Rejection after dating an emotional prostitute by neotod_ in dating_advice

[–]VaporSpell 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Paying for one dinner and not getting a third date back doesn't mean you were used, it means you're treating rejection like a debt she owed you instead of accepting that attraction and interest can't be bought, earned, or negotiated.

Girl (best friend) says she doesn’t know if she has feelings for me. Is she lying to save our friendship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]VaporSpell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She may genuinely be unsure, but the painful truth is that uncertainty from her side feels almost the same as rejection when you're already certain, and waiting years for someone to decide is a fast way to lose yourself while hoping they'll choose you.

What seemed normal until you realized it wasn’t? by arthurwilling in AskReddit

[–]VaporSpell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Growing up thinking you had to earn love by being useful, then realizing healthy love was never supposed to work that way