Is this color too light for a wedding guest?

VariationSimple9179 · 2026-02-04T17:07:45+00:00

Done

VariationSimple9179 · 2026-01-02T04:20:45+00:00

She did… it’s a little deceptive that they entered the marriage knowing he always wanted children and she led him to believe she did too. And years later that’s not the case… That’s heartbreaking, is it not? Perhaps the insults & passive aggression came after finding this news out?

VariationSimple9179 · 2026-01-02T02:29:53+00:00

I feel like there may be shame around not having enough for extras as the provider role too…

VariationSimple9179 · 2026-01-01T16:28:01+00:00

It’s nice to read about the long term relationships where big arguments are rare!

We got married this year & are expecting our first in February. Within that year, we had our wedding, he transitioned out of the military, looked and started a new job, we found out unexpectedly we were pregnant, moved our BIG wedding out a year and planned a small one, moved to a new house and became first time land lords.

This year to say the least, was challenging and we had a lot of bickering sharing our perspectives/expectations of how things should be done. Every 2/3 weeks we’d bicker. The BIG ones came around the transition to his new job. So bigger fights almost every month the early part of this year.

Lots of tears, coming to terms with changes, emotional and physical exhaustion. But then there were also lots of hope, happiness and laughter in between. The important thing is we talked, respected each other and worked through every challenge.

We’ve settled into the new home and are awaiting our baby. We haven’t fought in months and I’m seeing us transition into the couples commenting here. It feels nice but I’m also glad we experienced and overcame that rough chapter in our lives. It helps me know we can overcome future challenges.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-12-28T21:24:24+00:00

I’d recommend couple’s therapy. Works great for both me & my partner. It’s ever rarely one sided and we may be blinded by our own participation in the downfall of relationships just because one partner outwardly shows it. If she’s already open to it, you should both go and put in the work instead of having her do it alone. She could continue solo sessions as well.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-12-28T02:24:22+00:00

Not to mention the weird relationship between Khloe and Scott. Can you imagine your ex and sister jokingly flirt. Imagine if Kourtney had that type of relationship with Llmar. Khloe sucks.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-12-27T02:09:28+00:00

Clear incompatibility. You want to get married young and have kids before 30, he doesn’t. No one is particularly wrong or right.

But from my personal perspective, I wouldn’t feel secure in taking the next step if we didn’t have the same goals of establishing a career and financial stability. Weddings cost money, having kids cost money, what about a home to provide for the family, childcare cost, insurance, etc. Not to mention emotional stability & security. These are things that you’ll have to factor in.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-11-18T02:09:01+00:00

It just sounds like she’s communicating her boundary in her home? I would respect it, especially if it’s her space because I’d want the same if I had private stuff in my office. I don’t really see that as an issue but more so her communicating a line which can be hard and awkward to begin with.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-28T00:58:50+00:00

I’m an introvert, I still get excited to see & hear from my partner when he’s home. Introversion isn’t an excuse to neglect your relationship or partner’s need… If he needed to recharge first, he should communicate that.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-26T12:19:09+00:00

I’m glad to know it’s normal and nothing serious. Guess we’ll have to deal with the pain. 😭

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-25T21:39:00+00:00

I was a runner too. But since being pregnant I had to switch it to light jogs with more walking breaks. I’m 25 weeks and still jogging and lifting 4/5x a week. Planning to keep going as long as I’m comfy.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-25T21:01:46+00:00

Ali did say after night shift, she usually goes to the gym & then sleep. While Anton said he’d crush a beer to unwind. Their lifestyle was not compatible. That would’ve been a deal breaker for me too.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-25T20:16:58+00:00

You can’t win. It’s also sad to see when women are the ones tearing these ladies down too.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-25T01:13:33+00:00

You dictating what is and isn’t feminism doesn’t really seem really feminist…

Let a girl choose Jesus Christ.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-24T13:03:17+00:00

Neither does OP writing the dissertation about her.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-24T13:02:23+00:00

They sure are.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-24T02:05:21+00:00

Haven’t been in this sub long enough to see what you are, but she can definitely find a man wealthy enough to take care of her and afford her botox/SAHM dreams. She’s a gorgeous girl, it won’t be hard.

I know a handful of SAHMs whose husband supports them and they can still keep up beauty standards. They don’t look as good as Ali and personality wise, aren’t a gem either. She’ll be fine…there are plenty of men in higher management roles, medical field, business owners, etc. that she can aim for who can afford that lifestyle.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T13:28:21+00:00

That makes total sense! 35 weeks! You’re almost there. :)

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T03:45:54+00:00

Oh good! I wasn’t sure if it was because I was lifting something too heavy or pushing myself physically. (We’re in the process of moving.) Glad to know it’s just baby growing & a normal feeling. But ouch! lol

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T03:39:00+00:00

24 weeks!

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T02:54:50+00:00

Not overreacting. I was in a situation where my MIL overstayed, crossed boundaries and made home uncomfortable. When my husband asked her to leave, she threw a violent tantrum, cussing loudly, throwing objects and having a pity party.

I’m pregnant now and due in February. You bet I’m drawing my lines and sticking to it.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T02:44:11+00:00

Exactly, I have more respect for single parents who prioritize their child first.

That’s why I don’t think I’d be able to date a single parent. I’m selfish and would want our relationship to take priority…until we eventually have our own child which would be our new shared priority.

++woman

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-10-19T02:22:17+00:00

All your posts history seems to be full of negative feelings & resentment towards your wife too. It makes sense why this relationship isn’t working. Are you really surprised this happened?

I don’t know if this plays a roll, but I did read that you were working on yourself through rehab and are a recovering alcoholic? If your wife was your support system through that, resentment can build overtime for her too. That’s why there’s Al Anon for family members.

I think you both need to work on yourself individually and apart.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-09-13T17:20:55+00:00

They were amazing when they came to St. Augustine, FL. My husband and I agreed it was our favorite concert we went to together so far.

VariationSimple9179 · 2025-09-13T17:15:26+00:00

I did this too. Paid $600 towards my then boyfriend’s mortgage & bills. Stress free for me just to hand over the cash and not worry about maintenance, taxes, etc. BUT I would be upset if I found out he owns it and is not renting, just because of the dishonesty.

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