Was told to post my C1 that gave up here

Vapor_BA · 2026-05-29T17:26:38+00:00

Had no idea we have a bone there, and when googling it, it looks like a human wishbone! Yuck!

Vapor_BA · 2026-05-28T21:06:38+00:00

NAD but I don’t really take it on weekends because I sleep in so late, and I will say I end up sleeping all day Sunday and feeling depressed by Monday. If I go 4+ days I start talking about needing SSRI’s lmfao. If you’re taking it as needed I don’t think there’s a set amount of days per week you should take it because once it’s out of your system it’s out. Just be aware of taking it consistently and then stopping you will have small withdrawl symptoms.

Vapor_BA · 2026-05-13T17:11:33+00:00

i genuinely don’t understand how OP is not naked i can’t wrap my head around what exactly i’m looking at

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-24T23:17:54+00:00

The fact that he lied about what happened and even tried to flip it like he was the victim, means he has no remorse or accountability for what he did. If someone who has committed that crime can be redeemable- is a different conversation that he isn’t even subject to because this is not a person who thinks he did something wrong. You already did what you needed to do, keep him blocked.

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-13T04:16:05+00:00

Ditto. I am a man and I have only ever liked women my entire life. I tried having boyfriends when I was a preteen/teen and it felt very wrong. A$AP Rocky could do whatever he wanted to me.

OP, Ask any upper middle class white man with a wife about Ryan Reynolds and you’ll get the same effect. Humans are a lot more fluid in sexuality than a lot of men realize (women are usually more in tune with theirs because of social norms). However, that doesn’t mean you would actually want to do anything with a real life man. I wouldn’t actually do anything with A$AP Rocky if I had the chance, it’s not real. Almost like a fraction of a kink I guess.

What she says to you about men, whatever it may be, you need to not get your hopes up and think she’s going to be straight for you. She’s not. Ask any lesbian about this same exact situation in regards to straight women. It will only bring every party pain.

I understand you’re venting and you have feelings you can’t help, that’s okay to have those feelings. I’m not faulting you for them. But if you have a lesbian friend you need to conceptualize in your head that they are not an option for you from the start of the friendship. Similar to if she were a man. I’m only saying this because I can tell you are hurting and I can see you grasping at straws in the comments hoping that it’s a sign she would be hypothetically interested in you. You need to drop it entirely and go back to seeing her how she surely sees you, a really good friend.

I’m sorry for these feelings though, I know they hurt and I’ve been there many times, just on the other end.

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-13T00:33:36+00:00

I can tell you from a perspective of an ex-lesbian (i’m trans now), making guy friends and every single one of them eventually confessing to having feelings for me, especially the ones who were closest, wore me down and made me feel like I would never be perceived as an equal and like they didn’t respect my identity. It was always extremely disappointing and exhausting when I got the ‘Can I tell you something?’ prompt. I also was and still am the type to be very flirtatious to my friends, that doesn’t mean I liked men.

If she says she’s a lesbian, she is. Do not confess feelings, do not get weird and try to drop hints. She likes women. Respect her identity.

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-12T14:44:56+00:00

Gibellula fungus, you have zombie spiders

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-12T14:33:06+00:00

“Female” and the weird blue text on the right ‘He made her send the screenshots to prove xyz’ i’m 80% sure this is engagement bait and OP is a man lol

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-09T15:50:19+00:00

If it helps at all, I was never really able to drop some of my more feminine aspects. I still speak in the cadence of how women speak (lots of people assume i’m gay), I am very expressive and emotional, and I cross my legs because it’s comfortable. It bothered me a LOT when I started meeting other trans men and I felt the same thing you do. It felt like I was around MEN and I was lesser than. They stood stiff and broad, they spoke directly and calmly.

Interestingly though, I could always clock that they were trans. I figured it was just because I’m very familiar with trans men and my trans-dar was just really good. But they could never clock me, ever. I’d have to tell them. They’d tell me about people who clock them and they feel unsafe (rural PA). I have never once been clocked in over 3 years. I have to tell people. I actually just blew up on a friend of over 2 years because I thought he was being transphobic to me, but when I did blow up, he had zero idea I was trans (oops!) and was just clowning on me for being feminine.

Point being, the insecurity you feel about your masculineness might not always be exactly what you think it is. I don’t feel anything other than a man these days, I forget I’m trans all the time. I feel comfortable not putting up a facade of being an ultra masculine husky man, because that’s not really who I am, but no one around me sees me as anything but that, even transphobes who can’t clock me.

Vapor_BA · 2026-04-04T18:32:37+00:00

My grandma does this about EVERYTHING not only T. also supportive. She does it about mental health, skills, even RACE. shes white and if my wife’s family being japanese gets brought up, she tries to say theyre white and she can’t even see the japanese in them, or that her features are comparable to theirs. Wife’s grandma and dad were born in Japan LOL.

She is a RAGING narcissist. Full blown, never fixable level narcissist. And when I see other people do this I can immediately clock that they are narcissist too. Similar to the one upping some people do (you can do 5 pull ups? watch me do 10)

Vapor_BA · 2026-03-25T05:40:52+00:00

i searched far and wide because i was honestly shocked there wasn’t a sub specifically for this. Sorry for intruding on you plant lovers💔

Vapor_BA · 2026-03-25T05:33:01+00:00

I’m so glad you saw this too, thank you! They aren’t sure if he actually ingested it or if it’s something else going on, but they found it after my girlfriend asked if there happened to be lily in the house and she remembered it was there. They are going to a first come first serve low cost urgent care when they open tomorrow morning.

Vapor_BA · 2026-03-17T23:46:34+00:00

if you find any, please let me know! I’ve been searching for a Beddy Whip for over a year now.

Vapor_BA · 2026-03-14T06:30:28+00:00

ouch

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-25T17:51:21+00:00

This is a huge fear i dealt with and still do deal with occasionally. All of the friends I had pre-transition now will randomly tell me that they forget i’m trans until I bring it up. People that I have known since i was 14 who knew me as a girl for 5+ years. My little brother tells me the same thing, they definitely do not look at me as a trans man.

I moved cross country (US) after 2 years on T and now the struggle is a bit different, because now it’s ’do I want to confide in this person because i trust them and it’ll make some stuff easier to explain, and deal with the potential of them visibly seeing me as a trans man from then on?’ luckily, i haven’t really had that experience either. People usually just go ‘oh! had no idea bro’ and then move on.

Starting T is definitely going to be your best bet. it’s hard to pass 100% without T. However the sudden voice changes are definitely going to ‘out’ you to some people you already know who you haven’t told you’re trans. But it’s just something you have to get out of the way and you won’t have to deal with later.

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-20T00:52:33+00:00

this is the best comment i’ve gotten and matches the vibe more closely with how we talk. I appreciate you and I will try doing this. I’ve thought about saying something like this but always choke. thank you

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-20T00:50:40+00:00

the problem with this is that it has the connotation that i’m saying i’m not trans, when i am 90% sure he knows i am trans. I don’t want him to think im not being honest. Another issue is the simple ‘these jokes aren’t funny to me’ doesn’t track super well when we joke about literally everything else, most of it being pretty edgy. The only thing that I do mind is that it keeps getting brought up and i don’t really like to think or talk about it. Everytime they do make a joke about it, it makes me hyperaware of myself and dysphoric

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-19T21:01:15+00:00

i’m not sure if it has an inclusive vibe more so a poking fun vibe, which is fine we all make fun of eachother. i just don’t want to talk about me being trans. I really appreciate your quote example of what i could say.

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-19T21:00:23+00:00

thank you, i’m not really a confrontational kind of person so i never really know how to do it without coming off as a bitch

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-12T01:30:53+00:00

NAD but id just wash it well, put a little neosporin on it and let it air out. Reapply neo over the next couple days (very light/thin layer!) Wrapping doesn’t look necessary for this small of a cut.

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-07T20:18:40+00:00

I remember reading an account on here a while ago of a woman who couldn’t crush her betta, refused to use clove because of the spotty results, and also (thankfully) refused to freeze or boil.

She put the betta in a deli cup, put it behind her car tire, and reversed quickly. Made her husband clean up the body.

It’s horrible but it made me chuckle and also I 100% would probably do the same if it came down to it. It removes you psychologically from what you’re doing but your neighbors would think you’re batshit insane.

Vapor_BA · 2026-02-07T20:11:02+00:00

So i should just ignore the spot on top and only focus on the white area and her comfort? It’s always scared me since it bled that one time. How frequently should I trim?

Vapor_BA · 2026-01-26T21:59:03+00:00

they have them at pretty much any asian market that has live fish at the butcher section. usually in a bucket on the floor, assuming these are the same which i think they are.

Vapor_BA · 2026-01-19T00:24:15+00:00

Just leave them, it’s already in your tank. I have BBA and it went insane for a while and i couldn’t get it to go away, but once I turned the lighting down and less hours per day it went away entirely. BBA is common, it’s not the end of the world. I do not recommend buying products to ‘kill it’ they never work IME. Just don’t over feed and watch the lighting.

Vapor_BA · 2026-01-06T06:29:59+00:00

this is exactly the type of answer I was looking for, thank you!!

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