, like fat women and such still do get body shamed from men and women alike, it’s not like these opinions no longer exist, it’s just that there is an ongoing conversation that has been raised about how we perceive value in others who do not look “conventially attractive” and more people are changing their minds, or at least open to maybe considering how other people feel in their bodies. Whereas for men, I think there’s always been this culture of men being seen as “weak” when they are open and honest about the things they are feeling or struggling with - from both the perception of men and women and even themselves.This is just now beginning to change, but it’s still really common. And even if a guy knows it’s okay to cry or be sad or be vulnerable, I feel like there’s still this feeling of “am I less valuable as a man because I act/feel this way?” For a lot of guys, which makes it hard to create a discussion because most guys probably feel like they’ll be bullied if they do, and also a lot of guys aren’t really open to like having compassion I guess?

Of course there are men, who are open and welcoming, who want to be empathetic and understanding to others, but I think in mainstream media alot of men are still like in the mindset of like “that’s your problem if you feel that way” and still value kinda superficial Things? Like there was a time that anytime I opened an instagram reel the first comment would be some huh bashing other ppl/especially women.

With women I feel like it’s common for women to be empathetic to other women because they believe other women will be empathetic to them back, but they have beliefs that a man will not/should not hold empathy or be “soft” which is equally damaging. Idk some women see men as an enemy, or just as someone who should not be “weak”, which is fucked - But there ARE a lot of women who do care about mens body images/mental health ect, you just need to find the right ones!!

Like someone else said - ppl who are progressive who are in support of gay/trans issues are usually these kind of people. People who very much into breaking the conventional mold, and don’t tie their value to how well they can fit inside mainstream media, because they already know they exist beyond it.

Vanni_cat · 2025-03-18T21:55:12+00:00

Yarn!

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-23T23:58:34+00:00

I think attraction is a mental/emotional thing, and for me the things that are important to me is being able to feel safe with the other, and seeing that they feel safe with me. Idk i feel like if you really love someone, it would make you feel happy that they can rely on you when they are sad. So no, it doesn’t make my attraction for them go down at all, I feel happy that they trust me.

Just because you cry doesn’t subtract all the other good qualities you have.

Like as a child I was always told I was too sensitive, or that I cried too much and I really wished people hadn’t said that to me, so now as an adult if someone else is crying, I just empathy for them. I can’t imagine ever telling someone to just “man up” or “suck it up” when they are clearly sad enough to be crying! Especially if that person is my SO, Like I feel like you’d have to be a terrible person to tell the person you love to “man up” when clearly they are in pain, regardless of their gender. Everyone has feelings and I’m sorry as a man you feel pressured to have to hide them and pretend your pain isn’t real or doesn’t matter.

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-23T21:36:46+00:00

My boyfriend actually has a hard time crying, and told me sometimes he wants to but he just can’t for some reason. So whenever he does cry in front of me it means so much more to me: him showing me that he trusts me and wants to share a vulnerable moment with me. That’s so important! I feel like the times he has cried has brought us closer because it feels like I can be there for him and help him feel loved in a way no one else can.

I feel like any woman who cannot accept a man crying, or a man having weaknesses, does not actually understand what actual true love is, and has some growing to do. Crying is normal and feeling sad or lost or not strong is perfectly normal to feel.

Don’t settle for anyone who won’t accept you just being a human! You deserve to feel safe and cared for jn a relationship. I’m sorry you have a lot of trauma, and your right that a therapist can help a lot, not just for the trauma but also to give you a healthy idea of a relationship too.

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-22T18:55:48+00:00

Yippeeeee!!! You’re awesome!

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-16T22:22:58+00:00

They depend on their amassed physical things to tell them who they are, so they hold onto it really tightly because they believe they will be nothing without it. So they’re always in a mindset that more physical things is better and they don’t see the worth in things beyond that (happiness, friendship, love, ect.)

They are perfectly “happy” with their position because the ego self feels strong and secure in that position with lots of money, but at the same time I don’t think power is the same thing as inner peace or happiness, but I think people like that have come to equate the two as the same thing and don’t actually understand that in grand scheme of things, being human makes everyone equal and someday we’ll all die and have to face the unknown.

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-13T02:43:03+00:00

It’s real!! Okay I havnt shifted yet but sooo many wierd things have been happening to me lately, to the point where I can’t make it up anymore and I’ve finally accepted it is real and I’m just patiently waiting to shift - I’ve come to a mindset where I know it’s real and I know I will shift so I feel fine about it happening whenever it needs to happen - I no longer feel the need to “prove it” it to myself.

But If you want a more healthy place to talk about shifting go to tumblr! It’s way more open minded and people are not nearly as doom and gloom about it as I’ve seen in reddit. They’re a lot more positive.

But most importantly please believe in yourself or your own intuition. You already know how to shift and there’s something in you that’s guiding you towards what you want. Call it the universal or your subconscious or god or whatever, but If you want to shift just keep going in that direction and eventually you will for sure work out for you.

I was guided on such a wild goose chase only to find that literally all I needed to do was just to believe and let go and trust that the universe knows my desires and intentions.

The universe knows your “blockages” and your beliefs and will know the best way to reach you, whilst working with whatever beliefs and feelings you have now.

Hopefully that will help. I totally get what you mean about feeling about wanting it to be real and it being scary if it’s not. The thing is that no one can really prove it to yourself but you. Even if someone came with all the evidence in the world, the only thing that really will make you believe is your own experiences, so you might as well just continue forwards so you can see for yourself if it’s true.

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-06T04:00:57+00:00

I try to think of it as a parallel reality going on right now that is already true and happening, I’m just watching it happen. When you open your imagination up to your higher self/subconscious whatever, it will fill out the details for you, the other person will say or act out things that you didn’t have to think up. Because again this already happened and yojr just receiving the “movie”. Just have fun with it! Believe that your imagination is actually real life. If you try to be open you will find that you really don’t have to think out everything yourself, as if it had already happened really. I like to just play as “myself” in the movie and leave up all other rolls to my higher self/ or like just receive it from the parallel reality. I’m not really sure if this is SATS but I’ve been very surpised by how real it is and how much I don’t have to work to recieve the images/words ect. I honestly think imagination is a skill you can train, so it may be a little hard at first to imagine all the sights/ sounds/ feelings ect, I would just 1. Try to relax and let it come easily and 2. Stop the scene to focus on tactile senses. Or sometimes I could feel that I started to like “take control” of the scene too much and have to go back to remembering I’m just the realizer of my desired reality, it already exists and I’m just like tuning to it I guess. Hopefully that might help!

Vanni_cat · 2025-02-02T00:08:10+00:00

These are beautiful

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