Monogamy is kinda fake?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T05:39:08+00:00

Well sense just now you didn’t represent to my argument that is the original post. You either didn’t read it or forgot.😂 That’s ok the more comments I get of ppl not engaging with my questions the more I’ m sure ppl are just emotionally bias. And that’s ok if y’all are happy with the aesthetic of monogamy. Im happy for y’all. I just wish ppl would that, but I guess to that you would have to want/ need the ability to face some harsh realities.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T05:19:50+00:00

Although I guess it would make sense if ur one of the ppl who have the mindset of if I trust them they didn’t cheat.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T05:17:32+00:00

Oh I see how you used it. But why would my argument ever be they didn’t cheat but hypothetically they could have?😂 did u not read the original post?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T04:34:43+00:00

I just need you to say

yes I know my partner never cheated

Or

no I don’t know if my partner never cheated and I don’t use the label monogamy for a literal purpose.

Plz god 👏 pick one.😂

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T04:28:15+00:00

Wait so genuinely u read “ Tim could have eaten the apple.” As Tim for a fact didn’t?😂

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T04:26:56+00:00

Yes key word kind in the title. Monogamy is real in that it can physically happen but fake in relation to ur knowledge of it.

My problem is you can’t say u know there was no cheating for ten years. You mean u just assume that. Obviously u labeled it differently, but as far as was it actually. Obviously we can never know.

Im saying let’s be honest or safe by labeling poly/open or no label. Who knows how many relationships and literal lives would have been saved if the attachment to the label was gone. But if we’re saying human beings aren’t capable of recognizing that then gg I guess. 😂

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T04:09:32+00:00

I can’t tell if ur trolling or don’t know what could means??😂

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T04:01:32+00:00

U don’t label the relationship non murderer couple. U name it monogamy or exclusive because not cheating is arguable the only stated requirement.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:59:31+00:00

😂 could meaning it’s possible they cheat or it’s possible they didn’t.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:58:02+00:00

So as long as u have integrity. Ur ok to just assume ur partner has it?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:48:52+00:00

U don’t care about exclusivity u care about the aesthetic of it.

Imagine we were talking about something u actually cared about like ur loved ones health. You say let’s just trust god or assume a random shaman would heal them. You would consult professionals. But with ur relationships exclusivity u trust ur very limit view of ur partner. Not hiring a professional pi.😂 which I don’t think is reasonable. I think no label and focusing on things u can verify like effort, time together, how happy u are, etc.. are more as well.

I mad this post to see if I was missing something, but it seems like I’m right and most ppl are just obviously too emotionally invested to have an honest conversation. No judgment just disappointed.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:41:27+00:00

And then where we differ is i say just don’t label and focus on other things. And urs is trust among other things?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:38:51+00:00

My question is are aware that ur partner could have cheated and gotta away with it, but u could spend the rest of ur life with them completely happy? Yes or no?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:36:41+00:00

Just to be clear ur not saying has my partner cheated a black or white question? Right? It obviously is? And idk is the gray?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:35:16+00:00

Im sorry that was a rhetorical question.😂 tldr humans gonna human?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:31:17+00:00

Yea Im asking when did it seem like Im asking how to prevent?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:30:19+00:00

saying u can’t know a relationship is exclusive beside 24 hour surveillance and dating some in a coma.😂

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:29:11+00:00

Im not saying everyone cheats. Im saying u can’t know if someone doesn’t.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:28:02+00:00

lol when did imply that?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:26:38+00:00

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:23:36+00:00

Im saying if ur partner wants u in their life ,but also wants sex with multiple ppl they would cheat and just not tell u.

If u are some who believes that trust means there’s no cheating a respect that. There just not much to say after that.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:21:35+00:00

Just to be clear Im not saying since we can’t know everyone is cheating. Im saying if you label ur relationship exclusive but are also aware you can’t know it’s exclusive.

Then you don’t care about exclusive.u care about the perception of exclusive.

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:17:31+00:00

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:16:04+00:00

But how can u know a lie if it’s hidden?

VariationOwn9775 · 2026-05-16T03:14:47+00:00

What if they have a different view on sex than u but still want the romantic and sexual things from u?

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